Not everything bad that happens to us in life is because we deserve it.
Beyond the causes that make us think that. We focus on the consequences when something negative happens to us. Even without being the direct cause of the events. This causes us to lose self-esteem and leads us to failure. This mentality is what forces us to think this way: "Bad things happen to us because we don't deserve them".
They also occur in situations of well-being and prosperity.
Some people say to themselves: "it is not possible that everything goes well for me", yes it is a strange apprehension but it happens, it seems as if they do not dare to enjoy the gifts that life gives them; they live with the suspicion that those moments of happiness enclose some trap, or intuiting that at the most unexpected moment it will disappear; to give way to burdens and losses. In a way, they are people who are forbidden to be happy by themselves.
Another of the causes that gives origin to the self prohibition to be happy, is the exaggerated perfectionism. The perfectionist is governed by schemes that do not admit the possibility of complete success. Since everything can be improved, let us look at the defects. As the American writer and novelist Pearl S. Buck wrote, "they miss the small joys while waiting for the great happiness".
Now let's talk about superstitious people, there is a kind of ideology of mortifying puritanism, which tells us that in order to be assured of a reward we must first pay with our sweat or some mortification. On the other hand, that which is good and pleasant to us will bring with it a corresponding condemnation. Some of its common phrases are the following:
- Beware of laughing, for then will come weeping and gnashing of teeth.
- You feel loved by your loved ones, but love does not last forever.
- If good fortune smiles on us today, tomorrow we will pay for it in spades.
- It's a beautiful Sunday, but a week of hard work awaits you.
The fear of being happy is one of the manifestations of the fear of being free. This is the origin of puritanism and fanaticism. As a rule, pessimistic attitudes are a reflection of low self-esteem. This is known as the aesthetics of the mourner, of the defeated, this condition has granted a singular intellectual and aesthetic prestige to gloom. We consider more intelligent the one who knows how to notice the negative side of reality than the one who is ecstatic like a fool in front of his goods.
Conclusion:
My personal opinion is that these are beliefs that limit us, for the simple fact that life is not fair, bad things can happen to anyone without exception. This allows me to reflect that sometimes we need negative things to happen to us in order to mature and grow as a person. I also believe that it is a reciprocal learning because life teaches you to fall down but you show it that you are capable of getting up again and again and although love is not completely perfect, you can be perfectly happy in your own way.
Do you think you deserve whatever bad things happen to you?
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You are a good writer with clarity in your thinking. As you ask for constructive criticism, there is one thing in your composition here you could improve. The second paragraph contains a long sentence from "They also..." to "...and the losses." This is cumbersome for the reader. Try to divide it into several sentences - say 3.
Your English is very good, given it's not your first language.