You see, I have been contemplating things about marriage and really settling down.
Now I realize that its best to choose the people you share your secrets and life happenings.
I regret somehow talking to some people about my struggle dealing with my partner before now, when telling them about my upcoming marriage they would have a lot of things to say. Which I know is my fault because I have cried and confided to them a lot of times and they see my partner as not capable and a bad one.
But then, a person deserves a chance and I wanted to give this chance to him for my kids.
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Hello Mike! Thank you for this. I wish a father to run to but for sure if my father is still alive I won't be this miserable because he for one mentioned before that whoever wants to court me would need to buy 1 case of strong alcoholic drink per steps of our stairs and only when he is able to come up to the top sober would he be allowed to court. Lol!
I do have a brother but he is away from home and I do not want to burden him for now with my personal matters since I know he is struggling too waiting for his company to assign him a ship where he start working...
Life is complicated but when I started seeing my partner doing his best and striving to be better, I was like, who am I to not give him a chance. Our kids also keeps asking when are we planning to get wed since that day they saw a frame of wedding pic from one of my relatives. They were like "Ma, Pa, where is your wedding photo?"
I always think that parents should do what's best for the kids like our parents did for us, at least here in the US. Today people think more about themselves than the good of the family. It sounds like you are thinking about the good of the whole family, which is fantastic!
I wish you all the best! Michaelson
Glez, if you have a father, brother, or any men in your family, seek them out for advice. Men can often detect whether another man is good, while women, especially when in love, may overlook certain issues. You want someone who can evaluate your chosen partner from an outside perspective. The heart is sometimes blind to potential problems down the road. If your man is a good man, your father, brothers, or other male family members will likely know right away.
Good Luck!