A Relationship I Lost and What Happened

Day5

I was a member of a decorations team, in a church we used to meet on Saturdays to beautify the church for Sunday services and Thursday services.

The guys do the decorations, while the ladies will arrange the flowers, that was the routine every Saturday.

New members, join every Saturday, they were assigned to assist the guys hold thumb tags, nails, hammer and the materials.

On this particular Saturday, new members joined, I did not notice because I was busy decorating, someone greeted me, I answered but did not look, she informed me she is to assist me during the course of the work, okay I replied! still not looking.

We worked that day, without much talk, because, it was a busy day, much work needed to be done.

The next Saturday, she was working with me again, I wondered, all the same, I introduced myself, while she introduced herself as Princess.

We worked, talked about things relevant and irrelevant at that time, I noticed she was laughing about everything I said, we became close, any day she comes for decoration we work together.

Most times, if she is not assigned to work with me She'll look for a way to come work with me.

There were times, all the spinsters will go, if I am not done, she will wait until i finish, we'll gist, trek to her parents house or the junction to there house, it became a routine for us every Saturday.

For some Saturdays I did not see her, I tried her mobile number, it was switched off, on several occasions. I enquired about her well-being; her friends none seemed to know.

I became worried, one Saturday! I summoned courage, went to their house. I met her father, who told me they were not around for some weeks now, I was a bit relieved.

The church had a crusade, at civic center, we were there to decorate, after the program I saw her, i was happy,glad and we hugged.

It was almost 10pm, the crusade ended, she suggested we trek from Moscow road to St John's, since the crowd was much; so we could have time to gist since it has been some weeks we saw last.

We talked about everything that night; holding hands, we did not mind the distance, what was important was our company. I walked her to her father's house, it was almost 12 am, I took a cab to my house, she called to know if I was safe back home, I confirmed I was at home, we talked to an extent, I allowed her to sleep.

Every now and then, she was in my mind, she was the brain in my head, the blood in my veins, to the extent her mobile number was the only number I have in my head, same to princess; she does not know any member of her family's mobile number except mine.

I decided to take her out on a date she was in her in-laws place at GRA. I felt it would be a good place to meet her, so I get to know some members of her family.

I got to the house, I gave her a rose flower, the moment she opened the door. I was introduced to her brothers, who were playing table tennis at that time, I was introduced to her elder sister, who was as pretty as Princess, we exchanged pleasantries. She was excused, both entered the room.

Moments later Princess was dressed, we went out for a date, in a hotel.

I was impressed by the reception I received from her family members.

She requested to pay me a visit, I declined, reason being that; I was living at that time,in a very small room; three persons can not comfortably stay in the room.

I had; a small matress, 14" television, DVD, reading table, wardrobe, and a blue rug.

She persisted; she wants to know where I was living, I saw reasons with her, I gave her the address.

She came; saw all I told her, was true ,nothing to hide, she fell in love with me, because I always say the truth, I was in love with her also.

I was offered, admission, there was no money to pay for the acceptance fee, she collected money from her father and gave me to pay, I was humbled.

I was deeply in love with Princess and she was madly in love with me also, I bought any thing that is good to make her happy.

If I give her money to go make her hair, she makes the hair; I did not compliment it, she will either loose or cut the hair that, it's not fine. Otherwise, I would have complimented it.

The love was so real, so much that in a day I will call, 20-30 times, or branch where she is just to sight her for the day.

We started seeing each other, she was introduced to my parents, and I was also introduced to her parents.

We celebrated, each other's birthday, since my birthday is on 26th February, her's is 5th October, if it's my birthday, most times; we sit out, gist , compliment each other.

A week to her birthday, she went to youth Shiloh in Ota. I made arrangements with her brother to host a surprise party for her, on the 5th of October.

I invited all her friends that were around, but instructed them not to let her know.

We kept communicating on phone from Ota, I made sure everything was set, friends were around, as soon as she opened the door to their house, it was a surprise! every body started singing happy birthday song, she was surprised , overwhelmed by the show of love.

She did not expect it, but boom there it was. She was proud , having me as a friend.

When her father died, I was by her side providing comfort, making sure she was okay and comfortable.

The service of songs I invited my friends to the place, we had fun, the burial day we went to the mortuary, we excorted the corpse home, and he was laid to rest I was fully on ground.

When she was writing jamb, she was posted to the East, I went with her to ensure, she was okay, we both looked for admission in a good school, I assisted in filling the forms; other necessary help I could render to make her happy , because she was my best friend.

I bought her a starcom phone that we can talk for months without loading card. I will be on call with her, when I am less busy for hours. She was always there for me, and I was there for her.

We went to birthday parties together, occasions , get-togethers. She was my hand bag, we were 5 and 6. You know Christan relationship things, since there was no... Happening, the company was always needed.

One day, I proposed to her, because we had been friends for some years, my parents were happy, her people were happy, about us getting married.

I was still in school, and she was in school. UST, was frequently on strike; one year, six months; you are sure when you matriculated but the year of graduation was uncertain.

We have planned; for the wedding, tentative date chosen, list of invitees; number of kids to bear, their names, sex, I mean everything had been written out, everything, the challenge was the money.

I called her, one day and explained to her yes! we love each other, we will make a good couple. But if we marry now; how do we feed? where to live? since neither of us was working, I would prefer I graduate, and work for at least one year before we marry.

She suggested, we get married, her in-laws will give me work, i thought about it, in few seconds, and asked her "why not they give me the work now", so I don't become a liability to anyone tomorrow.

She did not say much, again I was tempted to eat the fruit but I held myself,"it was not good to defile the altar of God" let me wait still we get married.

After several weeks, when ever she come to the house, she will switch off her phone, I will ask why? she will say, "she does want her mum to call", so one day, she called that she was coming over to tell me something.

I left where I was and rushed home, I was all attentive, waiting for what she would say, she just stopped, "I should forget" I begged her to tell me, she kept repeating, "I should forget it",

I became curious because we have never hidden anything from each other before, we had a slight argument, she went home angry, within minutes, I was at there house, apologizing, because I was in love.

After some months, I was a best man for friends weeding, we both went, after the wedding a conversation brought a slight misunderstanding, , we both were angry she went home, I called to apologise later that evening.

We were still, hoping that things will get better, one day she came to the house and asked me? if she waited all this years and I graduated, l say, she is old, I marry somebody else what will she do?

I assured her, that will not happen, I will marry her. Within a week my father, was hospitalized, she came around, we were in the hospital, gisting before my father's case became critical, he died.

She was fully on ground during my father's burial, after my father was buried.

I did not see her any more; I will call she will give me the assurance she was coming but she will not come.

I went to her in-laws place, to assertain what the challenge was she will not give me a tangible answer, and what was going on, my mum will call her, she will say she was coming but she will not come.

I tried several times to get information from her but she will say there is nothing wrong.

A relationship I built for years just slipped out of my hand, that was the last I heard from her.That was how I lost the relationship, that was what happened.

I have missed and longed for her to come back, but it seems it was not meant to be.

Lesson: Value what you have now, before you lose it.