When you spend most of your time trying to live for others, you wear all kinds of masks and costumes depending on the role you are expected to play. It means losing yourself. If you do not want to live according to others, you must take action to end it now.
Do you sometimes dislike your life? Do you think something is missing? If you have such a thought, you can be sure that you are living someone else's life, not your own. You're in this situation because you let people influence your choices.
I will try to explain how this situation arose before moving on to various suggestions to stop living according to others. Social pressure is largely responsible for living for others. But social pressure is deceptive. It is a powerful predator that preys on people without noticing. You start getting jealous of other people's lives before you start to lose control of your life.
You complain that your own life is never good enough. To get the life you want, you try to follow the path of others. As a result, you lose all control of your life. If you want to regain your passion for the life you want, it is essential that you regain your right to choose. If you can't do that, you can't stop living for others.
You are not alone in this. Meeting expectations is not easy. Pleasing others is like chasing a moving target. People will have expectations from you (especially family members) and these expectations will constantly change due to social pressure. You will try to please everyone and you will be exhausted in a short time.
People's expectations should not mislead you. These expectations are obstacles to living the life you want. You may feel frustrated and disappointed at the same time. When you get carried away by expectations, you forget the truth. Even if you get what you want, you can't be happy. The reason for this is to fall in love with expectations, as Gustavo Razzetti said.
If you constantly try to respond to what others want, you will put your dreams and desires in the background. You begin to live the life that someone else has set for you. Making changes and upsetting people can be difficult. However, this is your life and you should know that you are free to spend it however you want. You have to remind yourself of this every time.
You shouldn't give in to pressure from others. If you don't feel like doing something, you shouldn't do it. However, if you are constantly accepting requests from other people, I must admit that it will be very difficult in this regard. At least for a while you will have problems with responsibility. No matter what happens, you must not give up and regain control of your life that you have lost.
If you're afraid to even think about the things you've done in your life, then you may not be living your own life. You need to make a change instead of putting your thoughts under the influence of other things. In particular, you may want to resort to habits such as alcohol, television, and social media. These are not things that will contribute to your life. On the contrary, they are things that will succeed in tearing a piece of your life away.
If you don't take the time to really think about what you want out of life, you won't be able to free your life from other people's expectations. When other people force you to take certain actions, you are living an unsuitable life. But what you should do is follow your own dreams, not the dreams of others.
If something is starting to go wrong, you can interpret it as a message from the universe. Maybe the small mistakes in your life may be a warning to you before the big mistakes. When you start living more heartily and more sincerely, you may find that your life begins to run more smoothly. At least you can get the derailed train back on track.
When you start living from the heart and soul, the only change that happens will not be that things start to run more smoothly. Your life will start to change completely. Of course, you will encounter various obstacles and experience various accidents. However, you can be sure that you will try to move on with energy and enthusiasm instead of feeling hopeless compared to the past.
If you feel sick and tired all the time, there may be certain reasons. This could be an indication of your going in the right direction in life. Your life should enlighten you. It should offer you a variety of thrills. You need to add color to your life by using these excitements. At least a partial excitement will be strong enough to remove all monotony.
Nobody's life is more than a rose garden. We all get tired or feel sick from time to time. If you go back and realize that you feel this way all the time when you look at the last month, it means it's time for a change. You still have an opportunity to get back on the right track. Instead of acting according to others, you should go back to your own essence.
If you're tired of acting and living according to others, you need to regain control of your own life. First of all, you should try to get rid of expectations. In order to notice other people, you must first try to love yourself. You have to make an effort to accept yourself. If you succeed in this, there will be no room in your life for the expectations of others.