People who ball up in fetal position and give up are usually the happiest and successful one. That's the key attitude they have been using to overcome every obstacle they are facing.
At some point in our lives, it will going to kick our ass, someone crushes our heart, a hell kind of situation, or some minor problems that will manage to shatter our ego, that will happen. All of it is uncontrollable. But what we can control is how we react and process to come back from that hideous moment. We have some options, that is to let all of it rip us apart or build our resilience to fuel up on our next steps.
How to stay strong when you are?...
Getting criticized
So maybe after you graduate, many people are expecting you to have a bountiful career or even your family members, and then when you started from scratches they will criticize you for having a job that doesn't suit your degree. Always remember that it is normal to start from scratch to build a strong foundation for your career you must start at the bottom, accumulating experience is one of the best that can boost your career. Your family might criticize you maybe because they just want the best for you, don't take it negatively. Grow a deep understanding to accept criticism, it is part of the society if you let it tear you apart you won't succeed at all in whatever you are trying to achieve. Always remember people will give critics because they have seen something on you that catches their interests, you are an interesting subject otherwise they won't bother about you at all. On my part whenever I get criticism, I don't let it sink into my brain instead I will do my best to prove their critics wrong.
Being denied
This feeling of being denied is common when we are applying for a job. Being denied after so many applications will make us frustrated. It will disappoint us but always remember a little rejection won't kill you, many aspiring applicants are why you are rejected because there might be something better that awaits you. “The more we survive rejection, the more fearless we become,” says Deborah H. Gruenfeld, Ph.D., co-director of the Executive Program for Women Leaders at Stanford Graduate School of Business. Don't be afraid of rejection, it will make us fearless in the long run the more we are immune to rejections then nothing can hold us in fear. I've been through this feeling when I was looking for a job before, I had countless resume printed and wasted for so many applications but I never give up until I was hired. Finding a job for the first-timer is not easy, you will have to eat so many rejections before you get the job you desire. But grow your skin thicker because rejection is always there what matters most is how you react to it. This does not only apply in job hunting but in all aspects that we might face rejections, whether by our loved ones or certain situations.
Dealing with haters
Nobody enjoys being disliked. But as they say, haters gonna hate. People always have something to say and something to hate about you. But never allow their opinions to affect you, you don't have to seek approval from other people as long as you are not harming anyone, you should go on your way. “Show someone that she's getting under your skin and you add fuel to her fire--you just make it harder for yourself,” says psychiatrist Catherine Birndorf, M.D., self's contributing mental health expert. Never let them get a hold of you. “But the moment you decide and show you don't care, you take away her power.Not just that, you could come off as way more likable”. -Amanda Woerner
In my existence I always have to deal with so much hate from the people who don't have any contributions in my life, I was devastated before but when I learned not to care, all those hates and haters do not affect me much anymore. Although sometimes I get hurt, if ever I have a heavy heart I just let it out through crying. Crying has been my therapy in every pain and suffering I am dealing with, but after that, I picked up myself. I have to grow a thicker skin to endure whatever situations I have right now.
P.S This article was inspired by my struggles recently, I posted a short post about it and receive many consoling words from all my virtual friends here. Read Cash is not just a typical blogging site for me, now it becomes a village where I can find virtual friends and receive comfort when I needed. Thank you so much! The support and comfort you gave to me help me a lot although it doesn't change my situation it helps me let out my heavy feelings. Thank you for all your care, you all made me feel I was never alone ❤❤❤
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