February 27, 2022

No one from your family, relatives and bestfriends will be there for you 24/7. You and yourself is the only being that will be there for you, I assure you. No one will ever make you complete. The people around you for sure will be not enough and could cause you pain as well. Also in life, unless you give yourself enough love, you could never learn to love someone with satisfaction.

As we all know, if we do not solve our own issue, we will just continue to find answers from someone. If we haven't started it with ourselves, we cannot start it all to someone. We cannot give what we don't have. It is much better to solve our issues before getting out.

In this article, since our goal is to start loving ourself and being our own bestfriend, let me share you what I learned in life and I am applying at present. It works at all times, just be consistent. Becoming your own bestfriend by...

Praising your own achievement

With a realistic goal and effort, praise yourself to the results you are getting. The result could not be always good or what you expected. It is always based on your effort and proper planning. Whatever the result is, tap your self and say good job!! Taking action based on your goal is a good job already!

You could be a failure, but you are always worthy

How to feel worthy? Whatever you are, whatever you did, whatever people say about you, your existence itself is worthy. Your existence can help someone to be inspired. You are doing your best so you are worthy. You are helpful, nice and understanding. Despite your flaws, if you are still breathing, you are worthy. Always remember that.

Laugh at your mistake, don't be hard

Friends laugh at each other, I guess that is normal. What about whhne you made a mistake or bad decision. Instead of feeling bad, laugh at yourself. Laughing makes you feel good at all times. There are things we cannot control so instead of fret, laugh at it.

Accept your mistakes and forgive yourself

Everyone makes mistakes, don't be harsh by telling yourself you are dumb and stupid. Don't let yourself down. It is okay to feel bad, to cry, but don't let it last for long. When you make mistakes, accept. Forgive yourself immediately so that you reject the bad feeling and start over. Finding time to rest or for some space will do, just don't make it last for long.

Appreciate and Self Awareness

Many of us are busy knowing other people. It is true that sometimes when we like someone we find what is good about them, but how about us. Self love is appreciating what we have. It starts by being aware of what we are good at. Find new things to do for you to learn what you are good at. If you already found it, be appreciative even if you have small achievements.

Find a day spending with yourself

Pamper yourself, good bath, eating your fave food, reading a good book, binge watch or anything that you could spend time alone that could make you happy. Being alone could cultivate a happy soul. If you could start a journal and share your thoughts about anything just to free it out, you should do it!!

Love yourself with support and comfort

If you have a best friend definitely they are the ones that will support and comfort you, but you can do it for yourself also. You can cheer yourself early in the morning, preparing to work and preparing to stress that you could experience. You can comfort yourself with a good coffee after a certain problem occurs. Don't wait others to cheer you up. Start it with your self.

Take care of yourself, emotionally, physically and spiritually

Bestfriends take care of each other. Being your own best friend means taking care of yourself, physically by eating healthy foods, exercising and changing your lifestyle. Resting is important. Emotionally, please find time to do what makes you happy. If you feel sad, validate your feelings. Try to evaluate if it is right for you to feel hurt or spend time crying with something. If not, please don't waste time feeling bad. Spiritually is all about your soul and your relationship to God. Ask wisdom so that you could share it to everyone.

Be Kind and Nice

Any kindness you plant in yourself and sharing this to others will surely make you happy. Random act of kindness is good for your soul. If you wnat to feel good start giving kindness or be nice to others.

Learn to list all the good at you, because you have it

You are not perfect and everyone else too, but there are things you are good at. Make a list of those good qualities of yours and improve it. Appreciate all your positive points and work on your weakness by shifting it as your strength. Even if others will not be aware and appreciative, still there are lots of good things about you.

May the following points above will able for you to realize that it is always worthy if you love yourself first. Let love find you when you have given all the love for yourself.

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