As stated in the previous part of this article, women are unique creatures that gave them unique strength to match their lifestyle. And once anyone understands this, there is no need to struggle with any woman in a relationship. Women have upper hands in a relationship and marriage and it's an aberration for a man to think that he should have the upper hand or control in a relationship. The strength of a woman lies in one area of her life in a relationship or marriage and any woman that can master it will have her man under control like a robot. What please a man is not what pleases a woman, this is why we see a lot of dichotomy in marriage today. Men trying to please their wives by what should only please a man, and women trying to please their men by what should only please a woman. There are bound to be problems when things are done this way. The things that are of utmost importance to a woman in a relationship or marriage are emotional and financial security. Once a man can provide these such relationship is set for the moon. However, that a man can provide the above doesn't give him the power and control in a marriage, the power belongs to the woman.
Financial stability isn't enough to keep a woman in a relationship neither is beauty or sexual proficiency enough to keep a man in the same. There is something in between. Once a man fails to provide emotional security as this is what a woman value most in a relationship there will be trouble. Same way, once a woman fails to provide submissive value which is what a man value most there will also be trouble. There must be a balance, and here is where the woman has the upper hand. Anywhere you see a blossoming relationship always know that a fool is there. Two clever people cannot have a successful marriage, one must have to be a fool. And mostly it will have to be the man.
Marriage is a complicated issue with two strangers coming to live together as one with their unique characteristics. The temperamental, the quite, the introvert and extrovert, the kind and the selfish all come together to be as one. This is a complicated issue that only wisdom in foolishness can resolve. Some men will want to be the ones fully in charge while relegating their wives to the background and yet expect an unreserved loyalty or submission from their wives. It doesn't work that way. The woman must be the one in charge of many things to have a prosperous and successful marital life.
A wise man must learn to commit himself to his wife. When I said himself I mean everything about him including his finances. Women are the best manager at handling finance in a home. If a man desire to be financially successful he must learn to involve his wife in his financial dealings. They say a good wife makes a happy man, what makes a wife good is the level of commitment the man shows towards her. A man's wife is as good as the commitment the man can give, and it is a waste of time trying to argue and win over your wife. The childishness or weakness of a woman is also her strength. Every man must learn this and respect the women.
The submissive power of a woman is unmatched one, and most men often take this for granted. They submit not because they are weak. But they do so, firstly, because that is how they are formed to function. Second, they submit so that they can rule. Except you are not a real man that is when you will undermine this fact. A submissive woman is a powerful woman. She has her man not just only on her laps but also in her hands. She ensures her man's emotional stability and by this, she rules. Every genuinely responsible man is a product of a submissive woman. She chooses the color of her man's pants up to that of his car. She decides the dress sense of her man and regulates his daily movement. And every sensible man gives her woman the honor of control. It's not as though she is lording over her man, she sure knows her boundaries and when to give preeminent to her. Men who understand this often save themselves from unnecessary stress and struggle in marriage.
Marriege is a key of life