Living with pain

"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have ".. Cayla Mills.

Good evening readers and readstars. Happy weekend all. A beautiful Saturday here and I hope we are all enjoying the weekend break. Just as we have started the year of 2022 and have kept pushing forward till present, may we remain so strong and healthy to persevere to the end and record no loss in our book. Amen.

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Pain they say makes us stronger but is this always true? when we feel pain, does it really means we are going to be our stronger self in whatever we are doing? The feeling of pain is not cool with no one because nobody enjoys that. There has never been a time in history of mankind that someone enjoys being in pain. Despite not being liked by humans, we still have this feeling in us. Different people react differently when they experience pain. This pain might be due to lost of a treasure or disappointment from the world. This is life filled with goodness and love, love and hatred, hatred and betrayal, betrayal and loss, then lost and pain. The feeling of lost is so much unwelcomed and never a likely experience. Everyone on earth must have in a way or the other passed through loss or betrayal which caused them pain. Even the animals in our ecosystem feel/suffer loss and pain from humanity. How we react or respond could be by crying and sobbing, some tries to end it all by taking their own life and have nothing to do with the wicked world. But all these will always come and go. Time will and had always healed hearts, broken and betrayed hearts.

Some people seclude themselves and make themselves unreachable for days and months suffering and some suffer this pain in silence. They show their teeth by the day and gnash them at night. The results of pain on humans are always negative. This tells me that there is no cure for regret. When things happen and we can't change it, we might have earlier tried our beautiful best to avoid them from happening. Yes! because some people sense the nearer outcome of the future and try to change it for good or prevent it from happening but when their efforts seems not to prevail, they have no choice but to accept the calling Faith. So it is when we can't change a situation, accepting it as it happened and not letting it eat deeply into us is a sure way of dealing with pain.

I have seen someone suffer from a loss for years and from that, he became mentally deranged and the result of everything was the end of him. He died. After losing his shop and saving to a fire incident. It is really heartbreaking and fatal to see your sweats and what you have worked for for years being ruined by fire. This man's story was so popular in my community after people have offered to help him but he was not mentally ready. The fire that burnt his business burnt other people's own as well, it got into him so bad maybe because according to him, his money and savings were in the burning shop. He attempted to jump into the he flames many times but was held back and forcefully took out of sight. This is a heavy sad experience. No one would wish anyone that. The other people that were affected by the incident accepted their lost and after some time, started again and were all back to their feet's before the demise if the man that had his savings burnt. People were saying so many things like he is owing a firm, he borrowed the money from the bank and so many things. I felt so sorry when the sad news broke. I still maintain that the fire incident is not and never enough for him to meet his end.

It is true that we are bigger than what happens to us as I have always believed. But some things hit us hard and we would need support to stand firm. The situation can only throw us down when we allow it to eat us up. There are many more instances of loss and betrayal not to mention. The greatest come back is the acceptance that you couldn't change it and that it already happened. Seek for help, opinion and support, I bet you , you will rise higher than before. We have to cry and mourn our loss though,but still, we refuse to go backwards. Forward ever! as my homies in my hoodie would always say.

When we allow things to get over us, it takes over and pushes us down. This is difficult to do but we can always.

People get betrayed from friends and relations and live with shock from that over time. It a surprising thing to know that the person you think you are walking with both legs is actually walking backwards. Betrayal from friends or heartbreak from people of least expected hurts to the core. My dad will always say that "it is that person that knows you that will betray you. A stranger would never betray you". As I grow up, I read more meaning to what this man has been saying. I see so many heartbreak and hear so many betrayal from people . I am just lucky enough to not have fallen into any rough trap of betrayal. I have dealt with my past though. I have recorded loss's in my history but the outcome is that it strengthens me.

Pain will always come and as it comes, it will go. No one should allow things get to their head. It could be a challenge from nature to test out strength and response, what if we fail this test? the more to come will just be taken away. It never easy as I said but we can always. People have done business together from scratch and when they made huge profit, one of them plotted a plan of betrayal and it was taking the other persons life. God by his side, the murderers revealed to him who sent them and that was the end of their friendship and business together. Some natural causes of pain that can't be cured like death of a lived one, have to be accepted and it just with times, the heart that weeps will smile again.

Some pains caused by humans like; betrayal, being lied to or convicted if a crime you know nothing about and other bad things man does to his fellow man are the pains we have to at all cost try to avoid them by being careful with our dealings with people. Monitoring with sense, every movement we make and even the choice we make. Anything could happen, so as we trust, let trust with caution. As we say or choose, let say and choose with sense respectively. Betrayal is real and pain is real too. Some don't even trust anything anymore because they have been betrayed and would avoid that by not having anything to trust again. They make up their minds and stick to that. I have seen people like that. Pain and betrayal has this type of negative outcome.

In this life, we have lied and have been lied to, we have been trusted and have trusted others, we have failed others and have been failed too, we have love and have been loved, maybe because we meet people we are supposed to miss and miss people we are supposed to meet.

Thanks for reading and have a fulfilling end of the month.

@Gianna-B, 2022 and all rights reserved.

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