Learn not to judge others

A child has been brought to our neighborhood the other week. He had to be brought here because his parents are not available to care for him. His mother works as a call center agent, night shift, while his father works full time as a miner at a mining company.

I do not know the details of their situation. When I went outside to refresh myself after being in front of the monitor for a long time, I heard our neighbors talking. They said that it is questionable why the mother has not called even once for the past few days. Doesn't she love the child? Do they not care at all for how the child has been faring? And so many other judgmental questions.

So many more judgmental remarks were thrown at the child's mother. I have to admit, I also judged the mother immediately. I thought that why is it that she has not called even just for a 5-minute talk to the child? Most probably, they have at least one phone inside their house. But since I am matured enough to think properly, I tried to stop myself from assuming many things. I know that somehow, the mother has her excuses. I believe no mother will forsake her child. Even those afflicted with sickness of the mind do show regard for their children. It is almost impossible for parents to not care about their little ones.

Finally, the mother called the lady host. It so happens that the child is here with us playing with my kid. The lady came saying that come now come now, your mother is video calling. So they talked, they saw each other's face and I could just hear the longing of the mother for the child.

I was left to ruminate about the topic on judging others. Surely, no mother would forget her own son. No mother will inhumanely just throw her child into the unknown. Therefore, we are not to judge others based on what we see. We all have our own circumstances and judging others would be foolish. Besides, it does not do us any good when we judge them. It might even speak to our conscience that we've done wrong. So let us learn not to judge others no matter how different their circumstances is from us.

Let's just call the child as Lucas, not his real name. Lucas is a blessing. He played with my child while I do the chores. He may still not know how to speak but at least he could interact with my daughter.

I hope that in time, Lucas' parents will be able to make a better arrangement. It's really hard being away with the children. We can't sleep well at night and we keep thinking of our children. I hope we have given a little comfort to the mother when she saw that her child is playing well and is happy. The child says mama to every mtoher he sees. He's already 3 years old but due maybe to the family's circumstance so he is still unable to speak.

In life judging others is like inviting for your bad karma to come the soonest. You'll never know what tomorrow brings so while we can we extend our understanding to others. Let's try suspending our judgment in the air. Just think of your life. If you're imperfect, then that is the same with the person you're giving your judgment to.

There were many instances in my life where I judged others. It was almost always with malice. I realized it's not healthy to be thinking ahead of ourselves because when we're eventually stuck in the same situation, we would hear immediately the judgments we've given to others. And that would be hurtful. You'll learn that it's better to be understanding than to be assuming.

So this is my article after a loooong absence here. I hope I still have not lost touch to my niche here.

Have a good day everyone! Thanks for reading!