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Not All Things Happens For A Reason, Many Because Of Wrong Decisions
July 19, 2021 "Everything happens for a reason" That's what we always think, and everything has a purpose in this world, which I believe is true, but not the first line. Why? Your father got fired from his job because of certain reasons. Chillax, it happens for a reason. Then your family has no more food to eat, nobody finds a job, and your life started to become miserable, you steal things, did crimes, and you get sick until you die. Your boyfriend left you in the vain. Chillax, it happens for a reason. Then you started to become hopeless, your life become meaningless to you, depression crowded your thoughts and took over your body, until you decided to take your own life. You intentionally threw a banana skin on the floor, then someone accidentally stepped on it, he slipped down and banged his head on the concrete floor. Chillax, it happens for a reason. The man suffered from a concussion that eventually leads to a coma due to blood clots and other brain complications caused by his fall. A coma that lasts forever. You drive recklessly and hit an old woman passing on the street. Chillax, it happens for a reason. The old woman died on the spot and you ran away from the crime you did, leaving the victim bathing in her own blood. Then you ran away from everything and kept on hiding everywhere until you become exhausted from running and ended your own life. You pressured your son to study harder and to follow your path and the future you've planned for him. Chillax, it happens for a reason. Your son become more rebellious and ran away to stray on the street. He found a bad peer and had a dismal life until you die without having reconciliation with him. See? Everything happens for a reason and puts their lives in miserable situations. That is absurd! Sayings are just sayings and everything does not happen for a reason! Sometimes, things happen due to wrong decisions. Your father got fired and your family has no more food to eat, but it shouldn't be the reason to steal things and did crimes. It was your wrong decision that put your life in misery. Your boyfriend left you in vain. But it doesn't mean that it's already the end of the world. The pain can be mended without taking your life away. It was your wrong decision not to pull out yourself from distressing life, it was your wrong decision to end your own life. You put someone's life in a coma because of your negligence. You should have thrown the banana skin in the bin and it was your wrong decision to throw it on the floor. And what happened? You got full of regrets, regrets that you will carry until you die due to your wrong decision. You drove recklessly and took away someone's life. It was your wrong decision to run away from your crime and got a miserable life. You missed so many things in life, you missed so many opportunities in life, you missed enjoying your life, all because of your wrong decision. You should not have drive recklessly, you should not have run away from your crime. Sometimes, our conscience is our best enemy, it can even kill us. You put pressure on your son's life but it turned his world into a perilous one. It was your wrong decision to control his life. They said that parents know best, another saying that is not true all the time. You can lead your child's journey but controlling everything can be toxic. Let him navigate his own ship and take things considerably. Don't blame your fate, blame yourself! God never put our life in vain, it is us who puts our life in vain. Everything that happens is the product of how we respond to situations. We are in our current situation because of what we did in the past. We are living because we have surpassed the obstacles, some die because they choose to give up. Bad things indeed happen for a reason. But that is to draw ourselves closer to Him, to learn lessons from our mistakes, to be a stronger and better person. However, it's our wrong decision to be a coward, not to face the consequences, the trials, the challenges, and it's certainly our wrong decision that changes our lives miserably. Don't blame your fate, don't blame God, blame yourself. Because it is us who is controlling our life. It is us who is executing things out. It is us who is choosing the decisions to follow. It is who is leading our way towards the destination we want to take. It is our decision whether to accept the challenges or to give up. So next time when you hear that line, tell the person that *not everything happens for a reason*. However, there can be a reason for everything. To give us hope, to let us grow, to make us stronger, and to allow God to enter our lives. O hope this article makes sense to you. Happy Monday. Thanks for your time.
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Everything does not happen for a reason. Everything just happens. It's very insensitive to say that statement to a dying person for example. Yeah, she's dying because she deserved it. Very wrong at so many levels.
It really is.. Things just happen.. Even how much we avoid them..
not everything for a reason .. sometimes they are for lessons and a call to attention..
Right everything happens has a reason but sometimes it is our fault why our life become miserable ,why our decision didn't get the way we want it to be. Because after it was our choices why things happen like this .
True... It was our wrong decision that puts us into what we are today.. Thanks for the sponsorship btw 😊
I have found when people say, "Everything happens for a reason." They are simply at a low for words. And in hindsight we can always point to A leading to B leading to C. You are right, though. Most people refuse to acknowledge their decision making process.
That made them cowards.. And leading the wrong path
As they say "humans are the architect of whatever happens to them". We can't keep blaming fate for whatever happens to us. We humans have two options, either to choose the good or bad one. When we choose the good choice, we will surely enjoy our lives but when we choose the bad, that means the wrong decision, then we should be ready for the aftermath.
True...we should always be ready for the consequences... Our fate depends on our decision, not on anything else..
Totally makes sense and true also. More importantly, what lessons to take away from the situation?
There are always lessons at the end of everything.. It is up to us whether to take it or leave it
Wrong decisions made because it wanted us to learned from it and reflect from it. Making wrong decision twice is another story, then for me if that so, it's already a choice. Good eve sis.
It is the same with committing mistakes is acceptable, but committing the same mistakes, again and again, is already unacceptable..
Exactly sis.
What a nice Article. I really like to read a life lessons like this. I am new here and it was very nice reading some articles that are have lessons to life because I can relate and i can learn with the words of others that I can’t tell it to my self. 🤧
Thanks for reading
It would suffice to say "everything happens" because it does. Sometimes I just blame my hormones :D
Haha.. Yeah the hormones
Yap, haha :D
I learnt from this article that not everything happens for a reason but there can always be a reason for everything we do. The choice is ours to make, as we shouldn't give up.
And we should always face the consequences positively
Hindi ka naniniwala sa destiny?
Nope. I believe in reality.. Lol
Finding a reason for excuse. hard to admit but lot of People including me sometimes this kind of mindset where we just let the faith decide LOL. "Go with Flow" hahaha
Lol.. We are always like that.. Go with the flow, even if the flow is already going in the wrong direction.. Lol
If we are to judge this grammatically, there is still a reason for everything that happens or occurs in one's life but the only problem is that we are used to the future occurrence forgetting the past. Yes, a person might die today and some will say there is a reason for his or her death and that's very correct. I mean why would the person die if there was no reason or cause of the death? Either the reason for each occurrence in our life was in the past or it is for the future but whatever be the case, there will always be a reason for everything in life. So instead of us saying that everything happens FOR a reason, we should rather know that everything that happens is because of a reason. Not always looking forward to why the thing happened because most times the reason we are looking for had already passed and is in the past and in this case, that is where the wrong decisions you spoke of comes into play. Nice one Jane by the way!
Yes. Not all things happen for a reason, but there could always be a reason for everything. I guess I mentioned it there 😅 For the bad things that happen naturally and accidentally, there are really reasons for that, but for those intentionally, it's already because of wrong decisions.
Totally agreed with you when we will start accepting our mistakes then we'll see our bright future ahead it's our wrong decisions we blame it's happened for a reason
Because we can't accept our mistakes so we usually blame it to that saying..
I think saying "Everything happens for a reason" is our ways of accepting defeat, accepting not to put in more effort.
Exactly.. For the cowards who can't face the consequences and challenges
Right, all this assertion are very plausible , we are human and everything happens not because its meant to happen but our actions sometimes trigger many occurrence , whether good or bad they will surely influence.
Indeed.. It's like, our body corresponds to our mind.. Everything that happens is based on our actions..
That's why we should learn how to control the two to our advantage.
True... Someone just don't study all year and say upon his failure that it happened for a reason... Yeah and the reason was thay you didn't study hard. That's it.
It's not just about not studying hard. It's also about carelessness, recklessness, cowardness, and other negative things we've done
So agree to this, sa maling desisyon na lahat nalang sa Kanya isisisi, I mean everything happens for a reason kung hindi ikaw ang nag decide for yourself. Basta yong dumadating nalang na problema na di inaasahan, yong ang nangyayaro for a reason. Ay basta, ganon 😵
Haha.. You said it madam.. Yung wlang marason kasi nangyari na issng maling bagay, sasabihin na lng.. It happens for a reason.. Lol
I get your point po. Tama, every action and decisions have corresponding consequences. Maybe, lahat ng bagay may rasn , pero nasa atin parin yung kung anong result yung gusto nating makita.
Kaya nga. Nsa ating decision ang magiging resulta..
Yes I agree with this maam " not everything happens for a reason" it's our choice, God is only giving us a chance but it's our choice, on how we responds and overcome those situations we had. There's nobody but us to lead our self control. God bless you ma'am Jane.🙏❤️
Thank you. Godbleds you too
Tama po ang iyong mga sinabe Ms. Jane Lahat ng nangyayare ay may dahilan, wala tayong dapat sisihin na ibang tao dahil tayo ang gumagawa ng ating kapalaran. Sisihin ang ating sarili huwag mandamay ng ibang tao, kung may pag kakamaling nagawa. Tanggapin at gawin ang tama para lahat ng pagkakamali ay maitama natin. Ako lagi ko po sinsisi ang aking sarili dahil sa mga nangyayari samin, sinisisi ko ang aking sarili kaya hindi ako nakapag aral ng college dahil wala akong talino upang mag scholar sa school upang walang bayaran sana, Pero ganon pa man Naging positive think ako na isipin ko nalang ang kapakanan ng aking mga kapatid . Sila nalang ang makapag tapos ng pag aaral 😊
Kala ko student ka parin... Wala ka balak ipagpatuloy pag aaral mo?
Wala na po . Kasi wala naman po kaming pera at marami pang dapat bayaran. Dati po gusto pero now hindi na matulungan ko lang magulang ko ❤️
For as long as my source of income kann okay narn. Pro kpg may chance, mag aral ka.. Yun lang madadala mo gang pagtanda
Nasa isip ko nalang po ngayon Ms. Jane ay makapag business . Grabe na din paghihirap ko mag apply🥺 since Febraury nag aapply na ako hanggang ngayon di makapg work. Meron isang company pero bumagsak akocsa actual dahim malabo mata ko
Many bad things happen without any explanation. But I agree with you that it's our own decisions that lead us to most of the situations we live in. And we're the only ones responsible for the consequences. We mostly will have options to choose when something bad happens to us, except for death. And only we can make that choice for the good or bad. Have a nice week!
Thank you for the upvote and this wonderful comment.. It's up to us what path to follow depending on what decision we have made.
Yes, your publication makes a lot of sense. When we are mentally irresponsible we blame others for those wrong decisions. But even that being wrong can lead you to mend your life after your bad decisions. And take a better path which then leads you to your better destiny. It may be a long road but it can be a comforting one.
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