I have heard stories of people who got into a relationship and their partner start talking down on them or throwing at them hate and demeaning speech and because they feel they won't get a better partner, they decide to put up with that partner until they end up committing suicide or being broken finally.
It is a pity that in a world filled with people, we still have thousands of people who still feel they did their partner a lot of good because their partner is either too fat or too slim and they think those set of people won't find anybody better them to marry or date them.
I was inspired by the @Kitkit story about Lily and decided to pen this down today. We all are beautiful the way we are most especially if we are conscious of our health. When we see people slim, they decide to be slim and if you see others fat, they decide to be fat, if you can't stand them, then, don't get close to them to the extent of throwing bad words at them.
Don't put up with anybody, never put up with anyone who does not see the good in you because they told you that you won't be able to get a better person and because you were told you are being managed.
It doesn't matter your size, color, race, you are beautiful, never feel you can't be a better person, or you will never see anyone who will love you the way you are because there is an adage that says, "One man's food is another man's poison".
Learn to love yourself, learn to cherish yourself, learn to appreciate the you that you are, and learn to eat and exercise healthy. When you learn these tips, you won't put up with anybody just because you feel you are not good enough for that person and because you feel the person is actually doing you a favor by being with you.
If he or she doesn't like or love you that way, please open the door wide for them and ask them to take a walk out of your life because you are special and unique in your way and if he or she does not see that in you and it is their loss and not yours to bear.
To remain in an abusive relationship or marriage, putting up with the emotional trauma their words and actions are causing you, your life is too sweet and precious to let that happen to you when you could walk away and leave happily with yourself. You know life is too sweet to try to put up with someone else's bad words all in the name of love
You know what happens when you put up with people all in the name of love;
It t destroys your confidence
It brings about low self-esteem
It brings about emotional trauma
It leads to hating oneself
It leads to living a life filled with insecurity and hate towards a particular gender or people
It leads to depression
It leads to one committing suicide or nursing a thought of committing suicide.
It shortens our life span on earth
It leads to a life filled with sadness and unhappiness
In as much as we want to be love and be loved, staying in a relationship that leads to us putting up with a certain horrible attitude from our partner that will affect us emotionally or otherwise is not advised because we are all beautiful and unique in our way.
There is nothing wrong with us, so why put up with attitudes or words from our partners that are killing us, when we are supposed to be living our lives to the fullest because life is actually too short to be kept putting up with people who don't love us.
You should not be the one to bear the pain of a partner who can not look beyond your outward look and see the beautiful you, you should not let someone dictate our we are supposed to live our lives just because he or she is trying to protect their image, just for their selfish reasons without knowing how much harm and hurt they are causing us with their unhealthy and demeaning words.
We all were created beautifully and wonderfully in our way, we were created to live our lives to the best and not to put up with people or live life the way others dictate for us. We were not created to put up with people who don't see us the way we see ourselves.
Let love be, build yourself and I tell you, love will come at the right time and with the right person who will love and treat you like a queen or king just the way you need and deserve. Nobody, I mean, nobody is worthy to make you feel unloved and not good to be loved by others. You deserve to be happy and you deserve to be with the right person who makes you happy always and puts your happiness first.
You deserve to be with the person whose goal is to make you smile always and forever no matter what happens.
No one is worth that, no one is worth your tear and pains, everyone deserves to be loved and treated just the way they want and feel they should be treated. So anyone isn't treating you the way you feel and want them to treat them, please gladly and boldly take a walk out of their lives, don't succumb to putting up with them because girl, you've got no time for that. There are thousands of people playing around just to take a walk with you or to be seen and acknowledged with you.
Stop coping and putting up with an unnecessary attitude from someone who doesn't deserve you.
Because they don't deserve you.
Thank you for reading my blog, from your coach.