Make your child feel successful!

We all try to deal with certain problems as adults. Sometimes we get it and sometimes we don't. So, do we ever think about what is the underlying cause? Why do we come across that line, which is already the subject of movies, when we apply to a psychologist. 'Let's Go Back to Your Childhood. Please!' I wonder if we took the right steps while growing up. Problems that hit our feet until we reach this age, Are our childhood trams?

 Of course, picking up a tablet and learning quickly is not! One of the biggest mistakes of today is that a child who is given a tablet or a phone can easily use them, which can be perceived as success and smartness. Of course, from being able to eat his own food in a child's life, helping with the housework, being open to his surroundings!

What do they actually mean? Do you know how valuable it is? It means that he is interested in his environment, making an effort to communicate, taking action, being eager to learn, laying his own foundations for success.

For this reason, in judging children as “intelligent”, the real need for approval of your children is realized through the skills they develop, the concepts they develop or learn first, and their small successes in life. Of course, human nature will go through a series of developmental stages, this is perfectly normal. however, you acknowledge that you notice the excitement that his development creates in him, that he exists, that he is self.

In short, you must first approve of your child in your daily life.

“I didn't know you did it so well!”

"You have helped me very well, I am very happy that you have grown so much, look what a great team we have become!" verbalize your affirmation with similar positive reinforcements such as

Succeed in adapting your child's achievements to life!

Don't limit yourself to just your interests, and don't ignore seemingly simple skills.

Success is not just about academic knowledge for a child. It is very important for the child to be open to life and relationships. You will contribute to your child's emotional intelligence with such a communication language that you establish during the day. Like this; will be able to observe more analytically, establish strong relationships, facilitate the achievement of personal goals, empathize, manage conflicts...

We know that there are many different types of children. While some children are introverted, some children are extroverted, some can be hyperactive, while some children can be angry.

First of all, if you think that these emotional states affect your quality of life and the life of the child, you should seek support from a specialist.

Evaluating not only with academic skills but also with life skills in life, how children establish relationships in life, how they express themselves and whether they can maintain friendships are very important information.

Therefore, we do not limit your child only to academic knowledge and learned concepts; Evaluate how well he can do something in life, whether he is sociable or not. The child must have successes at this point; such as his behavior or assertiveness and knowledge acquired.

Express your approval by observing them.

The concept of success in school age children

The period of starting school age is the period when they are in a great chaos.

Unfortunately, when school age begins, children find themselves in chaos. Of course, parents find themselves in that chaos too!

There are many variables such as courses, exams, grades, information learned, social pressures, expectations from the child.

Can you imagine?

40 minutes in the classroom environment of the child who cannot sit still for 2 seconds at home. Even gaining the skill of sitting in the same place without speaking is an important success; the expectations of life, the expectations of the school, the expectations and dreams of the parents begin to be loaded on his back. Many children are crushed by not being able to handle such a heavy load.

While these situations may cause the child to feel unsuccessful and worthless, they may also reflect their feelings outwardly, by being more angry, more introverted, more active, or by having problems in social adaptation skills.

For many reasons, parents now have to change the concept of success. Teachers should show the same sensitivity.

Consider the child as a whole. The child should be dealt with in many aspects, not only because of his lessons or a single lesson, not because of his learning speed or grades, but also from his life skills to his ability to relate, from his attitude in the classroom to his patience and empathy. Parents and teachers should approach their children with patience and understanding in order to attract their attention to the lessons and increase their desire.

Parents must be aware that in their relationship with school-age children, it is not just school and lessons.

Be aware of the skills that the child has listed and confirm his life skills at home or outside, anything he has not done before, please! Because as parents, when we accept our child as he is, you will support his trust in himself and his trust in you. Because there is always curiosity and interest behind learning.

Do not block him when he is curious and interested in any subject because this attitude will create a general lack of self-confidence in him.

Afterwards, do not lament why he was not a successful student!

First of all, we will learn to acknowledge, and we will not confine this affirmation between our borders.

We will also evaluate our affirmation on everything our child does.

Because your child is now an individual.

In fact, from the first moment of birth, an individual.

Start a brand new day today!

Observe your child as if you are just getting to know him/her.

Monitor your child's skills!

What will you discover?

How much do you approve or disapprove of these behaviors?

How much do you project your happiness on your child?

Please observe yourself first.

Afterwards, discover 3-5 positive behaviors of your child every day and tell him/her, make him/her feel that you approve him/her and encourage him/her.

after? believe that everything will be fine

Trust your child...