The Tradition Against Married Women In My Tribe

Today, I am writing about my culture. There is this practice that has been on since the days of my forefathers. This tradition is targeted on women who cheats on their husband. She brings curses to herself and her family

Since learning that a married woman cannot cheat on her spouse, many individuals have expressed conflicted emotions. This curse is supposed to be part of the tradition and custom followed in some areas Igbo land here in Nigeria. Her children and husband pass away as a result of her refusal to follow this practice.

Dear readlanders, I will be sharing with you some things based on my knowledge and research to dispel some myths that have been spread about this particular practice. I'll also share my beliefs with you here in this article.

First and foremost, this tradition actually exists; if a woman who is married to a man from some part of Igbo land commits adultery, not only will her children die, but if she refuses to confess, her husband also runs the chance of losing his life. It is a very well-known custom especially in my hometown.

The custom states that the betraying woman's family would experience inexplicable death, beginning with her children and ending with her husband. She will lose her life if she doesn't have children; otherwise, it will be her husband.

However, it rarely gets to that point because the spouse of a woman with such a curse is likely to be aware of it and take severe measures to save his life and the lives of his children.

Here are some traditional information you should be aware of and how they have been existing

This custom only applies if the woman is legally wed and has been paid as the bride price. Therefore, if her bride price has not been paid, she will not suffer any consequences if she deceives.

The curse will impact the cheating woman's spouse if she buys food or money for him from her adulterous associates.

A wife who cheats on her spouse is unable to make him supper, breakfast or dinner

The man will experience enlarged legs and a tummy. If the couple has children, the children will mysteriously pass away one after the other. Sometimes it begins with strange sickness as a sign.

The male can cheat on as many women as he wants without suffering any consequences.

The lady and the guys she is cheating on don't experience any consequences.

In some cases, if she admits, she is supposed to ask the men she has been having extramarital affairs with, if they can be found, to contribute to the ceremony to lift the curse from her family.

The mother must confess and carry out rituals to free her husband and kids in order to lift the curse.

Conclusion

This ancient tradition, or curse was created by our forefathers for reasons unknown to me, though these traditions and curses do not withstand modern scrutiny of equality. This has raised so many questions and have concerns as people think this custom has one clear goal in mind which is to keep women at distance so that males can enjoy the sexual freedom as they've always wanted. To back this up a little bit, this tradition was created when marrying ten wives was seen as a trend. When wealth was measured by how many wives a man could marry.

It is true that this custom has prevented the majority of modern day women who married from these parts from having extramarital affairs, yet it would not be unreasonable to claim that the gods who created this curse, custom, or tradition lacked insight.

How can you let a man or who has cheated on a married woman get away with it while punishing her husband and children who are innocent? It is ineffective punishment!

The woman and her adulterous associates should be the target of the curse, not the woman's blameless husband or her children.

(To be continued please)

Thanks for your time

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