Lessons life taught me in my time of suffering

After publishing the article "She died for me so I will live for her" in which I talked about my wife's sacrifice for standing by me through all the years of illness, I began to recount all the experiences and life lessons I learned during those years of pain and suffering illness. Life is full of problems, but many of them are designed to teach us important lessons that we would not have learned if things had gone our way. However, no one wants to see a long trial but problems will come from time to time, such is life, but the most important thing is how well we got out of them and what lessons we have learned from them.

The fact is, neither of us wants to face suffering. Not just illness, but suffering in our finances, our jobs, and our families. If only the days of the sun were bright and the sky clear. Those are the kinds of days we pray for. And often the types of days we think we are entitled to.

But who can tell the future and how the day will end. However, it turns out, that there are lessons we can only understand during a time of trial.

Lessons I learned in my time suffering

Suffering showed me who my real friends are

A faithful friend and friend indeed is hard to find, this is the foremost lesson I have learned during my time of trial. Before I got sick I had a lot of people I could call my friends because I was a people person. People are drawn to me naturally because I always make myself available to everyone. I was always ready to help anyone whether they were asking for help or not. I will always be the first to ask "can I help you". This habit drew so many people to me that I always have people around me that I called my friends in my first two years in college.

But when an unwanted illness came to me, none of these people I called friends care about me except one. This was a lesson that opened my eyes to the realities of this life. When things go well for you friends become many, but when trouble comes, many turn their backs on you.

More than 15 years have passed, but the memory of this dear friend who cared for me in the time of my illness is still fresh in my heart. This friend of mine, named Noah, was the only one of the more than 50 people I called friends who came to my village to find out why I didn't come back to school after the holidays. He was the one who encouraged me to go back to school, he took my case to the head of the department so that he could seek extra time for me to make up for lost space in my study. He paid for my rent for two years and gave me a lot of food until I was able to put things together. This friend of mine never left my side until we finished together. Fifteen years after leaving school, we are still friends even though we live far from each other because of work.

Only in times of trouble do you know who truly loves you

It is common in our generation to see or hear of lovers breaking their engagement because one of the parties was disabled as a result of an accident or illness. For me, my suffering showed me the best love from a woman who became my wife.

I wrote a lot about this in my previous article. There is no greater love I can have in my life from someone than the love I was shown by my woman during my trial. We were united together like bolt and nut, spirit, body, and soul.

Most of my family members did nothing meaningful to help me recover. My wife took care of me, left her family, and moved in with me. At that time I need someone to stay with me who will help me with things. I wasn't leaving in my family house but a rented apartment. I have to pay for the apartment, I need food and water. All of this was provided by my wife. Before we got married, she used to do all of this for me. It was in my illness when we got married, something her family almost canceled.

I wouldn’t lie to you, I was a rockstar before I got sick, and as a result, you can guess what my relationship life should be like at the time.

My suffering drew me closer to God

Before the time of my illness, I had been told many times that I had been called to the ministry but never agreed. At the time I was a Gospel singer, and any preacher I associated with had a message from God calling on my life. But for me, there is no desire to do anything like that.

When I was sick, my only hope of survival was faith in God. If you have a contagious disease only God can help you. I started to study the Bible as nothing else matters, and my prayers and faith deepened every day. Also, at that moment I remembered how I had ignored the truth of God's love for his chosen. I knew then, that the only thing I had to do in this life was to live my life and serve God.

Suffering taught me real strength

Usually, we can handle a little annoyance and problems from simple days. But trials bring us to the end.

At that moment, I realized how much I needed to rely on God. I need Him to give me wisdom, faith over fear and give me strength to fight the storm. That was the right place to be. God created us with the ability to trust in him completely. And this scripture was always in my heart "But he said to me," My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness. "

It was the above texts and the like, which strengthened my inner mind which produced energy to move my body and return to my feet again. You could call it a miracle, and I think so too.