When is the best time to give up and move on? Is there even the best time to do so if you really like or love what you do or the person? Aren't we supposed to fight for something (or someone) we love?
Giving up isn't as easy as we think it is. It takes a lot of courage and it needs the right mindset for you to truly move forward. It's as hard as forgiving if you ask me. That's why many people chose to resist rather than give up. I mean, there's nothing wrong about fighting for what you want. You know yourself better than anyone else. But like other things, there's always a limitation. A boundary that tells you to stop. A thin line that says you need to pause and think again.
Giving up doesn't always mean you're weak. It doesn't always mean you lack in something. Giving up is not always bad. Instead, sometimes giving up means you're brave. Brave enough to cut the rope. Brave enough to choose peace instead. Sometimes, giving up means you are ready for much better things that's why you're refusing to fight for less. Sometimes, giving up is good for your soul, it's healthier for you.
So this is a case-to-case basis. Depends on what you are giving up and what you are willing to end, what you are willing to desist. It may not always be pleasing to other people's eyes, but that's okay. It's you who's taking the risk and it's you who knows what's best for yourself emotionally. You may ask for advice but in the end, it will always be your decision and no one should judge you for that.
So when is the best time to give up exactly? Seriously, honestly, I really don't know. It really depends on many levels. But I know that when it's no longer healthy when you're hurt so much already that it affects you physically, mentally, and emotionally so much, you should consider giving up. I know that if the risk is not worth it, consider giving up. If it's no longer giving you inspiration and you're not happy, consider giving up. If you've tried long enough and made all efforts and are still stuck, consider giving up. But before you give up, take a pause and think very carefully.
Acceptance is the key. If you're willing to give up on something, you have to accept the fact that what you're giving up is less than the better thing you are willing to fight for. Accept that you are actually doing it. Accept that it wasn't really meant for you. Accept that you lost in that fight. Yes, you lost but that's okay because there is something better for you and losing doesn't mean you're a loser. Accept that you need to step back to move forward. Accept so you can move forward.
It's tricky most of the time, though. Sometimes, you just need to push a little more to achieve the thing you gave up for but then you gave up the wrong time. That's why I said, it's hard. Giving up without even thinking about it is also foolish. With that being said, I think, the best time to give up is when you already exerted all your effort and when you gave it already a good fight but still not making progress and when it's already too draining for you.
Give it a little time. Think about it hard. Make a list of whys and why not to give up. Don't make sudden decisions. Don't rush yourself. Meditate. Ask for guidance. It's okay not to be okay. It's okay to be sad. It's okay to process things. Give up when you think it's the right time and right decision. Give up if you think it's healthier for you. Take time to process the facts and take time to decide.