Stop blaming other people for your inability of not been able to achieve what you want, because the problem is not others but the is problem is from you. - Gently

Your problem is from you there's no need of looking outside to blame other people, when it's you yourself that is causing the problem that is disturbing you, how would you know that you suppose to work out for your brighter future and you refuse to work it out, rather you sit down and be complaining of having nothing and achieving nothing when you definitely know the right thing to do and you refuse to do it.

There is no need of depending on people be it your brother, friends or even your parents, because putting your whole trust on someone is not truly right, because they will sometimes fail you, they might not really do it to your taste and that's people for you, people will definitely fail you and turn you down by scattering all your plans, irrespective of how close or the level of love and care they show to you.

People are truly different, the way people talks or demonstrate when they see you is not exactly what they think in their mind against you in secret, they can tell you to you face that you shouldn't worry about everything concerning your future and everything about your life that they will help you, and that is exactly where sometimes most people become problem to their selves unknowingly, how on earth would someone take all his future load on someone else and relax his mind that everything would be fine.

It was said cast all your care opon the Lord for he cares for you, not upon men, men are men and God is God, God can not fail but men can fail humans are not to be trusted, even casting all your care upon him does not mean that you should be idle, do not worry about tomorrow for tommorow would worry about itself, yes we all know tommorow would worry about itself, but you have enough to worry about today or else you will miss out, but we shouldn't be worried about it was said but we are to plan ahead of tomorrow.

Since manna falls once in the scripture I haven't heard of manna falling again, so my mentor would say, there's no need of sleeping while you suppose to be working, you work when it is day for night comes where no man can work again, making good use of our time matters in life than wasting it, the wise people says that money can buy clock but not time, it is a costly thing that money can't buy, when you miss use it you have miss it.

We become our problems when our mind doesn't speak clearly positive, your thought and feelings about what you can do, or cannot do are the sum total result of a lifetime of experience and conditioning, and usually have a little relationship to what is truly possible for you - by Brain Tracy. This is stated by the great author and this is simply the truth of it all. We become our own problems when all our thoughts and feelings are pre-occupied by negative thoughts and feelings.

We become our problem right from the very time we give way to negative thoughts to rule over our feelings and thought, that's when we start blaming other people and seeing them as the cause of our down fall or by seeing ourselves as people who wouldn't be able to make it, or having in mind that we would not be able to solve a certain problem and challenges that may comes our way on a daily basis.

We normally become problems to ourselves the moment we doubt ourselves and also open a way to low self-esteem, this is when we become unknown to who we truly are, this is when we definitely run out of self-confidence and having feelings of incompetent and also thinking we have been abandon by our love ones, and we also criticise ourselves from time to time with negativity. And some common signs of low self-esteem we show at times can be;

• Putting blames on ourselves when ever thing goes wrong around us.

• Always using negative words against ourselves in a joking way.

• Too much focusing on the negative and ignoring the positive.

• Having bad feelings, being unhappy, depressed, sad, angry or worthless.

• Thinking that it can't be you, or you don't deserve it.

All these things are what added problems to our everyday life by making life seems truly possible for us, where by if we can see ourselves like we are important and also know our value and what we good at, and also learn be to excited about the little things we have at a time and also believing for more to come.

Conclusion

Most times the problems that is affecting us does not come as a result of other people causing it, some problems probably begin with us personally and so it might come through lack of our ignorance and some through the ones we purposely does it.

We have to fine a way of solving our problems than putting blames on other people, because there's no amount of blaming will put on people that will stop or settle the problem, nothing will ever change when we blame others, rather the problem will keep on increase every.

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