Confidence and Happiness

Anyone can achieve their goals with enough effort. At this point, a self-confident person makes breakthroughs faster and more decisively. An insecure person, on the other hand, makes decisions more slowly and hesitantly. This shyness prolongs the path to success. Thus, he follows life further behind. Many expect an incentive. Progress takes place when the expected support from the people around  comes.

  Many people, on the other hand, cannot bring their talents out because of the fear of insecurity. He continues his life as a news about all the special skills in him. When a person believes in himself and discovers his talents, success cannot pass him by. It could be a loved one of high status. This success can also give the person self-confidence later on. However, some people see their own efforts as worthless, no matter how successful, and attribute their position to luck. Although he receives a lot of praise for his achievements, he always feels incomplete. He cannot enjoy his success. The reason for this is that the person does not value himself.

  A person seeks happiness in every job he does, wherever he goes, in every person he spends time with. That's why he embarks on new ventures and believes that the result will be perfect. He tries to meet new people and thinks that he can relieve his unhappiness with them. When everything hits a dead end, he wants to run away. He has consumed happiness and peace where he is. He goes after different adventures.

  In fact, all this effort is not to find happiness, but to escape from one's own inadequacy. He thinks that he will be complete with someone else in another place, in another job. One of the reasons for these thoughts is the lack of self-confidence. These people are incapable of being alone with themselves. He wants to have someone with him on his way to the theater, it is painful to sit alone in a cafe, he always waits for approval from someone else even when making his own decisions. When he is alone, he falls into great despair and unhappiness. Thus, he becomes dependent on another.

However, if he believes that he will realize his wishes on his own, and sees that he can benefit from the beauties of life on his own, he will not need anyone. Maybe he will make peace with his city and his job. We must accept that not all negativities in life are caused by external factors. We must recognize our own faults and shortcomings. If we are struggling in an unchanging order, we must change ourselves. When we realize our inadequacies and change, there will be no need to chase happiness, it will come to us anyway.

  When we enter a new environment, the first thing we notice are people who are upright, confident and assertive. In any case, they express their opinions. Everyone feels their self-confidence. In this environment, no one notices a person who is afraid to speak his mind and sits in a corner. Strong, self-confident people are preferred more in choosing friends.

Especially in business life, the back of a self-confident person is always more crowded in line with personal interests. Because it is thought to be strong with the image it gives to the outside. Confident people are also preferred in private life, as many people are looking for someone they can feel safe with. These people are shown more respect.

The shy person may seem weak when viewed from the outside. That's why people may approach him with prejudice. Even if he is a very smart and good person, he is not given much importance and respect due to his weak stance. He is not given the value he deserves in friendships. By looking at these examples, we should choose the side we want to be, and if necessary, change our lives in this direction.