Are you the kind of spouse you want?

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2 years ago

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This issue has become so alarming and need to be addressed, why would you want a spouse that is directly opposite who you are? No, tell me why?

I was in a circle of some friends last week in which we were cheering a sister up who was getting married so it led to the conversation about the type of spouse we would want to get married to. Then a friend of mine said she wanted a particular kind of guy to be her spouse and knowing her fully well, we knew she's just a direct opposite of the kind of spouse she said she wanted to get married to. We resulted into making her understand that she has to be the best version of herself if she wants to get married to the best guy.

You will hear some girls asking themselves why they can't seem to meet a rich and handsome guy knowing that they themselves are just in their comfort zone not doing anything worth noticing or even try to get a job doing so they can at least earn little cash. "Iron sharpens iron" so do "Metals attract metals", be sure that you will only attract your type of person. This is not a vain talk, it is reality and it is high time we learn to face reality.

What I want in my spouse and am I the same version of person?

I want a good looking guy that has a good and dependable source of income. He should be more than 6.5 inches tall because I'm a tall lady, any complexion is fine by me and he should not be fat but not too slim either. He should be both an extrovert and introvert ie. he has to be able to create time to be indoor with his family at the appropriate time and outdoor if need be. He should be nice to everybody and fun to be with, not overly friendly to people more than his family and should not be greedy not stingy. Most importantly, he should believe in me and my dreams and he should love me genuinely.

This is the list of what I want in my my future partner, it might look too much but it is very much possible to get a man like this even more as long as you are the same version of person. Looking at everything I wrote up, I can tell you that this is also what describes me. You can easily recognize me when looking at the list up.

That's exactly what I'm saying about being the kind of spouse you want. You don't even have to be everything you want in your partner but at least, try! Do something different from what you have been doing before, build yourself up to a level where you would even have plenty of choice to pick from. Don't just stay in your comfort zone repeating the same thing you have been doing over and over again and be expecting all your dreams to come true. You need a take a step and you will see everything falling in place.

If iron tries to sharpen wood, the wood will either break or burn to ashes. That's what happens when you get married to a person who is completely different from who you are. It's either the person breaks you / you break the person or the both of you breaks each other, either way someone is going to be broken.

I use to have a particular male friend who got married to a completely different version of himself, he lost his life because of that. His wife was one lady who was so obsessed about rich guys, more reason she got acquainted with my friend because he's a rich guy, he was doing so well in his office before he got married to this lady. She didn't have any job as at the time they both met but the guy promised to help her secure a job somewhere which he did but she complained about everything when she started the job, she didn't spend more than two weeks there before quitted the job. It was very obvious that she was not ready to do anything from the very start but the guy paid no attention to it. They eventually got married but just few months after their wedding, the wife got to know the husband's boss and she discovered that the boss was more richer than her husband so she decided to kill her husband so she could marry the boss in which she succeeded and she married the boss. The death of her husband was later traced to her and she was apprehended by the police and was later sentenced to life imprisonment.

I can boldly tell you that majority of the failed marriages that we are seeing today is as a result of two different persons getting married to each other.