Too easy to Judge

We are living in a Society of Judgemental and mostly people who thinks they are the EPITOME of PERFECTION.

Well yeah, real talk.

Do you live with the approval of others?

Let us talk about mental illness, beliefs and real-life experience.

Sometimes mental illness starts because we want to be accepted by the people around us and it so happened that those people who we thought would be willing to accept us are the first to judge.

It is never easy to just pretend blinded by people's judgement and act like it is not affecting you because in reality we are raised to do or follow the "SOCIAL NORMS". And because "NO MAN is an ISLAND" we do whatever everyone likes us to do because we are afraid to get left behind. We are afraid to be the topic when not around.

But what is normal to you might not be normal for everyone same goes as what is normal to them might not be normal to you. Yeah?

For example, when it comes to FASHION. I experienced being a laughing stock before when I started working. As my workmates would tell me I look like I am just heading to wet market. I just decided to look down and smile it off but they just don't know my situation. And because I was afraid not to have any friends I kept it all to myself but it really made a great impact to me that even if I am not feeling any hatred towards them it pains me when I am reminded with the past. It affected my self-esteem and my confidence.

Now, I still wear whatever makes me feel comfortable but I listen when my sister would give me advise which I haven't heard from those that I called "FRIENDS" before.

Eventually, everything happens for a reason because I got transferred to a different department where I met individuals who could relate to me and who I can open up things about me without any hesitation.

You know, it is seldom that you find people who know that there is something wrong when you are just sitting there silently. Not everyone would be lucky enough to be with people who don't judge and would totally accept you for who you are and ready to scold you when you are being stupid with decision-making.

And this is one of the reason why I find some of the people I know kinda weird. But again, what is normal for them might not be normal for me so I do not judge but I give advises when I feel like the person is open for one. Like, even if they can't afford to buy a certain thing or appliances or maybe launch a birthday party they would push for it and lend a money just to show off.

"The GOAL is to be RICH not to LOOK RICH"

But then it seems that it is normal for people to show off and normal for others to PRAISE SOMEONE who they thought has a LOT OF MONEY. If they won't listen then let them be.

While as for me, if I can live without upgrading my lifestyle then I'll stay the same. Why?

Because I don't want to. If I would have for example a salary increase I don't want to increase my lifestyle. That is why those who are RICH some of them, not all, has bigger debts. So I am fine with keeping my status and save for my childrens future.

Another thing that I would want to share which I already shared in noise:https://noise.cash/post/ln50vz7j

STORY TIME:

My last meal was before I sleep that was breakfast around 10am. Then I woke up with a growling stomach and realize I never had lunch.

Since I have to go out for some errands decided to get up, take a bath and went to my fave burger shop.

My knees were kinda shaking coz I am really hungry but I gotta go directly to my errands because its for my baby...

I ordered 1 buy 1 take 1 burger which has cheese and egg. Then a softdrink...

I eat while feeling that lil pain in my stomach but relieved at the same time.

Then there's this woman who look at me from head to foot and with how she looks it makes me feel like shes judging my INFORMAL way of eating because again I am too hungry plus I am in my 2nd burger which means I finished the other one. Yep thats how hungry I am and I am kinda fat 🤣😂😅 yet I feel bad with how she looks at me.

Yes I eat a lot.

Yes I am fat.

And yes it is BAD TO STARE 😅

And I am not suppose to care yeah? Ok lemme enjoy my burger LOL!!

I was embarrassed to be honest but we have to learn to choose our battles and not mind lil things too much despite the fact that it kinda bite.

But I appreciate my fellow dear noisers who commented and made me feel better:

I am kinda fat or chubby. I have undergone 2 minor and another 2 major operations. And those affected my weight and my way of eating as I get to take medicine that has higher dosage and forget about diet. So you guys should better be careful with your health.

Being slim is always referred to as being SEXY while being FAT most likely is GROSS.

But to everyone reading this, please know that the kindest heart might be hidden in that fat woman you were laughing. Let us normalize respecting others preferences, beliefs and values. If ever we are concern let us try to learn on how to raise it in such a way that we do not offend the person. We never really can tell the reason behind anything not unless revealed and only when it is too late that we get to realize the value of the person when they are gone.

Thank you for reading this article. Hope you don't find it like promoting negative vibes as it isn't my intention.

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