What is the best way to deal with jealous people?

Are you sick of dealing with the green eyed monster called jealousy? Do you find other people’s jealousy annoying or even creepy? Then keep on reading to find out how you can better handle, avoid and protect yourself against people that are jealous and envy you.

1. Don’t associate with jealous people. Physical distance will protect you from the negative energy of jealous people. If you have the unfortunate situation of having them as part of your family or at your work and it’s very difficult to stay away from them completely, then try to limit your exposure around them.

If the problem with this jealous person is very bad try to take an action that will separate you from them. In addition, jealous people are insecure people and need to be close to the person who is the object of their jealousy so that they watch them up close. Protect your boundaries.

2. Don’t ever tell jealous people what goals and plans you are currently working on. Jealous people tend to covet and like to know personal information about you so that they can use you to propel them and be a source of motivation to compete against you.

They may use your information for malicious purposes to try to mock and de-motivate you to give up on your goals. You should never open yourself up to jealous people is because you are at the risk of putting yourself in the centre of a nasty competition.

As you are the object of their jealousy, they will use your plans to copy you and outdo you- this gives jealous people great pleasure, purpose in life and motivation. In other words, jealous people operate much like a parasite. Because the nature of jealous people is competitiveness- their biggest desire is to put you to shame-so it’s wise to keep your plans to yourself and deny jealous people the stimulus they desire to put you to shame.

3. Jealous people can be very deceptive so don’t trust people that you are unsure of easily. Even if the person you are suspecting of jealousy seems friendly and harmless and supportive of you. This is used by jealous people as a façade, to outsmart you and to make them gain your trust.

Michael Jackson once sang “those with the biggest smiles are the back stabbers!” So watch out for people who you feel distrustful of deep down even if they smile and seem kind hearted. Only trust people who have proven their friendship and loyalty to you over a long period of time.

4. Never tell jealous people of your pain, problems and your weaknesses. Jealous people will celebrate any misfortune that comes to you and be comforted by the fact that you are suffering.

Jealous people are opportunistic and may use your pain to propel them to succeed in life or to accomplish some goal that they would otherwise have never found the inspiration and strength within themselves to succeed. Jealous people may also use your pain to demoralise and dishearten you. They will use your pain for their gain!

5. Don’t spur them on by showing your stuff. Never try to prove to them that you are successful. This will only encourage them to get more jealous of you and compete harder against you.

Jealous people never find motivation within; they feel inadequate and have a loser based mentality towards life in general. The key is to keep low in their presence, knowing that they need you and your success to fuel them ahead in life.