Hierarchy of Needs; Love and Belongingness

Love will make you do things you never know you can.

Love is the most powerful emotion, it drives us crazy but at the same time, it makes us feel safe. Love is dangerous in a way our behavior is influenced by it. Love is essential to the extent that if we are deprived of it when we were young it will highly affect our adulthood.

According to Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, in that stage of love and belongingness, he explained that people who have never received love, who have never kissed or cuddled, can go for long periods without these things and will not panic. Love deprived people at a young age take the absence of love for granted and eventually devalued its need. While in the other hand, people who have had love and belongingness needs sufficiently at an early age will also not panic when denied love. The sufficiency of love and belongingness makes these people confident that they are accepted by those who are important to them, so in terms of rejection, it never bothers them nor feels devastated. While the most crucial people are those who have only tasted love in small doses, they are the type of people who are strongly motivated to seek satisfaction of love and belongingness needs.

Let's talk about the crucial people. If you came up with my articles you know I love touching on sensitive topics. Right now, I want to talk about why people become indifferent when falling in love, and why we should guard our hearts by all means.

Not all people get used to not being given affection or were being given sufficient affection while growing up. People who have been given small doses of love are the ones that are very sensitive, they might seem naive but they were just innocent and deprive of love. Maybe once or twice we have met this kind of person but we may be this kind of person.

But for us to know which of the three are we, we need to fall in love first. A mad love.

We cannot go back and fix how we were being raised when we were children, and we don't have control over which family we will be with. We cannot always blame our mother for what we become. If we grow up to become numb in love, sufficient in love, or thirsty in love it will be our responsibility to assess ourselves.

People got stuck in this stage and some people skip the previous stages and want to suffice this stage. More than anything else, people should understand that being loved and belonging should not only be taken or received from other people but it should start within us.

People should learn to love themselves and feel belonged to their own bodies. Before we received love from other people we should give love to ourselves first. I know it is hard to feel the gaps our childhood had left us but we can't stay being a child forever. Love is the peace we gave to ourselves, love is eating healthy, love is drinking water, and love is sleeping well.

I know many of the young ones act in accordance with their emotion and felt being judged by the world -yes you are and when you'll be an adult every decision-making is like being in a court. Accept that you are too young, and not everyone will want you in their group but please make yourself belong to your body. Love yourself by taking care of your mental health.

Love and belongingness do not start in society, they should start within us.

-WriterJo