I beg you, don't lose yourself when you are Inlove

We lose our identity when we start to engage ourselves in a romantic intimate relationship. This takes place in a slow manner and we even deny it to ourselves. We tend to acquire our partner's mannerisms, habits, hobbies, and preferences. It is so much fun exploring things that we don't know and someone that is dear to us introduces these things to us.

But my concern is, that we often can't choose to whom we fall. We get excited by many unrealistic things when we are blinded by "love" which gives us the courage to cross the river of fire. What I am trying to say is we should keep our rationality at all costs. We are not always right and our partners are as well. In a world that is covered with subjectivity be objective. Do everything to your ability to keep yourself intact because if you don't have control over your self you will end up tolerating behavior that makes you less, and makes you feel less.

The relationship starts to choke you when you start tolerating each other's toxic behavior. Both of you should start to realize that despite surrendering each other's hearts, you have your individual lives. Yes, it's true that we often lose our individuality while being in a relationship but I hope you don't. I hope you can still do things in your own space without feeling guilty because, at the end of the day, we need to grow individually.

Support your partner in things that you know will make him or her better but understand that there are things that it might against what you think is better for him or her but will surely give her or his sense of completion. Be each other's support system other than being someone always against.

In times that you know that it might harm your partner, please be gentle in making them understand that you only want them to be safe. Being aggressively persuasive doesn't always work well and worse you end up hurting them other than making them understand your point.

Love is always kind and gentle. Love is always kind. Love is patient. Love does not envy and it does not seek its own interest. Love will make you understand things. Love may hurt you but it will widen your understanding. Love will rebuke you. Love is honest in every aspect. Love is being belonged. Love is effort. Love is getting a good laugh after a bad day. Love is, "hug me", "touch me", and "be with me". Love is not only in good times but love is sparing each other's burden.