As we hit adulthood, there's a lot of changes we experience like for example paying bills, career matters, and family affairs things we didn't mind when we are at our youth.
When we start settling down and had our own family the more responsibilities arise. Securing your own family welfare such as the future and living a comfortable life.
When we hit parenthood it is more complex than we ever imagined. That's why it's always commendable to secure your stability before settling down. Stability in financial aspects, stability in mind that you are ready enough to become a parent, stability in emotional aspects as you are dealing with so many emotions when you reach parenthood. Especially to women, being mentally and emotionally unstable can affect your way of parenting and yourself as well. Some women after giving birth they are having a hard time adjusting from being single to a parent in an instant. But ready or not when you hit parenthood you have to embrace it, so you will not have a hard time dealing it.
Here, I will present to you some of the things a parent usually does in parenting, based on my knowledge and observations as I am a parent myself.
Providing their needs
From food, shelter, clothing, and education. Having a child is quite costly, from pregnancy you will start to spend a lot in buying healthy and nutritious food to sustain the good development of an embryo. Support the cravings of your wife, vitamins, milk, and prenatal check-ups. When the delivery due date is near, you have to prepare infants' needs which is costly. You cannot just by cheap things because infants have sensitive skin, they might get rushes or worst get sick. Infants are prone to infections as their immune system was just developing. If moms do not breastfeed the infants, you will buy milk formulas recommended by the pediatrician. Most pediatricians recommend high-value formula so that the infant will get the nutrition completely even if without breastfeeding, that's why breast milk is the best for baby aside from its free, it has complete nutrition that infants needs. Aside from that, you will buy diapers, vitamins, bath needs, and monthly check-up for the baby or immunization.
Taking care of them when they were young
Parents of an infant will probably always have sleep deprivation attending the baby. Lack of rest and tiresome. Your eyes will be full of dark circles. You barely had a shower because the baby is too clingy, they don't want to be left alone. Babies have a strong sense of smell, that if you are away in a minute they will cry out loud because they can't smell you anymore.
When the baby grows up you have to watch out them carefully, teach them, and guide them in everything, especially in toddlers they need full attention as they are very active and curious on that stage. They tend to do all the things that got them curious and if lacking attention they might be in danger. (I have a little brother who passed away at the age of three, due to negligence. My mother was busy with something and my stepfather is away from work and I myself was still young playing with my cousins. Our home was located at the side of a riverbank a remote area, so my little brother died because he sinks in the water. Nobody knows what had happened to him how he ends up to the water because he went missing for three days, and we got rumored that he was abducted by a mythical enchanted spirit, as he was found at the bottom of a Balite tree and had a finger marks on his neck showing he was choked to death before he was put down on a little hole. Whether it's true or not, the main reason is negligence so we must carefully watch out our toddlers to avoid getting on danger.)
Start Educating them about their gender
When they reach teenage years you will start getting afraid they might be involved in having a relationship with their opposite sex at an early age. You will feel the goosebumps your parents once had. You will start to watch out and educate them about sexual aspects, so they will not be engaged in early parenthood and you became a granny at your early or late 30's 😂. It is necessary to teach them to have boundaries with their actions when they already have a boyfriend or a girlfriend because youths are very aggressive when it comes to sexual sensations.
Securing their future
Not just that you have to secure their future for having a better and complete education. Education is quite expensive especially when they reach college, wherein the gateway in choosing their career. Less fortunate people hardly provide this one, this is also the main reason for poverty. Lack of education, wherein their parents cannot afford to send them to school.
Nurture them
Not because we provided them financially, give them all the things they need and all the luxury in life does not mean our duty ends there. No! We have to nurture them, give them attention, moral support, and most of all love. The fundamental of their growth must be developed at home, to make them a good person and a good citizen in the future.
Teach them about life
When they start growing up you have to teach them about life. Teach them how to do the chores, like laundry, washing dishes, cooking, and everything that was done on daily routines at home. So they will not depend on you or anyone else, they will survive without a nanny. Teach them not to touch anything that doesn't belong to them, so they will not steal anything in the future. Teach them to treat other kids fairly and with due respect, but doesn't mean they have to be that close to them so they will avoid complex in the future. Teach them good manners and right conduct. Educate them on how to save money, start-up savers for kids. When they are at the right age don't give all the money they needed instead teach them how to make money themselves, so they'll know how to value their hard earn money and not spend it recklessly.
Teach them Godliness (for Christian people)
For Christian people, it is necessary to teach them Godliness. So that they will be a good follower of your teachings because it is biblical that child must honor thy parents and their teachings. (This only vary to our beliefs and our way of teachings in this kind of matter, which is not necessary to be discussed or argue further)
The success of your kids will also be your success as a parent, some are successful in careers but forgot to bring manners with them. Your success as parents will be determined how your kids will be in the future. If you did all your best to teach them but they still end up being eloquent in the future the problem lies to them at all. No matter how we kick their ass off, if their choices do not coincide with ours we can't do anything about it anymore.
Therefore, parenting is never an easy job but it is the only thing that gives us the highest fulfillment we ever had in our lifetime. Bringing forth life, to nurture and nourish.
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Its worth it when you raise your child as a good man.