The Mistake Is When You Are Capable Of Helping, But You Do Nothing

September 17, 2022

The world is way too large, and there are billions of people from all over it. However, not everyone is blessed; most people are constantly struggling to make ends meet. Some are healthy, some are ill, some are competent, and some are not. Some are wealthy, while many are impoverished.

We might consider ourselves fortunate if we have something to eat every day, a root to stay comfortably under, a job to make ends meet, a healthy body to carry out daily activities, and family and friends to keep us company. And we are fortunate if we have more than we require.

I've been watching this new Filipino series recently about a Filipina heroine based on a popular comic story. And the very first thing I learned was,

"Ang kasalanan daw ay kapag, may kakayanan kang tumulong, pero wala ka na mang ginawa."

Photo from Malaya.com.ph, edited in Canva

In English, this adage means that:

"The mistake is when you are capable of helping, but you do nothing."

Have you been in a situation wherein someone needs help but you do nothing? What have you felt? Guilty probably.

There is always a misconception when it comes to giving help to others. Some think that only those with money can help. Some think that only those who are physically fit can lend a hand. Some think they aren't capable of helping. They think that they have nothing to give, and they need help as well.

I remembered back when I was younger, there were times that we had nothing to eat as my father's salary wasn't enough to make ends meet for the whole month. Technology isn't that developed yet, and so there was no phone as a means of communicating when we needed urgent help. There's a family in our village that is blessed; not rich, but not poor. They are a distant relative of ours. And oftentimes, my mother would pull a thicker face just to make a loan from them. Sometimes they have something to give, sometimes none. But I was more grateful for the thought of giving help. And I owe this family a lot.

Meanwhile, one day, my mother asked for help from her sister, who is well-blessed. Yet, she received nothing. They say blood is thicker than water. But not at all times. Just call me bad, but I despised those family members who refused to help us when we needed help. And I just planted in my mind that the time will come they will need our help too.

When my father got a huge sum of money from his retirement, he put up a lending business and allowed anyone from our town, not just from the village, who needed help to borrow money from him. Some have collateral, but the relatives who apply for loans don't. Unfortunately, many took advantage of that opportunity, and they seemed to acknowledge us as relatives and family just because we have something to offer.

Some even have thick faces and didn't pay their debts. For what reason? Because they are our family. I just sighed, remembering those memories. Where were they when we needed their help? Up to this date, many are still indebted to my father. Yet, my father didn't give a d*mn about them anymore, and those who want to pay will be thanked. In the end, my father went broke, and our family suffered more just because of those who didn't pay their debts, including some family members and family friends.

Sometimes, strangers even help us more than those we know. Reality hurts, and I hated those who were capable of helping but couldn't help.

We are all capable of helping, and it isn't just about money. There are a lot of forms, and even just listening to someone's emotions and giving advice is a form of help. Even just your presence can be a help to someone who feels lonely and alone. A small amount of money can be a huge one for someone who truly needs it.

We encountered a lot of people online who asked for help. Those simple votes we give to their posts mean a lot to them. We, ourselves, have been in their shoes and asked for help in some ways. And I will always be grateful to those who dropped by during those times I needed some help. The financial one for my friend, and advice in those days when I was down.

I have told myself that if I can help, I will. But if I can't, then I won't. Because sometimes, we have some priorities that need more attention. Sometimes, we need some help as well. Again, it's not all about money. Some things are more important than money.

However, there are cases where people will take advantage of it. They are opportunists. Just let karma hit them badly. Moreover, some people seem to always say something negative about our good actions. That is unavoidable as they can't mind themselves, so they will mind others. Just let them be stressed by their negative minds. And just do what you think is right.

It's not the amount of help that matters here, but the thought of giving help without expecting anything in return.

We all can help, so don't do nothing. Remember the adage, "big things often have small beginnings." Who knows? Your small help might make a big change in someone's life.

Are you familiar with the story of "a glass of milk?" That's a great example of how our small help can impact someone's life.

So don't say you can't help when you can. It's not a mistake for giving small help. The mistake is when you are capable of helping, but you do nothing.

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