Conflicts in Marriages

Someone once told me that as long as two or more people come together on the basis of a relationship or even the merging of more than two or three people to form a society or association, there will be sometimes the occurrence of conflicts or misunderstanding at some point in time. Conflict as far as human existence is concerned is inevitable. During the olden generations dated back, disagreement over some affairs could result into conflicts which may cause wars between many nations. Is there any good implications of conflicts? Well I don't know, I just know that conflicts could escalate into something more serious if not properly managed.

Since misunderstanding is inevitable and tends to occur many times among human relations, it's only wise if people sit down to examine what do cause conflicts and the way to go about it. In marriages, dating relationship and even in the place of work, fights or conflicts may arise from time to time. However in the aspect of marriage which is the aim of discourse, we want to examine some causes of violence between husbands and wives that are married together and sometimes in a dating relationships too. Because if things are done right during dating or courtships, then it's possible to reduce different hassles that comes in marriages beforehand. Because once you know and understand your partner in the courses of dating, you can avoid yourself some headaches that may eventually come in marriage if unchecked during courtship.

1. Too much of financial burden on one party.

If a party either the husband or wife feel burdened when it comes to paying the bills and expenses in the home, then fight may eventually break out between them. It's quite common to see the husband footing all the bills with the wife doing nothing. Initially the husband may not feel bothered until when he started getting broke and he's feeling the heat of bearing it all alone without any help from his wife. The best solution to this scenario is to work together in terms of sharing the bills and expenses. It shouldn't be only one sided way. Husbands should help their wives as the latter should help their husbands too. Marriage is only sweet when both partners decided to work hand in hand and not each on his or her own.

2. JEALOUSY.

Ordinary, feeling jealous especially in a relationship may bring a lot of headaches as some people cannot contain their jealousy and tends to behave in a cold manner towards their partner. I have seen a jealous man who was uncomfortable with his wife doings at a party and ultimately drove back home without taking her back home. While jealousy is not overly bad, you should be able to trust and know your partners to avoid unnecessary angers when one of them is being jealous. This will avoid conflicts among partners in a dating relationships or even in marriages.

3. Do you know that food sometimes cause fights between husbands and wives. Many men are impatient once it comes to food. They are not ready to listen to your excuses if you can't provide them food. Some men go to the extreme of beating their wives because their wives probably slack off in cooking or were busy and couldn't cook on time. When it comes to food, it's always important to exercise patience as a man especially if the food is not ready yet. In most African countries, cooking is believed to be reserved exclusively for women as their duties. Some men may get into fights with their wives if they come back from work all day and could not find any prepared food from their wives.

These are some of what causes fights or conflicts in marriages or in a home. You can feel free to share with me some of your thoughts below.