Why I Choose To Stay Single

Family relationship, friendship, acquaintanceship, and the relationship that we have with our certain special person that we all believe are the one that has been destined for us. Relationship, single statement with many connotations. Aside from it being a label, there is a great deal of responsibility and affiliation bound to it. We can't say everyone's had the experience of being into a relationship of being a romantic couple, but I know everyone's had the experience of admiring someone. Crushes, puppy love, first love all of them are different.

One may choose to be in a romantic relationship for a different purpose, some may just want to reciprocate what they received from the other, some may choose to find fulfillment in their heart by bounding a relationship with a different person one may just want to take a risk on being committed to a certain person. But I suppose it's different for someone like me, an independent personality also desires a partner since they want to feel special too. However, it's difficult to find a partner in our case, not because we set high standards, but because most people who try to approach occasionally felt intimidated by our personality.

I'm not sure if what I'm going to say is applicable for all but as someone with an independent personality, I see my goal as a necessity formed by my own struggle without relying on others. Depending on the situation, I see my partner as a different person. He can be my man, my partner, my best friend, my associates, or anyone else depending on my mood. We accept advice and assistance, but not when it comes to something we choose to do on our own. And it was at this point that the intimidation began to rise. There’s an inevitable chance that we won’t be able to give them enough time for what many call “quality time” until we are not satisfied with the things we want to start or finish. Of course, our partners are more than willing to lend a helping hand, but the problem is that we usually refuse thinking that we can manage on our own. Most of the time we just ask for support and patience with these traits of ours but I guess that is too hard to bear with.

I've been in intimate relationships twice, and both of them complained that I was arrogant and depend on my own too much, and they couldn't help but feel intimidated since I always declined their assistance. I'm too focused on my priorities, and I'm not aware that I'm hurting their feelings even though my intention was I don't want to bother them. I chose to be single after my previous relationship ended, and I frequently introspect on my personality, thinking of hat character I needed to enhance. From then on I understood myself little by little, realizing that I had this personality.

I am not disappointed in myself even if no one attempts to dare to approach me, I know that I could survive anything as long as I value myself. Maybe I'll eventually realize enough that I needed a partner, that I needed their help by the time I'd gotten myself used to accepting help from others.

Until the right time comes I choose to be single.

Disclaimer: I am neither a psychologist nor a financial advisor, and all of my pieces were done for entertainment purposes only. What I've written here is merely my personal opinion, and any statements made are based on my personal views and should not be taken as fact. Always do your due diligence.

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