Yes, you come first.

Is it a bad thing to care for others? Why do some people take you're being nice as a foolish thing? These are questions that got me thinking hard about my own life when I felt cheated some time back. Well, I don't need to open up much about myself to you but I am someone who likes to care for others, especially people that I love and don't even know. Well, you could call me the Mr nice guy who loves and cares for others. To me, doing that is not a big deal, it's something I love doing may be due to my nature. I find it difficult to contain it when I see other people suffering and I can't do anything for them. Of course, I always wanted to help people to my best capacity and ability. The same could be said in the aspect of relationships too or when it comes to loving others. I always thought people will love me as I loved them but I don't know that doesn't happen all the time. For a very long time, I thought those gestures you show to others will be shown by them to you too. Alas! I was wrong.

There was a guy who was "selfish" as I thought then that he was. Why did I call him selfish? He's always looking more for himself than others and I thought he was selfish. I on the other hand always try to impress people around me not in an extravagant manner though but I always try to let people see how nice I can be and how caring I can also be. What happened in the end? I got hurt most especially by people I love. I thought the same energy I exert in caring for others would be the same in how they do to me too but that was wrong. I felt hurt and I thought doing good is not ideal. Well till now, I don't know why doing good hurts so much.

There was a time I decided not to play the nice game again. But my friend talked to me then that I might not have been meeting the right people who will reciprocate the same gesture, he said to me that I should not expect good in return but I should continue doing good and be nice to others as I have always done. He said I should continue loving those who even show me hatred and that it is the secret to a happy life. Well, I couldn't live a sad life as it is not for me.

Should you still care for others, love others and share a bond with them? Yes, you should. But don't put others before yourself. Yes, you come first before any other person. In this life, you will feel hurt by people, especially those you love if they didn't care for you as you did for them. Imagine risking many things for your friend at school during emergency periods but he couldn't do the same for you when you need him the most. Well, that will surely hurt you, won't it?

Don't put your happiness in others, strive to make yourself happy and always look out for yourself even in relationships. You will do better if you follow the rule. It's not been selfish, it's been considerate of your mental health and happiness.