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"When the anger is intense, the person with Asperger's syndrome may be in a 'blind rage' and unable to see the signals indicating that it would be appropriate to stop. Feelings of anger can also be in response in situations where we would expect other emotions. I have noted that sadness may be expressed as anger"

Tony Attwood

Good morning dear readers, happy Friday to you all. Something happened this morning as I was working out with my sister. All of a sudden, we began hearing noise from our neighbors. I thought it would be a temporary one but within a few minutes, the shouting turned to screaming. The next thing we heard was "Help! Help!" From the neighbors and out of surprise, my sister and I called the attention of our parents. They went first to check what was happening and before we got there, there was a small crowd already.

It all started with a little misunderstanding between two brothers that gradually turned into a fight. They were both angry at each other and raised their voices at themselves, even their mothers plea didn't stop them. They acted out of annoyance and got themselves into a fight. All these happened as a result of anger. They couldn't control it.

We all understand what anger is and have experienced it at some point, whether it was a little annoyance or a full-blown wrath. Anger is an entirely typical and typically positive human emotion. It can, however, cause issues at work, in your personal relationships, and in the general quality of your life when it spirals out of control and becomes harmful just like this two brothers fighting this morning

You may experience the feeling that you are at the mercy of a strong, erratic emotion when you are angry. Your blood pressure, heart rate, and levels of the energy hormones noradrenaline and adrenaline all increase and are difficult to control when you're upset. You become pushed to take action or to react negatively in the situation.

Events both internal and external might trigger anger. It could be traffic delay, a flight cancellation, or a specific person or event could be the source of your rage, or it could be brought on by fretting or obsessing over personal issues, or even at home in your own comfort. If you don't offend others, others might offend you. Angry feelings can also be brought on by memories of upsetting or painful experiences but what matters is the application of self control.

Responding violently is the automatic and natural manner that anger is expressed, it inspires strong, frequently aggressive feelings and behaviors that enable us to fight and defend ourselves when we are attacked, it is a natural, adaptive response to threats. Therefore, some level of rage is essential for our survival as too much of it isn't just bad but could be dangerous.

On the other hand, laws, social norms, and common sense place boundaries on how far our rage can take us. It is healthy to get angry but that doesn't mean we should continue with that. As a result, we can't physically lash out at every person or thing that irritates or annoys us.

Since we are everlasting prone to anger, the best method to deal with it is to express it in a confident, non-aggressive manner. To do this, you must learn how to express your demands and how to meet them without hurting other people. Respecting yourself and others requires being forceful without being aggressive or demanding.

Anger can be contained, then transformed or directed. This occurs when you suppress your rage, put it out of your mind, and concentrate on the good. Your anger is to be contained or suppressed in order to channel it into more useful activity. If your anger isn't permitted to find an outlet outside of yourself, it could move inward and toward you and can result in sadness or high blood pressure.

I have gotten angry on several occurrences, but I have shown some control too over it. Sometimes it's unspoken and sometimes it is spoken out loud and acted as well.

Anger that goes unspoken might lead to other issues. It can result in pathological outbursts of rage, such as passive-aggressive behavior (attacking others covertly without explaining why rather than outright) People who continuously get angry are seen as dangerous in my city. People try to avoid them and one other thing about them is that it shows on their body. Their physical appearance tell you that such a person has a bitter bite when they're angry. Let's do well to control this natural feeling especially in our homes, I urge parents to tech their kids how to overcome this anger because they are the basic unit of the society.

"Do not let your anger lead to hatred, as you will hurt yourself more than you would the other"

Stephen Richards

Thanks for reading lovelies and have a wonderful weekend.

@Gianna-B

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