Nobody is flawless, and everyone makes mistakes from time to time. However, acknowledging faults is sometimes the most difficult aspect. Granted, some are more serious and difficult to forgive than others; nonetheless, regardless of the severity, we must learn to humblely accept our mistakes. If achieving and eventually mastering the art of admittance is a struggle for you, consider following these basic suggestions.
Admit To Yourself That You Made A Mistake
The first and most critical step is to acknowledge that you have made a mistake. You won't be able to honestly recognize your mistakes to others without this self-admission. Retrace your steps, identify your blunder, and accept responsibility for it. Don't make biased self-assessments or suppress the reality in your mind. Be brave enough to accept responsibility for your blunders.
Please don't make any excuses.
If you truly want to take responsibility for your error, you must be humble enough to accept it completely. Make no justifications to try to justify the wrongdoing. If you cheat on your girlfriend, be very honest about it. Don't try to justify your behavior by claiming that she doesn't pay enough attention to you or that you aren't her first priority. Whatever your motivation, what you did was wrong; accept full responsibility. On the other hand, even if you completely acknowledge your mistake, adding a reason would only diminish the value of your admission. It's similar to apologizing, but not quite.
Admit Your Mistake To The Person Who Has Been Offended
Naturally, once you've come to terms with yourself, you'll have to admit that you were wrong to the person or people who were harmed. Sincerity is the crucial word here. It's simple to signal surrender with one hand while keeping the other fingers crossed. If you wounded John's feelings by making insensitive comments about his weight, apologize profusely and tell him that what you did was both rude and inappropriate. If you don't mean what you say, you're not only misleading John, but also yourself.
Your Pride Must Be Tamed
Taming your pride is maybe the most hardest element of making a humble apology. However, if you do not do so, you will be unable to progress. So take a deep breath, own your error, and empathize with the person you've harmed. If this doesn't work, repeat the process. Repeat until you've conquered your pride. Only until you've conquered it will you be able to take the next steps toward genuine admission.
Make Your Apology Straightforward And Simple
When acknowledging wrongdoing, people sometimes say too much, which complicates and even undermines the clear point they are trying to convey. Don't go off on tangents, don't make qualifications or justifications, and don't stray from the issue. Acknowledge your mistake in a transparent and humble manner. As ironic as it may seem, saying less might sometimes help you recognize more.
Describe how you'll improve.
When admitting a mistake, one approach to show humility is to demonstrate your commitment to improve. For example, if you forget and break your commitment to take your girlfriend out to dinner, show her that you'll do better next time instead of merely acknowledging your mistake. You don't always have to convey your willingness verbally; sometimes just doing better is enough or even more powerful than expressing it. So, the next time you make a promise to her, keep it or even go above and beyond! Not only will she be moved by your real and contrite revelation, but she may also fall more in love with you! It's a win-win situation for you!
Make amends to the person who has wronged you.
When our blunders cause significant harm or damage to another person, honestly confessing our mistakes may not be enough. In situations like this, it's best to back up our words with actions that demonstrate our regret for what we've done. When we verbally abuse and mistreat someone, recognizing our wrongdoing and promising to do better may not be enough. After all, we may have left the other person with emotional scars that will take time to heal, therefore we owe it to him/her to demonstrate our humility and sincerity by doing more. Perhaps we should make an attempt to make him/her our buddy or defend him/her when someone else threatens him/her.
Make Sure You Don't Make The Same Mistake Again
Even if you accept and apologize for your mistake, if you keep making the same mistakes over and over, it's all for naught. If you continue to use his Playboy magazines without his permission, after confessing your wrongdoing, your friend will not accept your apologies as genuine. What you'll wind up doing is offending your pal even more. Remember that your acknowledgment should always be accompanied by a commitment to not make the same error again; if the latter is missing, our attempt will be a half-baked one.
It's often easier to make a mistake than it is to admit it. That is why we must strive to improve our ability to humble ourselves and accept our mistakes. Remember that admitting you're wrong doesn't mean you're a weak or irredeemable person; on the contrary, taking responsibility for our flaws is a show of courage and want to grow.
Pride is destroying so much.