WHY? WHY?WHY? - The young widow has wondered this a thousand times since her husband hanged himself. He seemed to have a lot to go through: a new baby, a beautiful wife, a lot of good friends, a good job. Everyone knew he could captivate audiences with his musical prowess, and although he was relatively young, he was highly regarded in society.
He didn't know he was going to kill himself. But he did. And now the living, especially the wife, must bear an enormous burden, not only the loss of their husbands, but also the social stigma often associated with the word suicide.
Maybe the pain you saw in this young woman never got past you. But the issue of suicide still deserves your attention because it is on the rise. The World Health Organization reports that 1,000 people around the world kill themselves every day. it's one every 86 seconds. But these numbers are only beginning to tell the story.
It is estimated that only one in ten Americans who attempt suicide will succeed; In other words, there could be 250,000 attempts. Suicide rates are low. “Heart attack” rather than suicide usually appears on death certificates because of religious or other feelings, or to obtain life insurance benefits. Of course, many drownings and traffic accidents are suicides.
Where's the climb? Why there?
Suicide is nothing new. But it's especially common in some groups now. Because?
It is said that older people, often very lonely, are more likely to commit suicide. It is twice as common in black men between the ages of 20 and 35 as it is in whites in the same age group. This is due to "the frustration and anger of the black ghetto". Frustration is also attributed to the emergence of the problem among working women. Suicide has reached "epidemic proportions" among young people. Experts blame ratings, parents and the opposite sex for their concerns.
But is this the real or the only reason? It is true that many elderly people are alone, but this is not entirely new. Many women are torn between career and home; but few commit suicide. Haven't children always had problems at school, with parents and children? While each of these factors contributes in one way or another to the current problem of suicide, they also leave a lot to be said. There must be other factors.
It's here. Cities have alienated the elderly like never before. Contemporary social movements urge women and blacks to "conquer" at all costs, otherwise they will be rejected. Young people today use alcohol and drugs with a little discipline. Modern movies and television also glorify violence and make life seem cheap. The nuclear holocaust is widespread around the world. On all fronts, the world now appears to be in trouble. Most importantly, people feel that there is nowhere to find help.
Churches are no longer reliable; For a long time, people were told that the Bible is a book of myths. Most religions are rapidly losing their influence. He was unable to incorporate the qualities necessary to withstand modern pressures into his life.
When personal crises are stacked on top of each other and viewed in the context of the biggest faces of humanity, many are desperate. You have no protection.
Obviously, each case is different. Experts disagree on the particular combination of circumstances that ultimately leads to a person dying on their own. Is there any idea that suicide is imminent? Doctors are looking for a model, but it's hard to find. Some people carefully plan to kill themselves, others act on impulse. Some people become unpredictable before they kill themselves, but the calm suddenly dissolves in others.
However, most suicides do not have a history of mental disorder. As for the young man mentioned at the beginning of this article, his death surprises everyone.
Dealing with suicide
The affected person may be particularly concerned about why they “knew best”. Yes, probably yes; But a lot of "normal" people go through irrational times. A National Observer article said: “The suicide crisis is not a permanent feature. It is often just a matter of minutes or hours. “While inclination affects some people, the opportunity to implement it is unfortunately also cheap.
Family and friends often feel responsible for what happened. "I should have been more loving and caring," you might say. Of course, such thinking can not revive the dead. But in retrospect, one thing strikes us: the need to be more attuned to emotional needs that others often do not express.
Of course, the suicide bomber must finally take responsibility for his actions before the one who gives his life. Although observers do not understand the reasons, the suicide bomber was wrong. Some people have a hard time understanding this.
But the living can be fully convinced that he is also compassionate and understanding. Only he knows all the complex personal and social factors that can make a healthy person believe that he must commit suicide.
The living would do well to strengthen themselves so as not to make the mistake of believing that suicide is the best way out of life's problems. Develop a true love for God, a respect for life. Learn your holy word; This will show that it can withstand the pressures of our time. Do not increase the pressure from those who have committed suicide. Help them too, trust those who know the thoughts and intentions of the heart.
