Some people demand trust like it's their privilege. Like, they're entitled to be trusted in an instant. What they don't realize is that trust is earned. Trust is given to those who earned it. And if you were given at least the benefit of the doubt, you should be grateful and you have to prove to that person that you are worth the risk.
Trusting someone instantly is risky. You don't know whether it's the right thing to do for you and/or that person or if you're giving someone the power to abuse you. Just like loving someone, trusting someone is also a way people can have the potential to abuse you. This can be because you are blinded by how they project themselves or by how others project that person.
Choosing to trust someone is the most precious gift you can give them alongside love. You can't trust someone you don't care about. This may sound contradicting to what I was saying earlier about instantly trusting someone. You may not realize it but the truth is you must've cared for that person enough to give your trust to him. Or maybe you don't but clearly, you cared about SOMETHING ABOUT that person. Just like I said, you may be blinded. Being blind does not just mean being blinded by the person but also about things around him. So, giving your trust has something to do with caring. And care varies on different things to each of us.
Now, giving your trust to someone who has already proven they can't be trusted is another story. Trusting someone who wronged you and giving them a chance to be trusted again is not only risky but also very brave. Forgiving them and giving back that trust isn't an easy choice and process. It takes a lot of courage and doubts along the way. This is for brave people. Brave enough to set aside the pain and choose to have faith after what happened. Brave enough to choose to set aside the pain and let forgiveness takes place.
Giving trust to someone without hesitation and without them earning it is like superman letting someone keep kryptonite with high hopes that it won't be used to kill him in the future. It's a gamble that you have to take the risk and have faith or at least be ready for all eventualities. Trusting shows you care. Thrusting shows love. It shows passion. Trust frees you to the heaviness you feel inside of you. Trusting is what bonds you together.
If you want to be trusted, you have to be honest. It's really just that simple. Well, yeah I admit, it may not be that simple. We can't help to lie sometimes. It's human nature to lie in different situations, that's a fact. But if you want someone to trust you, you have to be open to that person. When you're given another chance, prove it. Prove that you changed and that you are worthy now. Be honest, be sensitive and be passionate about trust. Lying can destroy any good relationship. If you don't want to be alone, be trustworthy.
Jdine 💜🖤💜🖤💜
It is hard to trust others when you experienced betrayal though for us to gain trust we need to learn to trust others too