I was with a group of friends the other day and we had such great conversations. We talked about how social etiquette is lacking in our society and the urgent need for people to learn how to behave properly in social gatherings and on social media.
It is true that a large percentage of the teeming world population spend their time on social media. These days, two people could sit next to each other and not even share a glance as they could be engrossed in their phones, liking and commenting on posts of people they have never met and may never meet.
We talked about how important it is to ask people if they are available for a chat before you drop a series of Hys in their inbox and then get angry if they are not available to reply or they see it and don't reply.
A long time ago, a mentor told me something that has stayed with me and has helped me a lot over the years. He said, "always give excuses for people, give them the benefit of doubt, not be too quick to judge". If we can show a little bit of kindness and consideration to people, it would go a long way to preserve relationships. You don't have to conclude that the person has seen your messages and doesn't want to reply you. The person could be battling with a life threatening ailment and having a conversation with a stranger could be the last thing on his or her mind.
So, the next time you are tempted to get angry at your friend who hasn't called you for a week, pick up the phone and call her, let her know you're thinking about her. Most times, we are angry at people for not being there for us, but if only we could know the truth. They might be going through such a turbulent time in their life and the only thing they are thinking about is how to survive the next moment. Before you tell a person, "so, you've thrown me away", asked yourself if you have cared enough.
We are living in a woke generation. We are at perilous times. These days, we are quick to cut people out of our lives. There's been so much talk about protecting your space, not allowing negative energy in, cutting off people who don't want and need you etc. While all these is recommended, because really, you need to be in sane relationship to survive. Any relationship that destroys your self esteem, your peace and opportunity to grow is not worth it.
Just before you throw away the baby with the bath water, before you cut off that friend, you need to go through a lot of retrospection. Don't, just because it's a popular trend on social media to de-clutter your space, you make rash decisions and lose good friendships that has stood the test of time.
Sometimes, we need to be there for people for as long as it would take for them to realise that we really are for them and with them. Let me explain. Most persons have a hard time believing that they are loved, this might be as a result of horrible childhood experiences, it might be they things they've had to go through in life, the lemons life deals at us. This is quite a difficult thing to do and you can't be that person for everyone you meet. There are persons that just tug your heart in a very special way and you feel you should have faith in them as much as it is within your capacity to whilst still maintaining your self love and not do it to the detriment of your mental health.
We are in a woke generation but there are old time values we should never lose. I am not in any way encouraging staying in toxic relationships. I am saying that there is need to put in more efforts in our relationship. Commitment is one value that is getting extinct in our days. You, my dear reader should decide to be among those who would still reach out to love people deeper and more earnestly. Some relationships die when they should not have, probably because one person is too lazy to put in the work needed to make it work. The grass is not greener in the other side. It's is greener where you watered it. The relationship you are envying on social media and cooing couple goals, is not that beautiful because the two parties are relaxed and carefree.
This is the way I see it: if both parties bring their best game to the table, without trying to measure whose best is the best, they would end up complimenting each other in the most beautiful way possible.
So, basically, I'm saying, put in the work needed to make your relationship work. It's not sci-fi. It won't happen by magic. It would take deliberate efforts and commitment.
Stay Woke.
Nice job keep it up