Self - love

"You can't love someone else until you learn to love yourself."

Most of us know what self-love is but we don't fully understand it. It's sad to know that in the process of finding our happiness, we forgot ourself and neglected it at times. Maybe that's the reason we felt that we're alone, that no one understand us. We don't understand that self-love is the root from which everything grows.

When you love yourself conditionally, you cannot love someone unconditionally. Why? Because how can you give someone you don't have?

Understanding self-love is learned during our childhood from someone who loved and cared for us. It is taught unconsciously, we learned it just by watching people who nurtured us.

Self-love is more that wearing a beautiful dresses and putting make ups. To love ourself is not an act of selfishness, it is an act of kindness towards other people. When we love ourself people don't have to deal with unresolved problems.

Self-love includes self-esteem, self- awareness, self-worth, and self-care. If one is missing then we don't entirely have the self-love. The journey of obtaining self-love does not differ from comfronting the demons inside us. It is the reason most of us lack, we don't want to sit down and have a conversation with ourself.

Self-awareness

Asked ourself, are we aware of the thoughts that makes us angry and act impulsively? Where they're coming from? Why are they there? It same goes with why are we happy. We need to question ourself to be more aware of our emotions and feelings and the way we act it out. Self-awareness is being aware of our thoughts. It is the key to our emotional intelligence. The way we understand our emotion will help us response effectively. If we failed to understand our emotions, we also failed to response effectively. It may trigger some undesirable emotions.

Self-worth

Self-worth is the beliefs we have in ourself. We must put in our mind that we are born with an endless potential. We have it now, and we have it until we die. We need to discover it. We need to get oit of the box and explore our potential. We don't need to stick with what we know we already have. Self-worth lies with all the good things about ourself. Everyone have something they are good. We must remember that there is never a day that we are not worthy. We don't need to do anything to be worth it, because self-worth is not determined by anything. We are who we are and we have to know that.

Self-esteem

Self-esteem is the result of self-worth. When we developed our self-worth, it self-esteem comes naturally. Self-esteem comes from the factor that we are loved. It has everything to do with us being contented and comfortable of who we are. We need to remind ourself that we don't need to justify our existence.

Self-care

Self-care is not all about physically, it is about keeping ourself healthy, physically, mentally and emotionally. Today, due to pandemic our self-care as a whole is being tested. It can easily tainted with negativity. Some people are suffering physically, emotionally and mentally.

Self-love as a whole embedded within us. We must know how important self-love is. We must fully umderstand ourself to understand what truly is self-love. We are too focus of achieving what our hearts desire the forgot to love ourself in the process. We can achieve happiness if we learn to love ourself. We must remember that there is no important thing in this world more than ourself.

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Awhile ago I read the article Want Some Attention by @blazingwolvez . Somehow I can relate to her, cause I went the same experienced. .

Life thought us many things and one of the lesson we must learn is that not all will understand us and we shouldn't focus on making them understand us. What we need is for us to focus on ourself more than anything and most especially we must learn to love ourself.

Thanks for reading!