Self-love is paramount.

My thoughts are as cloudy as today's morning weather, I developed mixed feelings about love after seeing a movie last night and I couldn't deny the message from the movie.

I am someone who believes a lot in love and I have always understood the fact you can't give what you don't have to people but it looks like I have been wrong all along. There are lots of people out there who are crying in the heart, they go around with heavy burdens in their hearts but they still choose to give out love.

Should I say that they don't have love and yet they give to others or should I say they don't just know how to love themselves?

I don't have an answer to this and I hope someone helps me solve this in the comment section.

Self-love is important, it is compulsory. A life without it is in pain because if you don't love yourself, it means you hate yourself so how then do you live with yourself when you can't feel, you can't forgive and even comfort yourself because all these things demand loving yourself first.

Thinking about took me to some songs on my playlist that interpret my message better, these songs emphasized the need for self-love.

In 2017, I had this coursemate who was full of life and energy. The class never gets bored with him whenever he is around, I do envy him because he was happy. I wasn't happy because I was struggling to get educated, this guy didn't graduate with us.

He died, he committed suicide by drinking an insecticide. His death came as a shock to everyone then but it didn't cross my mind why he was making others happy when he wasn't happy, self-love was missing.

Just like you won't hurt others because you love them, I think you wouldn't hurt yourself if you love yourself as well. The impact of self-love is been underrated, it can help you overcome challenges because when you love yourself, you will believe in yourself, and as simple as it might look, it is difficult for some people to do.

Self-love brings growth, contentment, hope, happiness, peace, mental stability, and many other qualities you need as a human to enjoy a good life so why are we missing out on it?

Ed Sheeran - Save yourself.

I don't know what inspired him to write the song but he passed a message about the need for self-love. It is impossible to tell that you know the importance of love and you don't love yourself, a person who values love will love him or herself. Ed-Sheeran is one of my favorites, his lyrics bring this special feeling accompanied by emotions.

I am sure we have been betrayed by someone we have shown great love to before, what do you think will happen when more of those you love neglects you? Self-love is what you do be hanging onto so imagine when it is not there, life becomes miserable.

Save yourself speaks about the reason to love yourself, to be happy with yourself because there are times when you will be alone and will need to rely on self-love. You need to put effort into yourself just like you are doing for others to be happy in life, you deserve every good thing you are doing to others so don't deprive yourself of it.

Another interesting thing about the song is that encourages you not to stop loving others no matter what people make you feel like after loving them, Humans will always be human so don't expect too much from them.

Jessie J- Who you are

Is it worth losing who while caring for others? I don't think so, love should be kept in balance.

You can't satisfy the world, doing that would only make you worth nothing to yourself. While loving others, what you feel for yourself, the image you see about yourself must be satisfying for yourself.

Walking on thorns while pleasing people will only cause you pain, there has to be a balance, and even when the Bible spoke about love, it didn't say we shouldn't love ourselves. It says and I quote "Love your neighbors as yourself".

The world might not like you for who you are but you have to love yourself for who you are, trading who you are for what they want would definitely end in regrets.

Who says by Selena Gomez

Selena Gomez nailed this song and if you doubt it, check the video and see.

I had a friend who loved the song, she is chubby and beautiful but some people somehow don't see the beauty, I was wondering what she sees in this song until I listened to it myself.

You just have to appreciate yourself, no one will see value in you if you don't see value in yourself and you can't realize your value until you love yourself.

Are you dark, tall, fat, or whatever you may look like doesn't worth you hating yourself, you are beautiful and it takes just you to realize that?

Isn't it funny how people want you to love them for who they are and request you to be a different person just for them to accept you?

I hope I haven't bored you with my article, I feel really down knowing that a lot of people are going through struggles to accept who they really are and I wish they can love themselves because it will definitely turn their lives around positively.

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