I have kept my pen covered for the past few days because I couldn't concentrate on writing an article, I thought I was strong enough to carry on despite what happened to me last week which I made a post about here.
https://read.cash/@George_Dee/life-unexpected-event-3c80a18b
I was quick to take it off my mind and my family was worried about me but I acted strong because I didn't want them to see my weakness been the first child of the family. I was particularly worried about my younger ones who see me as a hero because I have been a father to them for a long time due to responsibility. I made them learn from me, I taught them that the challenges I faced with the pond were normal and it is impossible for things like that not to happen in life but we mustn't let things like that pull us down.
And truly, I was right about challenges. They will always come up at one point in our lives but we mustn't be broken but these words are easier said than done. Deep down in me, I wasn't fine, the flashes I get from the scene still make my heart race hard because it was the least expected thing I thought could happen to me.
I do cheer up during the day but my night wasn't fun and I get nightmares almost immediately after closing my eye, it got so bad that I stay up throughout the night. I wasn't taking it so much to the heart but my mind seems stuck to the loss that came up as a result of the damaged pond that resulted in the fish getting their freedom.
At first, I was hiding what I was going through every night and I finally had to open up to people about it to prevent the situation from getting worst than it has been. I got help psychologically and spiritually because some battles shouldn't be fought alone, we need people at some point in life to support us during difficult moments like this.
Despite the difficult times, I still had the opportunity to learn lessons that I believe will be beneficial to lots of people on and outside the platform.
It's okay to cry.
I know you do be wondering why I said so, don't mind me. In the last few days, I have understood that crying doesn't make you a weakling.
A lot of people today assume that people who cry are weak, I want you to understand that it doesn't determine how strong you are but instead, it relieves you of the pain your heart is holding.
I cried and even got aches from it but I felt relieved of the burden my heart was holding at that moment. It is your choice to choose to cry privately or openly but I did mine privately, remember my siblings are seeing me as a hero and I mustn't mess up. (laughing)
Don't be shy to ask for help
Have you ever been in a tight situation and you need help but don't want to ask because you think you can go through the difficult times alone?
It is good when you have that strength burning in you, during this moment you can take on the world but you don't have the resources.
It is okay to ask for help regardless of the chances of getting up from others.
Understandably, people feel reluctant to ask for help due to the fear of rejection but no matter how bad the situation is, some people will still stand up to help you out of difficulty.
Seeking help doesn't have to be financial help, it can be spiritual or psychological support, regardless of whichever kind of help you need - there are still good people out there who will support you through your hard times.
I seek help from people and I am glad they stood up to support me in the best way they could, I was really happy because it went a long way for me.
Never give up.
"Giving up is not an option for anyone who wants to succeed in life". It is a regular saying for me because I encourage and support people not to give up regardless of the challenges life brings us.
The purpose of the pond wasn't personal because it is a project funded by lots of people to help the kids in my community. Challenges like this are enough to scare you off the path but if truly you are committed to your dream, you wouldn't dream of quitting.
Fish farming is more than just a project to me because it is a dream come through for me and I mustn't let it slide away from my hands because of small challenges.
During times like this, we must stay focused and avoid distractions that could occur due to the pain the heart holds.
What have I been doing in the past few days?
In the past few days, I mentioned earlier that I haven't been writing but chatting instead just to take my mind off the setback I had.
I have been having fun on noisecash, spending time with my family, doing the things I love most which include cooking and others.
I have been spending some time with nature as well and it has been amazing because I get lots of inspiration from it.
To everyone, we need to engage with things that make us happy and we should never lose faith in a better future as we hope and pray that God restores everything that was lost.
In conclusion, we should understand that God is aware of everything that happens to us in life and when bad happens, it is for a greater purpose.
You're on right path and discovering ourself is most important thing of our life And personally I'm also on same path and journey