@GarrethGrey07
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"Reasons why I don't usually like to join group chat (s)" So basically I thought I am already confident enough. I thought I have already learned how to socialize with the crowd. I thought I can be as friendly as others, but I think I am not that kind of person yet. I think I haven't reached that level of change yet, as I still saw some part of my old self. Well I guess change also takes time and I still need to gain more confidence so next time I won't find socialising so challenging. *It was indeed true that losing our confidence and self worth was so easy , but gaining and having it back takes a lot of efforts and time.* *That is why we should always be very careful with our actions and words, as we all have different levels of sensitivity.* Anyway, this time I'll be going to share with you some of the common reasons why I don't usually like joining group chats.
****1. I am afraid of being ignored**** Basically every time that I am being invited to join a group chat, or I really have to join group chat always have this huge⬆️of hesitation to join because of this reason. Yeah I am scared of being rejected or ignored. Well, anyway I can't literally say that it was the specific reason, because I think it's not a **fear** but a **shame**. Okay let me give you an example. Imagine, you were invited to join a party then the only person you knew from that party was the one who invited you. Which means all the people from the party are strangers. Just like inside the group chat, everyone is a stranger. So then when you entered the room where the party was being held, you've been being introduced to everyone. Then all the people around greeted you. They give you a warm welcome and you felt overwhelmed because of their approachable characters. However, when the party got started and the person who invited you get busy you've been left alone in one corner. Since you get a warm welcome from the people around, you tried to socialize. You asked them if you can join to their table and they let you. So you seat in, then you silently listening to their topics and you found everyone so friendly. Then while you're still listening to their conversation, you eventually tried to give your opinion. Because why not *diba?* Your in the group so you thought that it was okay to give your opinion as well, besides they let you join to their conversion that means you can also say something. **BUT**! There's a big but, as after they heard your opinion, no one say anything. Seems like no one hears you as instead of responding to your opinion, they continue talking without considering you're opinion. So what do you think you have to feel? Will you still find it funny?😂 It's a shame isn't it? Shamed as why you tried to voice out? Shamed as you felt that your home. Lol That is why most of the time I am just a silent reader inside the group chat. I don't like giving some opinions as I don't like being ignored. "**It's not that I want to get a special treatment, it's not like that, so don't get me wrong. I just don't like the feeling of being ignored, as it made me feel that my opinion does not matter."** Anyway I feel this in one of my group chat I'm in, in telegram. Well I only join to that group chat because of crypto. Not just for a chitchat 😅. **So now tell me, if you were at my shoe? What would you feel after being ignored? Would you just ignore them as well?**
**2. Finding it hard to ride along with the conversation.** As we all know group chat contains a lot of members, which means the topic may possibly be random. With this kind of situation inside the group chat, I find it hard to ride along with any of conversation inside as I easily get distracted. Lol. Plus I am also a very conservative introverted person and so joining with your conversation is really hard to me. Some topics are also confusing, and if you don't know what's their talking about, you'll ended up to be a silent reader 😂. I feel this in discord group chat🤣. They have some topics that I literally can't relate, and so I am always a silent reader.
Authors epilogue; I know that inside the group chat, you don't need to always give your opinion. Sometimes you just need to read and observe then learn. You don't need to join their conversation anytime as well. I also know for somehow, that because of the random topics that the group chat has, your opinions will possibly gets rejected. I just don't like the feeling of being ignored, as I don't usually give opinion and yet I only get rejection, hahahaha. Honestly I find it hard to understand that even if sometimes there's only two persons available inside the group chat, they still don't want to consider your opinion. There are still some tendency that your opinion was being unheard, and that what makes me discourage to join group chat. Anyways, I have joined lots of group chat actually, from discord and telegram and it's only because for crypto currency.
Disclaimer; *The information contained herein this blog are basically just my own opinion. Based on my own experience and observation as well. It's not my intention to misinterpret the vibes of the group chat. However this blog is just for entertainment purposes only.* Thank you for reading. Lead image was edited using Canva app.
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Same pala tayo sis, may mga group chat din akong sinalihan pero tagabasa lang ako, madalang makiinterak kasi hindibtelate sa mga topics nila hehe.
Oo nga sis, pero minsan kasi we need na makipag interact para mag level up din tayo.
I feel the same way too. I may not be able to get along with conversations in the group chat and I would not like it when it feels like I'm ignored. It annoys me so much.
It makes us feel not welcome..😂😂
Ganyan nga Garreth, kaya when I created GC, as much as possible welcome them and hear their opinions, although sigurado may mga ideas na hindi mo palaging Oo- han. Relate ako dun sa nung ikaw na nag voice out, nasilent hahaha. Maya maya tuloy na ulit.
Oo nga sis, hahahaha nahihiya ako sa ganun eh. Kaya most of the time silent reader lang ako sa group chat.
Haha awkward
Haha just go with the flow. Sa discord sa hiveph mababait mga tao doon😆
Awe oo sis, no problem naman ako sa Hive ph. Pero diba nga before ako napunta sa hiveph galing na ako sa ibang group chat na related din sa hive. Mga ibang lahi naman ang mga andun.
Gnyan tlga sis pg nasa gc ka at minsn nga nadededma pa hehehe. Pero I prefer sometimes to be a reader na lng.
Me too sis, pero minsan nakakahiya din naman yung susulpot ka lang pag may itatanong 😂😂kaya need mo ding makipag interact minsan.
Okay lng Yan sis tska sila din nmn nagsabi na pg may gusto itanong feel free to ask nmn tlga. Mnsan din sis sasali lng ako don pg andon mga kausap ko dati pa.
Patay namali ko sa upvotes hehehe.
Nabalik ko na sis😁
Salamat sis...lugi na nmn tayo dahil bgsak bch huhuhu..
Ako din ndi pala join sa group chat kasi bukod sa ndi ko maintindihan ang ibang salita dahil they used thier native language ndi rin ako ganun ka active dahil may gawain ako at tamad akong magbackread dahil kahit magreact ka tapos na usapan
Hahahahha yung pag backread talaga ang pinakaayaw ko sa group chat sis kasi nakakahilo.
Yes kaya ndi din ako active eh
The catch of stories and assumptions from some people is different, the emergence of differences and disrespect for each other is a form of error in understanding, not all people's views are negative and that is relative.
Yeah, that's the common reasons why some people don't find gc as a good one. But I think for me, I just need to jive and do some random talks. Haha. Wala lang, bet ko lang din minsan makipag eme eme.
Mostly kasi sa mga group chat ate kung sino maganda, close o matagal na sa group un ung pinapansin e. Di nila pinipuna mga newbies
True sis. Ang hirap pag nasa group chat ka tas tinry mo makipag communicate din tas I-ignore. Di ba ang pangit nun tas hindi maganda sa pakiramdam parang feel mo na out of place ka.
Shame tayo sis di rin ako mahilig sumali sa mg group chat kahit nga group chat ng batch namin nung elementary ako di na ako ng join.
Masaya ding maki join sa usapan minsan. Pero nakakairita talaga g naiignore. Kaya kapag ganon layas nalang muna at balok kapag nawala na ang inis. Hahaha. Nasa HivePh discord kaba. Kahit ano mandin ee topic don sari sari na nha hahaha
Same reasons.. And it's kind've insulting being ignored .as if they didn't noticed me.. And besides, i don't like being marites and talking about nonsense topics 🤣..