You're not in control of other people experiences

Today article will be encompassed on people's experiences and the role that you play as another person in every person experiences and it's important to really dive into this because sometimes as a human we learn who we are based off of how we perceived other people treating us and so we build an identity of ourselves based on how we perceived other people perceiving us and acting around us and I'm sure we've hear this popular saying which goes this way “ I'm not who you think I'm, I'm not who I think I'm, I'm who I think you think that I'm".

What that quote simply means is that we build our identify based on people perception and that's kind of wild in some way if we actually think about it, but when you realize that you will become what people around you think of you and how they react to you and the only time you can really step out of such situations is when you start questioning yourself whether you can build yourself around your true self and that's when you can become who you are really and this is just a step towards being your true self.

You might not have been told this before but someone reaction towards you whether good or bad had nothing to do with you but has everything to do to what is happening internally of that person thinking good or bad about you.... You might be wondering what am I trying to explain in this paragraph and just read through I'm sure you will understand this after which I deeply explain this, I don't mean you can literally go out and be an asshole to every person you meet and always blaming them of everything happening when it's never their fault.... Is just like you punching someone and you became angry because they reacted back, don't be that kind of person. .............................................................................

Be a good person in every single thing you do and if you acting good in a place, you're being truthful to yourself and you're not trying to harm other people and other people reaction has nothing to do with you. You just have to step into the fullest truth version of yourself and not worry about others perception and here is the reason why; ..........................................

The reason is because you're not in control of other people's experiences, many people will not do what they want to do in life because they don't want to because they don't want to start anything up and they don't want to change anything and try to stay invisible that they don't roughen any feathers around them just because they don't want people to react to them in negative ways and sometimes even in positive ways and a person experience of you is completely dependent on how they view the world.

Every single person perceive the world differently, we all see the same thing but we are all seeing something different, just like we are all seeing the external world but we are still seeing something different based on our perception of the world based on the countless of our experiences. ...................................................

Let me give an example;

If you're a woman and you love this man and eventually you guys went on a date and all of a sudden, he becomes very distant and doesn't call and reply the way he does before, it might not be he is not interested in you and sometimes it might not be because of you but it might be because he has been cheated on several times in the past and his heart had been broken so many times and now he his resistant into getting into another relationship simply because he doesn't want to be hurt again and sometimes, he might not conciously know this.

So what happens is that if you're in this situation whereby you thought you supposed date is ghosting you and you kept on wondering what have you done wrong but in reality they start acting to you based on their countless experiences in their life and now they've turned it into a protection mechanism and sometimes they do this subconsciously.

Now finally to where I want to derive my point.... Their experience has nothing to do with you but has everything to do with the way they perceive the world and I'm sure this makes sense right now?.

I just feel it would be nice to stop here and this would allow you to go through yourself and think about things you do based on your experiences in life and not what you actually love to do.

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