When a relationship ends abruptly or you lose someone that you love, how do you transition from a place of pain to a place of healing?
Acknowledge your feeling, don’t run from them
Maybe you feel wronged or misled by someone you trusted or you’ve suffered some injustice at the hands of a total stranger. Identify your feelings and give yourself permission to feel them. Get mad if you’re mad. Allow yourself to be heard if you’re feeling vulnerable. Embrace your suffering and don’t try to reason your way through its causes or fixes.
Let it out!
Bottled emotions are no good for anybody and now that you’ve identified your anguish, release it! Try venting to a close friend or scribble in your well-cast journal to flush yourself of negative energy. Express your positive emotions too. If your friend are moving away, take a moment how much you’ll miss them. This cathartic exercise will provide you with least a little sense of relief and it will help you get perspective.
Give yourself time and space
Be patient with yourself. Recognize that just like with a physical wound, emotional healing is a gradual process. Do other things you love rather than just focusing on what’s lost. Spend time with other people in your life positive. These people will help you back up.
Forgive actively
You might never receive that apology that you so deserve but you got to release that burden that’s weighing you down. Start by envisioning that you’ve let go of the tension that this situation caused. Then, tie an action to your forgiveness whether it’s donating painful objects and pictures or writing a private blog post about what happened. Give the situation the formal resolution it never got.
Practice this tips and you are surely getting a few steps closer to closure. And always remember, you can heal and move on and be stronger.