She Was Mislabeled!

Mislabeling is rampant nowadays, especially people only judge or give their opinions based on what they see without knowing the truth or the story behind the situation. It's unpleasant to be mislabeled especially if they had it wrong but we cannot do anything about it as we cannot please anyone.

Way back my mom was used to being called a “Slut” . People think she's making out with all the boys she goes along with. She used to have male friends more than the girls, that is why people mislabeled her like that.

Reasons Why Mom Is Comfortable With Her Male friends that the girls

Mom easily connects with male than females. She said that some girls have been snobbing her before for no reason. Most of her boys classmates talked to her more often than girls when she was still a student.

My mom used to transfer a lot in different schools during her elementary and high school days due to family issues, the reason why she doesn't have any normal friends.

Boys classmates talk to her than girls

Because she's transferee she doesn't have any friends yet, mom is an introvert type. She doesn't talk much with people who are not close with her. We all know boys are more outgoing than girls, so they'll talk to her casually than her girl classmates, ending she's more close to them.

Her classmates will tag her as “flirty” because she gets along with her boy classmates especially to their crushes. It's not even her intention to be friends with their crush, it's just that they we're the ones talking to her.

Boys are less dramatic than girls

Mom said boys are good company, they talk about exciting things more than girls. Or maybe it's about her preference as well. She also has some girl friends but she doesn't like much of what they are talking about, usually it's about their crush and anything that is very dramatic to her point of view.

Girls also talk a lot with other people like backbiting, which she doesn't like. She likes to discuss ideas rather than talking to other people.

I can relate to mom because I also experienced this one when I was still a high schooler.

Mom is comfortable with boys

Mom is comfortable hanging out with boys because they are less dramatic. She also likes the males company as she doesn't have a brother, while she is not close with her dad. They have family issues that is why she always wonders how it feels to go along with a boy's company.

After having more male friends than girls she understands it, but it doesn't mean she will flirt with them.

She's also the type when she's close with you, you can joke with her anytime, she can get along with jokes and doesn't get offended easily. Mom said maybe it was the reason why boys like to be friends with her, she's not “maarte” type.

People's conclusions.. maybe based on what they see

People tagged her as slut because she usually hangs out with different dudes, without knowing it's only her friends and nothing more.

They used to tell her that she flirted with them, that is why she can easily hook up with them.

Endnotes:

My mom told me her story before and also advised me not to get along too much with boys. She said it's okay to be friends with boys just to have limitations to avoid any unexpected things especially that I am a girl. She said that today's generation is a bit aggressive compared to before. She doesn't want me to be judged by other people like her just because she has a lot of male friends.

She also told me that our situation is different, I have my dad and my brother. We are on good terms so I can build good connections with them so I won't be curious how it feels to be with boys company.

This article was inspired by the prompt of  @JonicaBradley “Label”.

Do you agree with mom? That boys are less dramatic than boys? I agree haha!

August 20, 2021

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