That's what some people believe in. Is this overrated or is it underrated?
We all have our impressions of raising our children. We have different perspectives and we definitely have different circumstances. Parents only want the best for their children. Well, at least that's what I presume.
Should a mother be in the blame for her child's misconduct? Should a father be in the blame for his child's mischief? Or should the child be solely responsible for his own mistakes?
Some have horrendous, unsupportive and uninvolving parents, those that we consider as BAD parents, but kids still possess good morals and are good individuals. And some are blessed to have loving, caring and ever-supportive parents, parents that never fail to provide nurture and structure, parents that are always there in times of need but (kids) commit mistakes (from few to many)... Mistakes that can sometimes be just a slight/simple wickedness and sometimes one huge depravity or worst, immorality and/or crime. Some parents are innocent, some are sinful, both types may have good and/or bad kids depending on the possibilities. No one knows what a type of child a parent will have regardless of whether the parent is either good or bad.
My opinion is that it can be the parents' shortcoming why their kid commits a mistake. 'Why? Why is it my fault? I never failed to teach/guide him to what's right and wrong? Why blame me for my child's frailties and faults?' you might be asking.
Let me justify my opinion. I respect that you believe you never failed to look after your child and that you did your best to guide and teach them all these years. Maybe, just maybe, we forgot something that might have helped them a little bit more. Or maybe we overdid something that caused such behavior. There are things we do out of love for our children that lead them to such failures without us realizing it. We aren't perfect. Nobody is. But clearly, we did or did not do something without even realizing it.
But as I said, there are different cases regarding this matter. I am a parent myself. And I know how difficult it is to raise a child. And I also know how hurtful it is to be blamed by their children's mistakes. If you think you failed, it is never TOO late to make things right. It's better late than never, right?
I remember my husband telling me that kids have that built-in attitude in them.. which I think is also true. I have observed some kids from the way they act against other kids and other people. Even if you don't teach a child anything, they have it in their minds... it's a very unique thing for every child..some are good but others are a little off which parents should look into. As much as possible mold these children while they are very young..