In life we have both ups and downs. There are times when you think that odds are in your favor while there are cases when you would think that God could have forgotten you, same way when you have not received a TIP from NOISE or an UPVOTE from Lil Rusty. (Yeah? Relate? HAHA)
So yes, life is UNFAIR. It is unfair for me, for you and for that person you thought who has everything!
There are just some people who are warriors by blood that at first glance you won't notice they are bleeding but if you get to know them you would see that deeper than what you saw when you first me that they are also going through difficulties in life. Now, what is the secret to stay glowing and look happy or stay happy despite all the uncertainties?
Be POSITIVE! Yes, I can certainly agree that we really just can't help thinking bad experiences, buts and what ifs but as much as possible feed your mind with all the positive thoughts. What you think, what you do and what you believe is powerful. #LAWOFATTRACTION!
What I can advise : there are 10 things that we would have to be very mindful so to live a better life. You may agree with me or not but read these and see if you would realize something:
Choose your circle.
You may have been so used to old friends that you tend to forget to socialize. Learn to observe and mingle with those people who has good perspective in life so you will be influenced. If you have friends, tell them straight if they committed something wrong. Let us normalize providing feedback or criticism and accepting it because it is one way for us to grow.
What other people think about you is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS.
Avoid the,"what people would say if" attitude. People who matters won't mind if what you do is something that makes you happy and as long as its humane so do not focus on the opinion of others. And when I say opinion those INSENSITIVE ONES. There are people whp criticize because they care but there are also people who voice out their thoughts without thinkin twice yet do not be discouraged.
Choose your BATTLE.
I see a lot of people posting in social media shaming others and/or fighting. The hatred and cat fight is now digital. Despite this, learn to choose your battle. Never mind if you lose it anyway it won't kill you as long as you did not do anything wrong.
You are a work in progress.
Do not try so hard to be the BEST because if you are with the people who loves you they would feel the same without you even trying. You are flawed and learn to accept that. Every is not perfect, it is just that, some knows how to enhance their assets or abilities so no one would notice their flaws.
Listen to understand not to respond.
We would have to know when to shut up. Let other people talk and explain their side. As we grow older we would know how to balance our judgement.
Learn to say NO!
Just like me, since I am a family oriented type of person it feels like I want to give everything to my family but there are cases when I wanted to take a break sacrificing what I have. So learn to say no especially when you think you do not have enough to give.
Believe in YOURSELF.
- Some people might have walked away from your life without any reason giving you an impression that you do not deserve closure or explanation but let them be. Let them go and do not be afraid to open your door to new opportunity to come. Remember at the end, you can only count on YOU.
Have some ME TIME.
DO NOT ever let a day or a week without you spending sometime with yourself. ALONE.
Life is short so LAUGH if you must!
Enjoy lil things you have and better if you can travel then GO!
Be CONTENTED.
In order for you to be happy one key is to be contented. If you can't have what you want, then want what you can have. Do not go buy for a chanel when the only thing you can afford is a local brand. There is nothing wrong with local brands but what I am tryin to say is, " LIVE as your INCOME". Not unless if you are born with a silver platter then Go!
We have to accept that some things are not meant for us and just be grateful. Reality bites because if it won't then theres no challenge. Of course these things should not stop you from reaching your goals. Striving hard to achieve ones dream or a certain career is like a fuel that would add up to mold you to become a better person. Just do not take it too much that it ends up you compromising yourself or others.
Thank you for reading my article! I appreciate your time. Know that your thoughts matter to me as well as it would mold me to become better in this platform.
I like especially the "if people walk away without an explanation, let them"
Sometimes it's hard to let go. But we don't have infinite amount of space to keep everybody lol