"Where do broken hearts go?"

Does distance really matter to a relationship? Will you disregard the relationship that you have been for over a decade, just because you meet a new person who always at your side? Would you give up the plans and dreams that you have been shared with the person who loves you the most, but was a million miles away from you? Does love easily fade away? Will you choose the one who is far or the one who is at your side?

My nephew introduce me this kind of a relationship called LDR or Long distance relationship. That was the time where I'm still single and never had a long term relationship. I don't know about that long distance relationship and how would it work. But as my nephew has a girlfriend that was a million miles away from him, I have learned what kind of relationship was it. His girlfriend is working overseas, it is working in Taiwan as a factory worker. At first I don't believe that the relationship will work, because for me it's impossible to love a person who is a million miles away from you. But I just think that way because I'm single 😅(bitter lang?😂). But everything has changed when I meet my current partner in Facebook. But anyway it's a different story so let's go back to my nephew's story 😂.

So this nephew of mine become my animé buddies for a short time, as he also love to watch anime movies. That's how we become close. I don't remember anymore of how we started talking about my relationship status, coz all I remember we where just watching a movie that time until he told me about he's relationship. He says that he has a girlfriend for more than two years, but they are in Long distance relationship because it was currently working in Taiwan, as a factory worker. But he's girlfriend always have a yearly vacation, so they still got a chance to have bond and to know each other more, even just for a short time. Actually according to him, they know each other personally because that girl also graduated in the same school where my nephew graduated in college. The girl is five years older than my nephew, but age doesn't matter to them. In two years their relationship was open to both families, and that made their relationship stronger over the decade.

Three years later, it was year 2019, when I learned that my nephew finally got he's working visa in Dubai. He's been waiting for it for almost two years, so I was very happy for him. When I was still staying at their house, he keeps on asking me if how it feels like, to work abroad? What's the difference and so on. I told him everything, even the struggles of a first timer worker in abroad. So when he got he's job in Dubai, he felt excited and at the same time worried. But I told him to just enjoy he's worked, and don't mind about the distance of being far from home, far from his family and friends. He says he was ready to face every struggle that he may encounter in abroad, for his dream and for the future, he was also happy and excited for their future with he's long term girlfriend. They are already six years of being in a long distance relationship that time, and according to him it's getting stronger.

When he arrives in Dubai, he still sent me messages in my messenger. He says that he was excited to start working and meet new people. I told him to just take everything easy in his work place, so he won't feel any pressure. He is working in a hotel as a bar tender. I just lost my communication with him when he started working because besides of our time difference, he says that he always feel tired after he's shift so he can't be able use his phone anymore.

Nine months later, I saw his post in his Facebook account together with his long term girlfriend. At first I thought he went home to Philippines but after I read his caption, he stated that they are in Dubai international airport. He fetch his girlfriend, because his girlfriend just arrived in Dubai and it will also be working in Dubai base on the comments that I have read. I really feel happy for them, as they're plan really goes well. But I never knew that there's a real story behind those photos.

One month after his girlfriend arrive in Dubai, I noticed that they are not friends in Facebook anymore. I was too curious as I just saw them having fun together in the photos that they have just share in their Facebook accounts two weeks ago. But besides of the photos that my nephew had been uploaded, I always saw some tagged photos in my nephews Facebook account together with his co-worker and this girl which I think also his co-worker. My nephew didn't upload any photos of him together with his co-workers, for I don't know reason. But his co-workers always tagged him, so I can still saw his weekend hang out, which I think his girlfriend can also see those photos as they are friends in Facebook too. I think because of those photos his girlfriend feel jealous because in every photos that was being tagged, there's always this girl seating beside him. The girl is younger than my nephew base on how it looks like in her photos and it's pretty. And since in every photos they always together, even I, I felt that there is something between them. That somehow made me think that maybe my nephew is cheating on his girlfriend.

It's nearly Christmas last 2019, when I saw his long term girlfriend posted on her Facebook account. The post is just a simple message stating that "everything that happens has a reason". While my nephew didn't post anything about them anymore. I think their decade relationship has ended just like that. I don't know the reason but I don't understand whatever their reasons, because they've been in a relationship for a decade and they just wasted it.

Last year, I saw my nephew keeps on posting some photos together with that new girl on his Facebook account. Which I think that girl is his new girlfriend. Until I saw a tagged status that his being in a relationship to that new girl. So I confirmed that he already ended up his relationship with his long term girlfriend, and had a new relationship. Which actually makes me sad. Specially that the girl sacrifice her work in Taiwan just to follow him in Dubai, which I think they plan together.

And guess what?

Last August this year, I saw my nephew posted on his Facebook account stating that he gives an engagement ring to that girl, and the next post is about them getting married. That marriage was totally fast. I know as an aunt, I don't have any right to question my nephew's decision, but I just couldn't help myself to feel confused and sad, because he has a long term girlfriend and just a month they broke up and just a year he get married to another girl. So I was wondering, what happen to the decade relationship? Was it means nothing? Does really distance really matter? I know that every story is different, there were LDR who works and there were not.

I just can't help not to think for sometimes, of why some people can't stay loyal to their gf/bf. Why do they have to broke someone's heart and let them assume that you will always be there. I actually feel disappointed to my nephew, because at some point he broke his ex girlfriend heart. Why he just broke up with her easily and forgot their promises. He knows that his girlfriend had sacrifice everything just to be with him but he just cheated on her.

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This is all for today guy's, I just feel sad about what my nephew did to his ex. I wonder where did the girl go after they broke up. I think she was very upset and devastated now because of what happen to them, specially that just a year after their break up her ex is now already married to a new girl that he just meet for a short time. I think it's still painful for her. I really feel sorry for her.

Anyway thanks for reading

November 13,2021 21:05

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