Why do we Self-sabotage?

Self-sabotage is a behaviour that goes against our self. Sometimes we self-sabotage to escape the uncomfortable feelings we felt. Maybe because we haven't taught our self on how to manage amd process those uncomfortable feelings and thought, that's why we do whatever to stuff them down. We might turn to alcohol or drugs to relief our self.

Self-sabotage can be a coping mechanism from our past experience. For example, we had a terrible experience that is traumatic. We find our way out on that experienced or we carry it out until we become adult can it affects our relationship to others. This is why its hard to breaking out in self-sabotage behaviour.

That is why we need to take an active steps to work against our self-sabotaging behaviour. And to make it work we must first know that if we really have this self-sabotaging behaviour.

Signs of Self-sabotaging Behaviour

You listen to you inner critic

We all have this inner critic. A voice that whispering "You're not good enough", "Nothing will work out with you" "You're an idiot". We all have our choice as whether to listen to that voice. There are techniques to quieting that voice, but the first step is we need to identify them. Listen to what kind of stories they are telling and realise it's not us. It's not you.

You procrastinate

Procrastination is the stems from fear of failure. You are afraid to fail so you are afraid to try. You must face and acknowledge the feeling of discomfort and failure.

You avoid the runs the risks of pain

When you feel that you are burnt out in life, you find yourself avoiding the situation that will make you feel the same pain. But the truth about life is that we can never avoid being hurt and in pain. We must step outside the comfort zone an experience life in general.

Using substance

We always find a skip route to ease the pain we are feeling, and one of the route drinking alcohol or taking drugs. If you happen to find yourself turning the bottles, it is possible that you have the sign of self-sabotage.

You are a self-controlled freak

We all know that we can't do anything once something is done, whether we like it or not. And when we try to control situation of people, it makes us struck or it blocks oir growth.

You can't say "No"

Pleasing people is one of the most socially accepted forms of self-sabotage. Boundaries are there to protect us, to ensure that we are channelling into the areas that we enjoy or worthy. Without them we are letting others to walked on us.

You suffer from low self-esteem

When we continuously don't believe with ourself, we subconsciously setting ourself up to failure. In this sense, we think that we are right with the decision we made all along.

How to break from Self-sabotage

Breaking in to self-sabotage usually involves us to look back at the past where everything started. Once we already pinpoint where it started, we can praticed self-compassioncand self-forgiveness. From there, we can begin healthier, more effective ways of behaving which will lead us to the long term.