There's No Time
Some people will say "**There is no time**" and there is no energy am just running on vibes but why are they running on vibes why do you do what you have to do before you run out of time completely.
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It is a beautiful Tuesday morning over here the second day of February and the weather is still so cold like winter own life has really changed a lot anyways all Thanks to God for keeping us safe from January till February 2nd because some people died on January 1st while some died in the middle of January even some died yesterday February 1st so let's who is alive always give thanks.
There is no time is a sentence we all say every time we are late for something but have we ever thought if there is truly no time in life generally?
Sometimes I do see some guys in my street roaming about without any work or anything source of income and yet they are expecting a bright future but the question now is can a bright future come without working for it?
There are lots of things my mom always tells me whenever am being lazy to work at home she will say: "**as you lay your bed you shall lie on it**" same thing goes to life as you live the life you will get the result or let me say what you give to life is what life will give back to you.
You can't be lazy and still be expecting success, you can't be wicked and still be expecting good and you can never plant banana and till be expecting mango from the banana tree life doesn't cheat so if you are the type that does waste time life knows how to treat you.
There was a particular guy in my street he doesn't work, he's always at home and every time I set my eye on him I do think he's from a rich family because it is only when you know there are some properties somewhere that you can depend on in the future that you will behave like that but to my surprise, I got to know his story from someone in the street.
I really don't know what he did to those women but they kept on talking about him and how poor his family is and yet he keeps wasting his time roaming about the street from morning till night from January till December.
Sometimes I wish I can just ask him what he plans on doing with his life because it seems like he's just wasting the black hair on his head but I bump into him when I wanted to buy matches for my glass and guess what? He smokes so this pull me back from asking about his life because in Nigeria anyone that smokes is not normal.
There are some girls too who choose to waste their time on prostitution instead of getting a better and decent job that will provide for them forever but no they choose to live a reckless life selling what God gave them to get what they want.
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I do see small girls in front of the bar along the street and then I wonder if they know the time is going their clock is ticking every minute because no one knows when he or she will leave this world so why waste the remaining time you have on something that doesn't worth it why not make use of that life you have for something good.
Some people will say there is still time for me since am just 25 years I can cruze all around Lagos then when am 30 years I will get something doing, the question is did they even know if they will reach 30 years? There is no time in this life anymore so do what you want to do while you still have life to do it remember time waits for nobody and death won't notify you before coming.
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Before you can be call a champion
**Before you become a champion you have to pass through some process**
**Before you can be called a champion you must have survived the hardship in your life because being called a champion is not just by mouth.**
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Hello, beautiful people all over the world good morning and happy Monday how are you doing today and how was your weekend over there? Mine was fine even though I had a very stressful weekend but it was all worth it.
I got inspired to write this article from a song titled "Champion" by fireboy a Nigeria artist and it makes me remember what my mom use to say that: before gold can be called gold it must pass through the fire before a spoon can be useful and be called spoon it must go through some hard processing and before someone can be called a successful human he or she must have gone through a lot in life because success is not a day achievement
success is not just a day work and it is not something that comes easily because nothing good comes easy in this life.
Yesterday someone was telling me about a girl he use to date that just broke up with him because he doesn't have money the guy said this lady told him she has passed his level that she wants to be dealing with people that has a lot of cash and people can that take full responsibility of her then he let go of her and I don't know how he got information that this particular lady has be used for money ritual and there are lots of girls I do see on social media too that has been used as well because they are not patient to work and earn they don't want to stress their lives and become a champion but they just want to shine and loot sexy.
In this life, if you cant work and you don't want to stress yourself for you to make it in life then whatever you see at the end of your laziness is on you because if this lady has stayed with her broke and her hardworking boyfriend she will still be alive hoping for a better day but no she wants to live a good life without no stress and then spend money without working, use expensive things without struggling.
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I made a post titled" work for your money" this used to be our language at Dangote Noodles factory when I was working there because we all ladies working there believes you have to work before you earn even though the work is too stressful for a lady but I was happy doing it back then.
Last night before I slept I saw a post on Facebook that a 28years old lady is dating a 17years old boy because he is an internet fraudster (Yahoo) can you imagine what this world is turning into how does she even cope around such a young boy as a boyfriend all in the name of money, assuming she's working and earning am sure such boy of that age should be respecting her as a big sister, not the other way round.
And he beats her up mercilessly she's even bleeding because the boy breaks one of her toes now she posted it on social media and some girls like are committed that the guy shouldn't have done that, what were they expecting from a boy who is not mature for anything and then he has money which he didn't work for, he has a woman who is far older than him definitely he will misbehave.
Before someone can be called a champion such a person must have gone through worse in life such person because not everyone is born with a silver spoon
Before someone can be called a champion he or she must have to get a whole of good things in life because people won't notice you if you are a failure people won't roll with you if you don't win your life race because it is only people that make it that can be called champion.
So did you want to be called a champion? Then you must buckle up and double your hustle it's never too late.
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I can never broke
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It is a beautiful Friday morning over here a very cold morning as well anyways thank God it's Friday because God kept us from Monday till today Friday so we should thank Him for (TGIF).
I was watching a Nigeria movie last night and after watching there was an interview for the actors in the movie and one of them was asked how she feels whenever she's broke and then she said: **I can never be broke because I have passed that level even though am not rich but I don't get scared of been broke anymore.**
What this lady said brought so many questions to my mind:
Is there anyone that can't be broke?
Don't rich people get broke?
Does she always have money every time?
Well, I guess she might just be saying all that in front of the camera because I don't think there is anyone that can't be broke because money is like a spirit sometimes you will have and sometimes you won't even though you are working.
This made me remember one of the richest people in Africa Aliko Dangote though he is not the richest but he is rich, he said it's been a while he touched money in cash because he doesn't deal with cash so he withdraw 1million and put it inside his car just to be seeing it and not for anything and some other time I heard that one of his company was sold because he's not getting any profit from it.
And one time like that I heard some people saying he's broke that's why one of his companies was closed down of course is not like he's completely broke no money to eat but the money he has with him is fixed for something else so there is nobody that can not be broke.
I use to live with one couple like that we are neighbors when I was living with my sister the both of them live a very expensive life because the wife's family left her a house to be collecting the rent and the husband is a mechanic and he also has a house he's collecting rent but instead of making use of the money to Invest on a lifetime business, they choose to spend it on food and clothes.
Me and my sister do talk about them but we couldn't approach them but one day I was spreading clothes outside and the wife came to ask me what's the latest phone and then I advised her to start up a business instead of buying a phone every year and guess what she told me.
She said: **Esther see am from a well to do home so automatically I can't be broke my mom will help me**, I was surprised that such a person that depends on family's property still exist well it's her choice.
Before I left my sister's house I heard that her mother die because she was old already and all the property she depended on was taken by the bank where her mother borrowed money before she die and now she's broke.
Well am not mocking her but am sure someone must have told her the same thing I advised her to do but because she believes she has passed the level of being broke she doesn't listen though I take that as her mistake but sometimes it is our mindset that pushes us to lifetime mistake.
And am sure there are so many people with that kind of mindset of I can never be broke because sometimes being broke doesn't have to be like you don't have money at all but the money might be fixed for something very important.
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Just like me when I was trying to get a shop I was completely broke and not that I don't have money but it is fixed for my shop so I can't spend it on anything that is not necessary.
Plan towards tomorrow and stop saying I can never be broke nobody is above it anybody can run out of money because money is nobody's family like what my mom always says" **money is a visitor**"
Good morning...
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Invest on your wife
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Every man wants women to make the house look good all the time but the duty is not for her alone because before a man gets married to a lady he must have somewhere he's staying and he can leave his house unkept because there is no woman in the house.
One thing you must know is that no woman went to school or acquire a skill for nothing's sake, just like you went to acquire knowledge to be successful.
They also went to school to acquire knowledge to be a successful woman so why then do they have to abandon everything because they have become a mother and a wife? Why did they have to let go of their dreams just for the kitchen's sake? And some men will say women's place in the world is in the kitchen who invented that on women?
There are so many ways they can put their skills to work and still maintain the home if you support her as a man for example:
If your wife knows how to cook very well she can be a chef, which means she can be selling her food online which her husband can support in advertising her food.
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She can also learn handwork so that she can have her own office to work so that there won't be stress etc.
As a man, we must invest in our wives because they are the best person to run to for help during times when things are not going well, the reason why I say this is because women love to help their husbands when they are in need but if you don't allow her to have a source of income how can she do that?
We know you are rich enough to take the family responsibilities while you have grounded your woman as a full housewife but what if something bad came up that you can no longer take care of the house so that means the family is completely broke completely just like a guy who works in a good company collecting good salary
So he decided grand his wife from working because he thinks every day is a Christmas day and he doesn't have any other business aside from his work one day his boss sacked him because of fraud he knew nothing about and then the whole family went back to square one but assuming he allowed his wife to run a business for him while his working they can still have something to depend on
Natural occurrences can come up at a point in our lives just like the little story I shared up there and we might need support for survival during that period trust me the best place to seek help from is your wife because they are the best person to help you except if the woman is not a good one.
Because "a good wife will always support her husband when there is need to help".
Another thing I observe is that our time on earth cannot be predicted even though we pray to live long on earth it is important we always invest in our wives as a means of preparing for the unexpected.
"Death does not announce it coming". So if she has something doing the children will not suffer for not having a father or if any one of the parents is not there.
Since you don't want her doing a job that would interfere with her role in the family empower her in a way that there would be a balance between her family and her work for example: opening a business for her.
Help with things that would give her time to be the housewife you want as well. Don't let her knowledge be a waste because some women are actually good in some aspects everyone deserves to be successful both male and female.
"Women, don't let your success get into your head". Because some women no longer respect their men because they are rich.
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Why should I give thanks
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Good afternoon my beautiful people and how are you all doing today?
My day has been so boring because I spent it all alone at home without no electricity and there is no electricity for 3 weeks now, in fact, we haven't used electricity this year 2022 and the developer of my shop is not even helping the matter but I pray everything should be set this month because am seriously tired of staying at home I can't wait to start my shop.
So let me continue with today's topic why should I give thanks?
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Some people keep asking why should they give thanks when they are broke, some ask why they should give thanks when you don't live up to their mates standard well let me tell you no matter what you are going through in this life you have every reason to give thanks.
Because some are dead which means they don't have a chance to give thanks even though they don't deserve to die but God gave you and me the second chance so that we could give all thanks to Him and there you are complaining about what to be thankful for?
Well if I were you I will start thanking God now because it is not easy to raise a child in this hardship world but yet your parents raised you and you are alive safe and sound isn't that enough reason to thank God?
You have a roof over your head and yet you are complaining that the apartment is too small for you while some are sleeping on the street without a bed.
you have food to eat and yet you are complaining that you don't like that food while some don't even have anything to eat and they don't know if they will eat.
you have clothes to wear and yet you are complaining that the clothes are not the latest ones while some don't even have the old fashion clothes to put on they just go with anything they see.
And still, you think there is nothing to thank God for? Sometimes I keep wondering how people on the street survive in the rainy season if someone that has an apartment is complaining of cold, sometimes I wonder how people that sleep in the street feel if there is trouble everywhere if someone that is living inside a house is scared.
Little story......
Well let me tell you a little story about a guy who is always complaining of not having it all he has 5 jeans trousers with 4 shirts to it and he is working as a cashier in a hotel and he is living in a room and a parlor self but Instead of thanking God for the little he has he keeps complaining if not having enough clothes for not getting a good job.
And one day he is on his off day and then he washed all his beautiful Jean and shirt then went inside to sleep for a while guess what by the time he wakes up to pack his clothes where he spread it all his clothes are gone and then he keeps asking the neighbors if they see his clothes.
Then one woman who he has complained to before said: why look for them since you don't like them, the woman continue talking to him and said: now you will understand the difference between I have a little from I don't have at all and the guy burst into tears that he has been so ungrateful to God because there are so many people who don't have up to what he has but still they give thanks to God.
And he has more than enough but still, he keeps complaining now that all the clothes are gone he now realized that he has something he should have been thankful for, and am sure most of us are just like this guy.
We have little but we don't appreciate it because we are looking at some other people who have more than us but we are not seeing people that don't have at all.
There is always a reason to be thankful so don't be an ingrate keep thanking God for the little you have.
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Relationship is not by force
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Is love do or die?
Is relationship by force?
Hello everyone, how is your day going today?
Love they say it's a beautiful thing and as sweet as love is, it can kill and it can also ruin lives more so love is sweet when you are with the right person.
Everyone deserves to love and to be loved as well but not everyone can handle this thing called love why? Because some people are not capable of giving back love the way it is been given to them some don't even have the heart to love someone else except themselves and you can't blame them because they might have faced so much in a relationship that made them not to fall in love again.
And that's why we keep seeing heartbreak here and there and there is a saying which says that "a broken relationship is better than a broken home" if you can't handle a relationship don't bother going into it so that you won't hurt someone and yourself as well someone once told me that to stay single with rest of mind is better than being in a relationship that is full of violence.
Lately, there has been so much news about broken homes, marriages, relationships, friendships, etc. Why are all these happening? It is because some people are forcing themselves to be in a relationship that they can't keep for long for instance, if you are the type who doesn't like to share your thoughts with someone and yet you have so many friends don't you know that's automatically you can't keep a friend?
Or you are the type who doesn't like too many people around and yet you have friends it simply means you can't keep friends as well and yet you have plenty of friends how did you want to manage the friendship if you don't want them around then they will start feeling like you don't like them or maybe you are keeping things from them so it's better to be alone than forcing yourself to have friends.
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We should know ourselves better and know what is good for us and what we should do.
Now to talk of love, it is said that anywhere there is no love there can't be peace there as a human if you want to go into a relationship with someone you should be sure if that person truly loves you well enough someone you want to love should be your best friend someone you can share your thoughts with.
Love is not just to tell someone"I love you" it takes much more to say I love you but what do we get nowadays I love you is just like a good morning to some people because they don't even have feelings for their partner
Things to check before going into a relationship
Does he or she love you enough?
Is love enough for the journey?
Do I love this person back?
Can I give love back or am I capable of loving back?
Am I ready for this relationship?
Because it is not everyone that is capable of loving and giving love back that's why you see some people saying "I just like her I don't love her"
I remember one lady I met at Dangote Noodles back then she use to be my friend then before she travel out of the country that night I saw her crying then I move closer to ask what happened to her then she said: my boyfriend broke up with me
I just ask why and then she said she's pregnant for him and the guy rejected the baby and said they didn't have an agreement of getting married to each other so why did she get pregnant for him, I wasn't surprised because guys nowadays need a very good explanation before giving yourself to them you need to seat and have a good discussion to know where you are both going to and stop assuming he is your future husband.
Stop jumping into a relationship without any discussion from the opposite sex to avoid breaking your own heart by yourself.
There is a saying that says: "it takes two to tangle" there can't be a relationship without two reaching an agreement It would be wrong to call someone a cheat when you guys don't have an agreement of where the relationship is going.
Love is not a do or die thing so if you are not comfortable with the relationship then walk away
Love is not by force so stop jumping into a relationship without having a good discussion about it he or she might not love you are you think but your assumption pushed you into the relationship and in the end, there will always be issues because you don't know him and he doesn't even know you
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Trust nobody with your life
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Let me first give thanks to God for life because when there is life there is hope and all thanks to my daily readers here then lastly to all my beautiful sponsors that keep supporting me and giving me tips even though my article is not the best but you guys keep standing by me thank you all to my sponsors
Now let's talk about today's topic " trust nobody with your life" sometimes the people that you trust with your life might be the ones to ruin your life for you and that's what happened to Samuel in this story.
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Samuel was a great person at work and a hard-working guy too until he decided to trust someone with his life by lending out money from the company's account where he works which lead to his doom at work and bring him down in his entire life completely.
Can we now say that nobody can be trusted with money or when it comes to money? Well I think not everyone is bad when it comes to the money issue, and this makes me remember what my mom always says about money: "money can destroy friendship and it can make a family not to truth each other"
And of course, this is so true because if not why do some brothers fight each other because of a business transaction? Well as I always say money is like a spirit and that is why it can cause so much more between friends, family and even in a marriage
Back to the discussion, Samuel was a single guy who doesn't have time for dating because he so much values his work but along the line, he found someone he thinks he's in love with and they both get on the boat of love
Samuel's girlfriend lost her job as a marketer and then she began to sit at home doing nothing but then Samuel think helping his girlfriend with a loan is not a bad idea since he is the account and he has every access to the company's money
Then he process the loan and gave it to his girlfriend to start up a business so that she won't have to serve under anyone again, sometimes it is better to know who you are dating deeply before taking some certain action on their behalf
Samuel's girlfriend collected a huge amount of money (1million) and thank him for his generosity but Samuel doesn't understand what she meant by "generosity" since they have been together for 3 months after 3 days his girlfriend started misbehaving towards him
But he thought maybe it is the market stress that is making her behave that way so he never complained 1 week after Samuel closed from work and he decided to check up on his girlfriend to see how she has been managing the money
On getting to her house he met her and some girls which he haven't seen before smoking, drinking and dancing and then he caution his girlfriend to stop because he haven't seen such with her only for her to slap him in return then says: oh you think I can date a salary earner like you?
Samuel felt like drawing but he couldn't but then he was bold enough to ask for his money and the girl replied: did I ask you to take a loan for me? I gave you my heart and then you gave me your money so if you know what is good for you go and start paying it back because you collected it.
Samuel looked down and he said: oh I feel like killing you right now
She replied: go on and be jailed forever
Samuel left angrily and the next day he was sacked and arrested for taking money without the company's approval
The thing is when some people fall in love they fall and broke their entire life and while some only break legs but in Samuel's case he fell and broke both life and legs because if only he was patient to know her very well he wouldn't have fallen for such girl if only he has the time he wouldn't have jump into a relationship with someone he thinks he knows
This is a true-life story some shared where I went to check up on my shop chair and table today even though I don't know Samuel but I felt for him because good guys always meet bad girls while good girls always end up with bad guys and this makes me conclude the life is not balance at all.
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7 things I can't do without in a day.
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There are so many things we can't do without as a human but I will just mention the 3 natural things we need to survive in life as living souls and even the nonliving things need them as well so I count them as a natural thing.
These things are:
Air
Water
Food
Those 3 things are natural things everything on earth can't do without and let's talk about it a little bit.
° **Air**: am sure no one can do without air because we all need to breathe to survive, imagine someone living in a house without any air do you think such a person can last an hour before he or she dies? And that is why God created air for us to breathe and survive.
° **Water**: water is very important in life and am sure no one can do without water even if you can stay for hours without drinking water am sure you can't stay for days without bathing or washing your clothes even the nonliving things make use of water and that is how useful water is to everything on earth, for instance, the dry season we all can see how bad every always looks flowers won't blossom, the plant won't grow properly even weeds around will dry unless there is water for them.
° **Food**: there is no need to beat around the bush about food because nobody can survive without food even animals cant, plants also eat, insects too also eat so you can see every living thing survive on food.
Those are the natural things we all can't do without as a human in life now to talk about individual things which I am just going to talk about my own because I don't know what some other people can't do without but as for me. These are the things I can't do without in a day.
Phone
Money
Work
Data
Movie
My slippers
My room
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° **Phone**: some people are in life that can actually do without a phone because it is not everyone that can afford it even at that they are still making use of phone because they can borrow it from someone to make calls, but as for me I can't do without two phones because I love making a call with my small Nokia phone and I also love listening to the radio on it then my big phone is for movie and browsing.
° **Money**: I can actually do without money for some time because I have been there before when I wasn't working I don't always have money not even a dime on me back then but now I don't think I can do without money again because I now have what I want to do with money and I don't like going out without anything on me again I believe that's a good change in me.
° **Work**: it is only a lazy person that can do without work because there is no means of surviving in this life without work even if the work is just a little one it is still work as far as it provides for you.
° **Data**: lol big phones without data is just like cooked rice without sauce you know how awful it will taste so of course I can't do without data because I love streaming on social media to check for new things and to keep myself updated on what is going on in the world.
° **Movie**: I should be called a movie girl because the movie keeps my company it makes me forget thinking whenever am down I love watching movies and it could be American movies, kdrama, series, season movies and of course Nigerian movies because they always act so funny
° **My slippers**: ever since I was little I don't like going about without my slippers on it always looks like there are sharp objects on the floor and that is how I am till today.
° **My room**: it is not like as if I don't go out that is why I can't do without my room but I don't like sleeping outside and that is the main reason why I said I can't do without my room even if I go to my mom's house I won't feel comfortable and I won't sleep deeply until am back home I don't know why I always feel that way but I believe it's my nature.
Those are the 7 things I can't do without in a day and I seriously do not know why I can't do without them even if I tried not to use them In a day I always find myself using them especially my phone and I have come to realize that I can't do without them.
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Advantages and disadvantages of social media
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Hello to you all my read.cash family, how are you all doing today? It is a beautiful morning over here though it's late morning how was your night to those who are just getting up from bed all over the world mine day is moving on great
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Guess your day is moving on fine and great. I woke up quite late because I didn't sleep early last night, I was glued to my phone watching videos and reading short true-life stories on other social platforms (Facebook).
I read until I was tired of seeing too many tragic ends of different stories of how people choose to live their life just because of the things they see on social media. Social media is nobody's world and we see a lot of things which some are true while some ain't as well, people take advantage of social media to tell lots of lies and even mislead people.
I remembered a guy saying he wants to be like hushpuppy, the internet fraudster that was arrested some time back. He was so much in love with what the guy was flaunted on various social platforms like Instagram, Facebook, Twitter and so many more many youths who don't know the source of his wealth have lost their lives and some lost their minds while trying to be a lavish spender like this criminal (hushpuppi).
The moment he was arrested for fraud, a lot of his admirers' stepped aside why because they have been following him because they don't know what he is into I even heard the so call Gucci unfriend him on every social media as well, such is life.
There are so many wrong impressions created on social media which is not healthy for us but people, unfortunately, end up getting trapped in the impression. I wouldn't say social media is bad because it has helped a lot of people including me I have promoted my job online and have met customers there as well but the disadvantages of social media are way far from the advantages the danger of social media is plenty than the good on it.
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Noisecash and readcash for instance, allow us to earn and this would make you understand that there are limitless opportunities in social media but people ignore the good to embrace the bad side of it by following social media influencers blindly.
Imagine someone like Bobrisky a crossdresser advising girls about relationships what does he understand as a girl what kind of advice can such a person give you? Than to tell you to slay, can there be any useful advice from such person that keeps showing off money here and there on social media and he's dressing like a woman when God made a man some girls really want to be like him because I do see their comments like: oh Bob I want to be like you, Bob please help me, you can imagine all this I don't know why people love lies than truth but I believe it is their choice.
Some ladies are even rich on social media meanwhile they are so poor in real life simply because all they do is fake. People show off accessories that doesn't belong to them just to earn followers and make people think highly of them then you will see people trying to become someone who is not real, someone that doesn't even exist, some who is not even up to your standard in real life but because of what she's posting you think she better than you.
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Some will even go extra mind to borrow kinds of stuff like clothes, wigs, shoes, and even cars to snap pictures just for posting and make people think they are rich.
Who is fooling who? They can only fool themselves and some fools like them who live their lives based on what they are seeing on social media and people who want to be like them.
God created us differently with a different mission so no matter how hard you tried you can never be anyone just be yourself.
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Why cheating?
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Aside from money and care what else do you think women want from men?
I have been thinking that truly what does a woman want? And what does a man want from a woman? Because the issue of cheating is on both sides.
It baffles me how some humans don't even know what they want and why they are in a marriage or relationship a lot of people have made decisions about relationships with their minds clouded by greed and selfishness.
I have seen men jump from one woman to another because they are beautiful and I have seen women run around men just because of money and these things makes me wonder if true love still exists in this life because relationship is now like a business where ladies go into just for material things just like what I read on @Olasquare post that a lady wants to be collecting monthly allowance from her boyfriend and even some guys went into a relationship for satisfaction, some guys are in a relationship too because of money when they see a rich girl automatically they want to be her boyfriend.
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Last night I saw a lady posting iPhone on someone's status her boyfriend bought it for her and after some hours that same boyfriend has beaten the hell out of her though I don't know what happened between them but my question now is why is she with him? Because am sure that is not the first time he's beating her but she chooses to be with him because of material things.
Some ladies don't even care where their boyfriend is getting money from all they want is a rich guy to move in with to live an expensive life, that's not enough reason to go into a relationship and I also saw some girls being used for money ritual and those guys recorded it and post for people to see why are some girls choose to end their lives because of money?
While some guys date girls for sexual satisfaction, curves, beauty that's all they are looking for in a lady some guys will even say if she's not light in complexion with a very beautiful face they can date her but then you don't know you just made the biggest mistake of your life because a relationship that is not built on feelings of love would definitely end up crashing badly.
When you love someone for something or go into a relationship, marriage for selfish reasons and the things eventually get missing it means your love for that person will start fading away and that's why you keep seeing 1-year marriage crashing, 2 years of marriage having a serious issue because the love is not enough between the two of them but if the love you have for your partner is enough I am sure there is nothing that can separate you till the end.
Back to the main topic, why do people cheat? I have some reasons which I believe might lead to cheating in a relationship and I will highlight them below:
Some people cheat because the love they have for their partner is not enough.
To keep a relationship, you must give the best of your love with a la lot of sacrifice and if one side is not giving his or her's completely into the relationship, there is no how the relationship is going anywhere and this would lead to seeking of attention elsewhere.
Some cheat for material things.
This is really annoying to me and I get confused when I see people cheat because of merely material things and this is common among ladies If you know you can settle with a person who is not financially fit it is better to wait for the rich dude than to go into it and then end up cheating. It is very wrong to cheat because your lover can't give you all that you want.
Some cheat because they are not satisfied with what they have.
When a person is not contented with what they have so their covetousness would push them out to cheat.
Some people are cheaters by nature.
This reminds me of one of my neighbors where I was living before, he always cheats on his wife, and guess what those other girls have nothing, and his wife she owns a clinic where she treats people. Is that not a future that two people should build together as a family?
Instead of joining hands with his wife physically, financially, and emotionally, he chooses to spend all his money on another woman.
He takes them out every time to celebrate birthdays for them and buys expensive things as well while his wife struggling all alone with two kids.
I am sure there are some women like that too who choose to have extramarital affairs for some lame reasons like "he can't satisfy me in bed" and other silly excuses they can't even share with someone else. They know what they are doing is a shameful thing and that is why it is called "cheating".
There are times you see the husband of a cheating wife and you can't help but ask yourself why she is cheating because they have a perfect home already but some humans are just something else in nature.
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Dont mislead the young ones
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What is feminist? They are females who fight against equality between males and females and the issue of gender equality is becoming something else in society today. Though we all have right in this world but there are things females shouldn't bother fighting against e.g.
Head of the house
Equality in house chores
Taking decisions ahead of their husbands. Etc
My mom made me and my siblings understand that man has been the head of the house from the beginning of this world and I don't think anything can change that so why fight against it?
She made us understand that women have been the ones taking care of house chores ever she was little till her present-day so why fight against it?
My own belief on this feminist fighting for equality is that they just want their husbands to help but instead of talking to their husbands they gang up and came up with feminist a group of women that come together to fight men against their rights.
I don't discriminate that we shouldn't be treated equally but we are taking things too far than we should because to me, nothing is equal in life so how can gender be? For instance, each an everyone in the world doesn't have equal life and that is why some are rich while some are poor.
Even before this our generation man has been the head of the house, ruling over everything in the house even all over the world and I believe that women are made to support and not overrule the men. It is not a big deal for a wife to be very richer than her husband, but some women never let that get into their head while some use that against their husbands forgotten that God knows how to share wealth perfectly and He knows the reason why He gave her money and not her husband but they misused the power.
My mom says whenever she finished cooking back then when my dad was still alive she is always on her knees to give her husband food while holding water for him to wash his hand, such big respect for her husband I don't think there is such respect between husband and wife in this life that we live now because of this so call feminist misleading women to fight for equality in their home.
And this can actually affect the girls growing up to see what their mothers are doing to their fathers, this could also affect young guys not to have the mind of getting married because they will be scared of what the lady can do in the future.
Now the world has changed and I fear what some females are turning into only God knows, simply because the foreigners believe women go through a lot and they gave them big hand in the society so that everyone can have a say as human, but instead, some are misusing the advantages by fighting for equality in the marriage, home even in their children's life not knowing this could actually affect the upbringing of their children.
Woman no longer have enough respect for their husbands because they want everything in the house to be equal, so if our children now grow up and ready for marriage are we going to tell them to always fight their husbands for equality at home? or can we advise our male children to always leave some responsibility for his wife to make everything at home equal? What you can't take don't do it for others
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This gender equality is getting way too far from what men call it, imagine a female boxer fighting with a male boxer all in the name of gender equality. I even saw one quote saying "what a man do a woman can do better", well to me it's all a lie because there are some things male can do that female can not do, so girls, ladies, women stop fighting for this equality with a man because there are lots of things women can't do without a man.
What I was expecting female to fight for is care and love because even the Bible says that " women are weak vessels" which mean there are some certain things women can not do and man should always take care of women since we were made from them.
I can't speak for all women, but I can speak for myself and as for me there is nothing like gender equality though I have my right too as a woman, and I will never compete with a man for any equality but if you are a feminist Ido to have any problem with that because we all have the right to be whatever we want to be.
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Be Your Man's Helper
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This post is not pointing a finger at anyone, is just what I think on my own and what I saw on social media lately so nobody should take it personally.
Responsibility is the act of taking full charge of something. Am sure some will even be thinking that well thank God am just a girl automatically I don't have any responsibility to take charge of because my husband or fiance/ boyfriend will be the one to carry it all, but then I ask what about your own family? Are they your man's responsibility as well? And this is what is causing problems in so many marriages and relationships because ladies of nowadays don't want to work all they want is to sit at home enjoy their men hard earn money and then they will still be claiming they want to come first in everything the man does.
Let me burst your bubble, man is not the only one that has a responsibility to carry we all have a responsibility to carry as long as you are alive living whether you are single, engaged, or married you have your responsibility in life as well.
For instance, a single lady that says she doesn't have a responsibility, are you going into a relationship because you want your boyfriend to carry your life responsibility for you? Or let me ask if you are not lucky to have a man in your life won't you sort yourself out? No wonder some ladies now prefer to date or marry Yahoo guys(internet fraudsters) just because they want the guy to always pay their bills and buy them expensive things.
A lady that is engaged this ones are very bold to the extent of telling a man why did you get me engaged when you know you can't carry my responsibility? Well, let me ask you before you got engaged who was carrying the responsibility for you? Or you just manage to get him to engage you so that you can put all the load on his neck? If the guy happens to be your elder brother will you allow such a lady for him? Am sure you won't.
And as for married people these one's are very funny eh you will hear after all you are my husband so automatically my responsibility has become yours as well forgetting that their father is a man and their brothers too is also a man, some of them will always tell their brothers that you don't marry your wife just to finance her family but they want their husband to finance theirs, don't you know that when your husband head is full of responsibility he will begin to misbehave to you in the house but when you are helping him even if it is little it won't choke him, I have seen someone that has an issue in her marriage just because her husband's head is full of responsibility and when she went out to work the issue die down now she doesn't want to stay idle again because she now knew the cause of her marriage problem.
I watched one TV program and the host was talking about the responsibility of a man and a woman as a couple then she said: "you don't go into marriage just to make your man truck that has nothing to do than to carry the load" and I reason that, that if my brother reports his wife of letting him finance her family all in the name of marriage I will be very mad at her because my brother is not a horse or camel that came to life just to carry loads for another person don't get it wrong man will always take responsibility but the wife has to help too to ease him from getting choked though it might just be in a little way.
Likewise, I can't do such for my man, a man can help his wife, fiance/girlfriend to pay bills even he can send money to her parents as well but it is not an obligation or a duty. But some women have made it a duty call for their husbands.
You can ask and then he will give you but don't you make a compulsory habit, see what you can't take don't do it for someone else because we all have a man in our family even if you don't have brothers you will have a father. Men are truly strong and they can carry anything as many as it is but that doesn't make us turn them into a truck and use them as we like.
And as a man don't think your woman is a golddigger because she always asks you for financial help, you are her supporter that's what you should always do because some men too don't like to help their woman which is not right we all should be a helper to each other
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I Said Yes II
I exchange numbers with Tunde at the school gate because he gave me the assignment to break his friend's shell in exchange for helping me to write attendant in the class whenever am late to school because I work in a factory and sometimes it takes extra time so I took the offer.
The next weekend on my way to school it was raining but I don't want to miss the lecture so I had to enter inside the rain when I got to school my clothes is already wet and then Tunde collected shirt from his friend and gave me to wear then I did so after the lecture we were set to go home when Tunde told me to come and return the shirt to their hostel of wish I don't even know there.
Tunde described their hostel for me and I took his friend's shirt to him it was there I got to see his friend that he's talking about and I have met him before then we exchange greetings I found their hostel fun and decided to play with them a while before I go back home they were guys and that's why I like them.
After two weeks of knowing about four of them Tunde and his friends I was fund of them and this makes me go there every weekend but there is one particular person that we don't get along so one night like that I slept there because we are having an exam and they have past questions that I can read so stayed back to read with them after reading everyone was sleeping but I couldn't because I don't sleep outside it wasn't convenient for me.
Then I stood up to get water and I noticed someone else who couldn't sleep too I walk towards him and I found out it was someone I shouted at in the classroom and he is the same guy Tunde told me about so I apologized for that then we talked all through the night.
Well, I believe God knows why it all happened like that because in the night we both shared our past and why we couldn't sleep and when he noticed that we have something in common he said can you be my girlfriend? Lol, that was funny to me because I don't want to fall in love but I say yes because I don't want him to feel bad let's just say I pretend to be in a relationship with him.
Meanwhile, he has already fallen in love with me but I don't know along the line I noticed if I didn't see him for one weekend I won't feel complete then I told my elder sister and she said am in love with him that was how it all started.
Some months later I told him about his friend that he was the one that asked me to come into his life just to break his shell ( to stop him from being a shy type) and he felt bad about that, I thought that was the end of it and went back to my sister's house and for two days he didn't call I don't bother either because I have told him the truth but to my surprise on Saturday am all dressed to go out and then I saw him outside of our house with rose in his hand I couldn't hold back my feelings.
Then I jumped on him and said I will be your girlfriend though during the relationship we went through a lot because his friend came back to fight me when he discovered that am in love with him but the true love we shared helped us and yesterday he told me to come to his place after the crossover night and I did only for him to stretch ring and said: will you marry me? What was I supposed to say than YES, after all, we have been through and who wouldn't want to marry the person they love?.
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Well, I said yesterday at 1:20am and that sounds like 2022 is going to be great for our relationship because I wasn't expecting it.
The person am talking about is no other person than @George_Dee
2021 So Far
It's a beautiful Friday morning and the last day of the year as well the year 2021 has been a very hard one because a lot has happened this year but still I thank God for life, I thank God for my family, I thank God for the love of my life and I thank God for everything because it has not been easy but God sees me and my family through.
And all thanks to everyone that stood by me including my friends here, my sponsor, readers you all are awesome.
Since January I have been struggling to get a container for my shop but I believe if it is not yet time it can't work so I couldn't achieve that on January, February pass without me laying my hands on it again and every month that passed I keep thinking if the work is even meant for me.
You know if you are struggling to get something done and it seems like it is not working for you people will look at you as if you are lazy but in my own case, people thought I don't even know what am doing sometimes I get scared if am going to make it because the rate which things get expensive scares me more.
August I have some cash so I head to the welder shop and ask how much the container will cost he said 250k ($500) awww I don't even have $200 yet and I deposited 50k ($100) with the hope that anything that comes in I will be depositing it like that until I completed it.
But when God is not ready to answer someone everything he or she does won't work out, two months after I couldn't even raise 50k ($100) on my own because I had to deal with lots of things and bills is not even helping the matter landlord increased house rent, electricity awww that one is like my forefather's dept that I must pay, foodstuffs are getting expensive every day and the money I deposited I couldn't get it back because the man keeps giving me excuses on it.
At a point, I lose hope in getting a shop and I went out to look for a stylist job and yeah I got one but was I able to cope with the work let's see, it was my boss that gave me the job link so I was happy because my boss knew that am not a lazy person.
I went for the interview and of course, I passed the person that owns the salon asked me to start the next day I was surprised because that was so easy but am happy, the next day I resumed work he showed me around and some minutes after customer came in and I attended to them I did my best when it was in the night that am set to leave he asked me to give him the money I make since morning which it wasn't supposed to be like that I am to pay him at the end of the month.
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But the happiness of working doesn't make me think about it the next day I was washing towel outside and he came sat beside me then started saying he wants to marry a hairdresser so that she can take care of the salon and he asked if I like the shop I told him I love it and then he said so marry me and have the shop all to yourself but then I told him I have a serious relationship so I can't do such meanwhile I don't do dirt then he stood up and went inside.
I thought that was all after washing the towels I went inside to mob the floor and all of a sudden he grabbed me from the back it was only God that saved me that day I ran outside and carry my bag I didn't wait to collect all the money I gave him before I quit the job the next day he started calling me to come back but I refused, he even told my boss to beg me but I didn't listen to her because that man could hurt me if I go back there so I quit for good.
After I sat myself down and think it over and over again then I concluded that if God doesn't do it I won't push it, November I called my fiance to help me look for a shop I told him I just wanted to know how much shop it will cost but to God be the glory I was able to afford the shop with the help of God and my friends here including my fiance.
December I started buying all the appliances that I will use inside the shop and so far so good my shop will start by January because I don't want to rush anything I want God to handle it all as He always does.
Yeah, I captured so many beautiful pictures because I love taking pictures so much as you can see up there but don't mind my ugly face 😜
@McYusuf this is my entry to the challenge on how my 2021 went thanks for the inspiration.
Thanks, @Jane for your sponsorship renewer and to every other one that sponsor me I love you all, and happy new year in advance.
Faith Brought Us Together II
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It's been days since I posted part one of this story and I couldn't continue the story all these days because of the busy work I had during Christmas but now am a little bit free so that's why am here to continue my story.
All thanks to my everyday readers, my sponsors, and to the people that always comment if there is no you there is no me so that's why am saying thank you so much to you all
If you haven't read part 1 here is the link https://read.cash/@Esthery97/fate-brought-us-together-b7b78e34
So let's continue our story, Anita went back to her marketplace to finish up with her sales for that day when she got home her roommate named Sofia challenged her of having an eye on Jide but that will be the last thing on Anita's mind.
**Sofia**: Anita I saw the way you are looking at that guy in the morning
**Anita**: what! Sofia how can you say that someone that has a serious relationship I can't do that
**Sofia**: hmmm na today that's not new anymore if you like him just grab your copy
**Anita**: but Sofia you know you are naughty right anyways that's what you are thinking and it is very far from my own thinking at the moment.
They both laugh at how Jide was begging in the morning and then went to bed because they are eating while discussing
In the morning they were still sleeping when someone knock at their door Sofia got up and wake Anita they both looked at each other as the knocking continues
**Anita**: Sofia are you expecting someone?
**Sofia**: do I have a boyfriend that can knock at my door?
Anita smiled at what Sofia said as she head to the sitting-room door she opened it was the landlord
**Landlord**: so you two have forgotten that you are owning house rent?
**Anita**: good morning sir
**Landlord**: what is good about this morning eh Anita just tell me one thing that is good about today? Because you promised that you will see me last week but you didn't and here you are telling me the morning is good
**Anita**: baba(daddy) am so sorry that I couldn't meet up last week is just that the money we were expecting doesn't come in
**Landlord**: so what do you think am doing to listen to you no am here to collect my money haba it's been 6months haven't I tried
Anita continues to beg him while the landlord continue to shout at her Jide got there with the mindset of giving her the forgiving gift she asked for only to see the landlord disgracing both Sofia and Anita outside their apartment
**Jide**: good morning sir
**Landlord**: nobody should greet me again because this morning is not good ok
**Jide**: ok fine what happened
**Landlord**: and who are you to ask me that kind of question
**Anita**: he is our landlord and he's here to collect the house rent and am telling him to calm down because the person that owns me money will soon be here then I will pay him
**Sofia**: Mr. Jide don't mind Anita we don't have any hope of how to pay the house rent o she just trying to calm the landlord down
**Jide**: so how much are we talking about here?
**Sofia**: #108 ($200) sir
**Jide**: sir can you call me your account number so that I can do the transfer because I don't have cash with me here
The landlord called his account number and then Jide paid their house rent when the landlord left Sofia told Jide to come in for water but Jide insisted not to because he's going to work he just branch to give Anita a gift and he drop the gift for Sofia because Anita felt embarrassed and went inside without saying anything to Jide.
When Sofia got inside Anita started blaming her for collecting money from Jide but Sofia doesn't see that as a bad thing.
If you were to be Anita will you collect money from Jide?
If you are Jide would you have paid the money?
Do you think Sofia did the right thing?
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Jide called Sofia to give Anita the phone then Jide made her understand that he just want to be friends with the two of them and nothing more because he's getting married next weekend and then Anita felt relief because she doesn't want any kind of help to will require her dating a guy for it.
And that was how the 3 of them became close friends sometimes our thoughts are very wrong towards people's actions to us especially girls some of us believe if a guy help they are coming back for dating which is some guy are just like that they can give without collecting back
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Fate Brought Us Together
It was a beautiful morning when Anita came outside from her quarters to throw dirty water outside because her washing hand basin is damaged only to land it on Jide's body
Jide: what!
Anita: ha please sir am so sorry I never knew you were coming
Jide's girlfriend came down from the car and gave Anita a very big slap on her face then started yelling at her for pouring dirty water on her boyfriend's white cloth
Jide's girlfriend: is this how you people do in this local area? You this dirty riffraff
Anita was mute and tears rolling down from her cheeks because of the unexpected slap she got from Jide's girlfriend then Jide told his girlfriend to leave her and they both entered their car and went home.
Anita got inside and started crying while her roommate keeps begging her to stop crying and she asked what happened to her outside but Anita couldn't explain because it all happened so fast to her.
Two days later Jide came back to Anita's area to apologize for what his girlfriend did to her but he couldn't find her because Anita sells provision at the market so she leaves home early and return late such a busy lady she is.
One day Anita is in her small shop attending to a customer and what that person wants to buy she doesn't have she wanted to take her phone so that she could call the distributor to bring market for her only to find out that her phone is not in her bag and nobody enters the shop with her so she concluded that her mind that her phone is still at home.
She grabbed her bag and told the woman next to her shop she needs to get her phone at home on getting to her door she noticed it is opened who could have entered without a key because her roommate must have gone to school as well (she's a university student).
As she entered, she saw a man sitting on the chair in their sitting room and she greeted him good morning and how may I help you sir and Jide answered her greetings he knew she's the one he's waiting for but Anita doesn't remember his face again.
She went straight into her room to take her phone when Anita came back to the sitting room her roommate is back and then she said Anita this young man said he's looking for you Anita greets again and ask how may I help your sir because am not sure have seen this face before.
Jide: yeah you have but you might not remember again
Anita: so what can I do for you sir
Jide: my name is Jide I was the one you poured dirty water on some days ago
Anita got mad because she remembered the slap his girlfriend gave her and then said oh you've come to slap me again right? where is that your witch girlfriend? Who thinks she can slap anyone that comes her way let me just show her what have got too eh
Jide: no am not here to slap you sis am here to apologize on my girlfriend's behalf
Anita: ok apology accepted can you leave now?
Anita's roommate: haba forgive him now he's a gentleman to the call that's why he is apologizing for his woman
Anita: babe you need to witness the hot slap his girlfriend gave me that day I was shocked because I wasn't expecting it at all, after all, I have already apologized for the dirty water before his witch girlfriend slapped me
Jide: am still begging please we are sorry
Anita: if not for my friend here I won't forgive you because you and your girlfriend cheated me because you guys are rich yes that's what you rich people do to a poor person like me.
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Anita continued ranting while her roommate grabs her hands and said ok fine, sorry hmmm I know you have a good heart to forgive them so please do forgive him ok and Anita smiled and said you both are forgiven but you must buy me am sorry gift o the three of them laughed and head outside so that everyone can continue their lives
TBC.......
"Sometimes some things happen for a reason and sometimes some situations are for a reason as well"
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Just Believe In yourself
To everyone that wish me well yesterday, I say a very big thank you because you guys really make me happy and you guys put a big smile on my face with your good wishes.
I choose this topic because I believe in myself and I believe in my decision, when I was little had a notebook with me which I jot in I never thought of being a writer yeah that has never been in my future plans but I still have my 2016 notebook with me because I love keeping records of my childhood.
And that is why it is very easy for me to write an article about life experience and what I learned from people even what people share with me I can make an article from it because that's very easier for me.
`Some people has gone to the wrong path because they believe in other people's decision over their own life`
So let's talk about "Just believe in yourself"
It's a story of someone I used to know she is a very brilliant and hardworking lady but there is something she's not happy about and the thing is her relationship life, is it true that some people are not just lucky about this thing called relationship? I guess yes because if not this lady should have a good relationship because she's such a darling to what have known about her.
According to her, she said one of her friends took her to a church to pray about her relationship because she has dated many guys and they will dump her for another girl, at the end she said her last relationship was terrible and that was why she agreed to go and pray about her relationship life, the guy she dated last told her to search for an apartment so that they can settle down and she did as he asked and she said she even bought some kitchen tools inside the apartment to surprise her guy, only to saw his picture on Facebook where his friends are congratulating him but she didn't believe
Then she went to their new apartment to see with her own eyes only to meet her fiance with his new wife and she ask him why then the guy told her he cannot get married to her and this makes her believe that there is something wrong with her.
When the pastor prayed for her he said she should give her life to Christ yeah we all have to give our lives to Christ but instead of the church to continue praying for this lady they bring her close and made her believe that she's one of their daughters then collecting money from her and she's doing it with her whole mind
She said after so many years of looking for a husband the pastor to her to marry someone he gave her his number so that they can talk and the day they both fixed to meet this lady finds out the person she has been talking to is an old man who has giving birth to 3 grown-up guys and he just wants someone that will be taking care of him in the house and then she turns him down.
My point is don't let anyone choose the kind of life you will live for your we all are human in this world and there is no one who can't mislead someone being a pastor or not and the fake pastors are now much more than the real one so this has made people not to believe in what the real pastors have to say.
I and this lady use to make hair in the same salon back then and it was someone that made her share her life story because that person is saying so much about what her pastor has done to ruin her life and that's why she shared her own as well
My mom will say if anyone knows what God wants to do next people would have taken such person as their God and that is why God never reveal it all to anyone in this life so don't let anyone tell you they know your future no one knows what tomorrow has for them.
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That lady said she's married now because belief in herself and the day she meet that old man her mind told her to go as far as she can away from that church because they will do more damage to her life and then she followed her mind now she's in her husband's house with her kids, if you don't believe in yourself you can't make any bold step in life and if you don't believe in yourself you can't take any decision on your own and that's where people come into your life and dictate how you will live your life for you.
Note: all you need is to believe in yourself because if you don't believe in yourself no one will believe in you.
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How Have You Been?
It's a beautiful Sunday morning and a very cold morning as well though am feeling cold but I think I love it than the heat because if someone is cold you can put on as many clothes as you want but if it is heat am sure no one can walk naked on the street all in the name of am feeling heat lol don't mind me
Yeah that the big difference between heat and cold and speaking of cold it makes me feel the season greetings everywhere is like tomorrow is Christmas anytime I wake up to see the cold weather I can't even wait to sing that Christmas songs
Back to how I have been, I choose this topic because it's been a while since I came here last it's either am too tired to type or I don't know what to start with coz am not a good writer am still struggling to keep up with my everyday article and now stress add it's own to it.
for some days have been busy with setting up my shop which I got help from some people yeah they are so dear because I wasn't expecting it but what can I say than to thank them for their helpful advice and so much more that I don't want to mention @Olasquare and ola has been a very supportive friend ever yeah I can say that again and again @George_Dee George aww my best part what can I do without him? He has always been there for me from the beginning of the plan and of course, @Fexonice1 I could remember him praying for me to succeed with the shop on noisecash a little help is something to me and everyone that wish me well that I can't mention them all.
And anytime I got back home am always tired even if I don't leave home it is either am sleeping for been too tired or I don't know what to write, have seen so many people that wrote about writer's block which means they ran out of what to write but in my own case it's a writer's lost because at a point I lost the inspiration to write though am always on noisecash we all know noisecash is the most easiest place to be even at that I do lose what to write on noise as well it is then I realized that stress can actually affect the brain.
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So instead of ranting over here, I stayed away for some days to recover my brain, inspiration, motivation, and energy. I drafted some articles 3 days ago only to go back there and finish up my article I fell sick that's the work of harmattan yeah because have read it somewhere on Google that AAs always get affected by cold so I didn't get worried over the sickness though I don't always sleep deep at night because of the constant headache until yesterday morning that the headache increases the volume I couldn't do anything than to stay indoor and covered myself up.
Then I called a nurse to take treatment even though I don't like drugs, injections all I do take is an herb but this time around is like the herb is not enough to get me back on my feet so my fiance instead on me taking good treatment which requires me taking the injection and some drugs as well "lazy me"
I even tried to stay online on noisecash as long as I could but I ended up sleeping because the injection contains sleeping medicine but now am very much better so I think am very much ready for Santa now lol don't mind me
Speaking of settling my shop here are some pictures of how I started it all, the shop wasn't completed yet so I was asked to pay 2 years shop rent to finish it up which I did
What am waiting for now is the roof and tiles on the floor then I can now move in then start making hair for my beautiful customers
Here in my country if you gave someone a contract like this without supervising it then am sure you are not ready to use that thing or let me say maybe you don't need it urgently so that what has been keeping me busy for some days now the landlord promised that it will only take 3 weeks but it's taking longer than I thought because his bricklayer disappointed him so we had to find another person to do the work
And as for the appliances that I will use inside the shop am getting them one by one because things are quite expensive more these days I don't know maybe it's because of the upcoming Santa celebration but glory be to God for where He started it for me and where I got now then to where He is taking me too yeah I should keep singing praise because it's not by my power at all.
Here are the pictures
My big hairdryer is on its way from the market it will be delivered soon.
So that's how have been and one more thing I want to say am sorry for not visiting you all my friends and thanks to all my sponsors for believing in me even though am not a good writer am not stable lately but still, you guys keep supporting me thank you all I think am back now
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Hopeless#2
It's a beautiful Monday morning over here and am happy to be alive to see another beautiful day and a wonderful week like this, this article was drafted since on Friday night I was supposed to post it on Saturday morning but my work didn't give me chance to so I just completed it last night so that I could post it today, am so sorry for not posting it earlier and for not being active here as well.
Let's continue our story HOPELESS
`It's indeed only God that can make a way where there seems to be no way and that's aunty Rose's case because she later finds happiness at the end when she has thought that's the end of it but God said that's not the end.`
When aunty Rose got back home she said she was so happy because she's is free from bondage her family called marriage so she wants to go back to school and that prompts her to start working so hard and save up some money for her school fee after 3 months of returning home she noticed that she's not active the way she always does and her parents too noticed as well.
So one morning she woke up to prepare for work and when she got outside she vomited then her mother called her and asked what's wrong with her but she was just 20 years and she never had pregnancy experience before so she said she doesn't know but her mother suspect that maybe she pregnant so she took her to their native doctor because they are in the village.
The doctor confirmed that aunty Rose is truly pregnant and when they get home aunty Rose parents asked her who is responsible because it's been 3 months since her husband dumped her and there were no signs of pregnancy in her when she came back so aunty Rose said she doesn't understand as well but her father thought she's lying because she's working so she may be seeing another man at her working place.
But aunty Rose keep saying she doesn't know any man aside from her ex-husband so all of them concluded that they will go and see the man (her husband) when they got there in the next day he has already married another woman but they were able to explain the situation of things to him that aunty Rose is pregnant for him but instead of listening to then he refuses them because there was no sign of pregnancy in aunty Rose's body when he returned her says we husband so he pursue them out of his house.
When they got home aunty Rose said she couldn't believe what just happened to her she said her mind you just up like something bad is about to happen and she said she couldn't go out the next day because of the shame that she's going to give birth to a child that has no father.
Her mother quickly ran and told one of her friends in the village to help her take aunty Rose to the city (Lagos) so that she won't face the shame then her friend agreed to do that for them and that was how she got to Lagos State. After giving birth to her child she doesn't have anything doing so all she does is sleep and wake and one of their neighbor called her to come and work at Dangote Noodles so she went there as well and after some months she was staff as a permanent worker there though the work is stressful but it has good pay for permanent staffs.
I was crying while she was telling me her story because I haven't heard such a story before in real life I thought that kind of story can only exist in the movie not knowing people are really good through a lot in this life.
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Anyways after so many years of me and her working as a co-worker, she got married before I left Dangote Noodles in the year 2019 and I was so happy for her because it is only a few people that were lucky to find happiness again in their life after so many sadness of what they have been through.
She lives with her new husband now as even her husband is a single guy who never marry before and he doesn't have any child as well but still he accepted the child that she has as his own can you see how lucky she is? Well, that's the end of the story.
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Hopeless
Hello beautiful from every part of the world it is a beautiful Friday over here so let's thank God it's Friday (TGIF) it is not only Friday we should be thanking God but every day because whenever we sleep in the night we all died temporarily "says my mom" and ever since she told me this I have learn to give thanks to God whenever I wake up to see another day
*Let's get back on the track*
**HOPELESS**
It is a story of a young lady have worked with when I was in Dangote Noodles she is a very pretty lady with good shape and nice behavior so this makes me wonder why she's a single mom because she just too God to go through all that stress of being a single mother, her husband lost hope on her and returned her to her parents do not giving birth at a tender age.
She use to be my operator (operator is someone that operates a machine and take reports of work to the manager of the factory) so she's my operator while I work on her machine as a checker (a checker is the one to check if the noodles have a seasoning (sauce) on it before it's been wrapped into the nylon) that's what I do then.
So one day she sat beside me talking and I asked her why she's a single mother because I like asking questions to know my curiosity over something or someone so she said it's a long story but she will just tell me a little about it.
And in our work, if you are working and talking it's a crime but that talk keeps the work flowing so she started by saying she lost hope when it gets to a certain point in her life because when went through a lot at a tender age and this has made her lose hope over so many things.
Her name is Rose so I use to call her aunty Rose, Aunty Rose said she got married as soon as she finish primary school at age of 15years she said her dad gave her out because he couldn't pay her school fee anymore so he thought marrying her out is the best solution and you know 15years old girl can't tell their parents what to do here in Nigeria.
So when she got to her husband's house she doesn't know what to do other than sleep, wake, cook for him and satisfy him in bed, I felt bad about this her story because I always watch this in the movie and I will say who does that? Not knowing people do it a lot unless they don't want to open up to others some even went through more than this but the shame of what they went through won't allow them to share it with other people.
Aunty Rose said she was in this man's house for six years which means she clock 20years in his house but she never give birth for that good six years so his family got fed up with her not getting pregnant for the man so they all came to meet her and ask what was wrong and why she didn't give birth.
What could a young girl know about giving birth or not she doesn't have any experience of being a lady, not a friend to advise her on what to do because they don't always allow her to leave the house.
So her husband went back to her parents that he want a refund of the bride price because they are Igbo tribe and that's their culture her parents sold their family land to refund aunty Rose bride price because she couldn't give birth for her husband and the man returned her back to her parents.
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Hmmm, this tribe is so mean sorry to say but why would you marry a young girl like that in the very first place? Is there no mature lady again? And as for the father why did he allow his girl to go through such a thing? Well am not going to judge him
There are more to talk about because she told me more than enough that I can't finish writing it today if I should continue but tomorrow is another day, some parents are the cause of their children's downfall in this life am sorry to say this but I have seen so many cases where parents are the one misleading their children all in the name of that's how our parents did to us.
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Justice
`I got all the pictures in this article from the Facebook page.`
Lead image https://unsplash.com/photos/yCdPU73kGSc
Good morning guys how are you all doing today and how was your night all over the world mine went great because I slept all through the night because of the cold weather and I had enough rest because the last weekend has been a stressful one for me but am ok now.
I was scrolling on my Facebook page for some news and I bump into one news of a 12years boy (Silvester) who was bullied and beaten up by his senior in school because he refused to join their gang and the beaten led to his death after he returned home.
I watch a video where his father was talking about how it all happened he said: he wasn't at home he went for work in another state when he got a call from his mom that the school called her that she should come and pick up Sylvester in school that he's not feeling well and that he sustains an injury from football, his mother called his father to tell him how the boy was acting when he got home he said Sylvester was talkative in nature before he left home and when he came back he became moody he doesn't mingle anymore but his dad said maybe he's just stressed on the phone.
The second day the boy couldn't stand on his feet to walk then his mother gave him painkillers because he complained of body pain, joint pain and back pain as well after some hours his mother called his father to return home and see how the boy is doing while she took him to the hospital for checkup and some body x-ray as well His father said he was on his way when he got a call that Sylvester his boy gave up in the hospital but he didn't go back when he got to the hospital the doctor told Sylvester's parents that he has internal injuries ( swelling kidney, bone crack, mouth pealing, and body swelling) before he gave up.
So now the mother said he talked before she took him to the doctor the boy said he was beaten up by his 5 senior because they want him to join cultist in school and he refused them and they blocked his mouth with a towel that contains substance (I don't know the kind of substance) during the beaten he couldn't breathe neither can he shout because the 5 of them matched him on the ground from head to toe, and the doctor said it was that substance that cause of the injuries in him.
That sounds like those people must have been doing it to some students but this one took another turn and the father even said when they went to the 2 of the senior's houses to ask them what happened they were no longer in the country
When they went back to the school to ask the headmistress maybe she might have an idea of what happened she told them Sylvester played football and that's what cause all the injuries meanwhile the boy has told his parents when he got home that he never participate in any sport in school before.
Since on Friday that I saw this news I felt bad because I even read from one blogger that they are paying 1million naira for their school fees can you imagine someone paying that huge amount of money for just one child and something went wrong and they couldn't figure it out
The father said they don't even have CCTV in the school the one they put there is not working how come that kind of big school won't have CCTV camera in the school premises and I also hear that the mother blamed herself for his death because she doesn't listen to the boy when he said he doesn't want to go back to the boarding.
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Well this is a big lesson for every parent's out there never leave your children in anyone's hands because nobody can take care of him them the way you can, never truth anyone with your children because there are wolves out there they don't care what you go through before having the child they only care of maltreating them
And am sure every other parent that has kids in the school will learn from this I just wish Sylvester gets justice for his death because he is an innocent child.
Am sorry if I bother you with horrible pictures this morning but I couldn't take my mind off it ever since I saw this post what kind of country is this Nigeria that anyone in power will step on people's toes and go free I just wish justice will be served because it is only in this country people in power will kill another person and nothing will be done about it just because they have power and money
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Is it wrong for wife to be earn than her husband?
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It is a beautiful brand new day here today a blissful Friday morning at that with warm and wonderful weather not too cold and not too hot such beautiful weather we've got here this morning, I was away from readcash for the past 3days now because I was so busy with my shop you know I need to buy some stuff in the new shop I will share the picture very soon so don't be angry with me if I haven't been visiting your post or reply your comments lately the shopping and setting up the shop is really taking much of my time and that is why I couldn't write my article for the past 3days as well.
So let's continue our discussion this was discussed in our church (**The Redeem Christian Church of God**) on our family Thanksgiving service so I note it down because I wanted to write something on it but unfortunately I wasn't chance since all this while to write article but am less busy today so let's talk about it now.
**is it right for a woman to earn more than her man**? Well to me I don't think there is anything wrong with it after all she will help the family as well. Don't get me wrong I am not married and I don't know how marriage is been run but am just sharing what I feel about the discussion.
Because I believe every woman loves helping their family and their man too let me use myself as an example though am not a married woman but I have a fiance so as for me I don't like seeing my man struggling, I don't like seeing complaining about money even though am not working and I believe every woman will do the same for their man because women have a soft mind and a kind heart too.
In the church that day(Sunday) a man shares how he and his wife runs their marriage since his wife is earning a huge amount of money he even said it is ×3 of his salary then so he said whenever there is huge responsibility at home like house rent school fees of their children he let his wife do it all and he takes care of feeding and some other stuff in the family and they both lived happily he even said his wife do save out of her money for the family upkeep after paying all the bills and she never complained.
And another guy said his wife earn more too but she's not that kind with her money to the family she feels like the husband because she now pay the bills more than him and he asked her to resign because he loves her and he's not ready to lose the marriage because the wife is not helping the matter at all so he said he told her to resign before things get worse for the marriage and she did so they started living on the man's earning since then.
To me, I think the first woman is a kind one because some women nowadays can't do such they will feel like God for helping their husbands with bills and to me, there is nothing wrong will helping you man to pay bills even though some men will take it for granted.
The second woman I don't know why she's like that, I think she can't handle a higher post that's why, but I believe her husband made the right decision by telling her to quit because he doesn't want to lose his wife and the marriage as well.
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**The question now is**
How do we handle a case where a wife is earning than the husband?
As a husband, if your wife is earning more money at work than you how do you feel about it?
Will ever get jealous of your wife's earning?
Did you think it right for her to earn more than you?
As the man of the house did you feel less of a man in the house because of your wife earning higher than you?
Is it wrong for the wife to earn more than her husband and take care of bills?
If you are the husband would you allow your wife to pay the bills because she earns more than you?
How would you feel if your wife pays bigger bills in the family while you pay little?
Let's discuss this in the comment section good morning fam and thanks for reading.
Empty Pocket With a Bag Of Dreams #2
This question was asked from the previous post you can check it out here
**If you were James would you fight that woman**?
Well if I am the one I won't fight the woman as well because she is just a trouble maker and I won't let her add to my mother's problem
**Did James graduate**?
Well he did graduate but in this life and country that we are in now certificate doesn't determine your success anymore but skills can help you
**Did they survive the poverty**?
Let see from the story to know if they end up surviving the poverty
Beautiful Monday afternoon from this beautiful side part of the world, the sunshine so bright this afternoon so ready to brighten up the day well what I wanted to say is that let's set it right from Monday because Monday determines the rest of the week be productive today that's my little advice.
*Back to the main topic of today empty pocket with a bag of dreams*
James got into the university as he promised his mother but when he got to the middle he couldn't cope again because his mother can't afford his school fee so he switched to per time student (evening program) then he can work as well but instead of him getting a decent job he decided to work inside the market where people are selling pepper
His boss has a big shop of pepper and James has a very good customer relation because he loves what he's doing so during the week James will dress very well like someone going into the office with his bag that contains clothes (working clothes) when he gets to his boss shop he will change back to that clothes inside his bag and face his work squarely
All their neighbors thought he now works in a bank or into one business but not knowing that James spicy his pepper job up so one day one of his full-time classmates came to the market to buy foodstuffs then he branch James shop to buy pepper as you know James is just a sales boy so his boss called him to sell pepper for customer
When James came out his friend asked what he's doing there James did feel ashamed of his job so he told him I sell pepper here then his friend ask again is this your shop James smiled and said if I have this kind of big shop did you think I will still be in school? They both laugh.
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Then James replied him am just a sales boy here selling pepper for customers his friend was shocked to hear that because James is a very brilliant boy so why this kind of job then he told him to come and visit him at home maybe he can talk to his dad for him the next day James didn't go to his friend's house because he wasn't feeling too well and he didn't go to school in the evening as well
And so when his friend noticed his absence from school he went to his house only to find him very sick so he took him to the hospital for proper treatment after James recovered from the sickness he went to visit his friend to thank him and then to see his father about the job matter
When the father ask what he will like to do he told him that he will like to have a big shop like his boss so that he can be selling and his friend's father ask why that kind of business then James answered: sir if I ask you for an office job I know you can do it but as time goes on I might get sacked but if I have a shop nobody can sack me forever
And that was how James's dreams come true because he never relent, he never look back he keep pushing it even though it wasn't that easy and his empty pocket is now full of money with a truck of dreams.
"**As long as you don't give you will definitely make it**"
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Empty Pocket With a Bag of Dreams
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Anytime I see another beautiful breaking of the day I always say thank you Lord because life is not as easy as it is spelled and it is not as easy as it sounds so whenever you have the chance to see another beautiful day like today kindly thank God and appreciate Him for keeping you alive, you are not better than those that died yesterday and is not like as if you are righteous than them but grace kept you going so praise He the Lord for His goodness and mercy over you and your family. I was supposed to have posted this since morning but the Glo network didn't allow me to do anything that has to do with the internet so I had to switch to my other line Airtel
**Empty pocket but with a bag of dreams** is the topic for today and am sure you must be thinking of what I want to write about this topic don't be confused ok is just a normal struggle people face in life and am sure you and I must have faced one or two before we get to where we are now and as far as life continues struggle can never end, imagine the famous Aliko Dangote still struggling for money and more fame is it that he doesn't have enough to relax and spend but once you have it you won't want to lose it and that means what you did to have it you must do ×10 of it to keep it
Here is a story of a guy with an empty pocket but with a bag of dreams
James was raised by his mom his dad died the day he was born and he left them with nothing to survive on so when his mother came back from the hospital she doesn't have a choice but to stay strong to take care of James.
When James was in primary school he use to help people to wash plates at the eatery (canteen) when he comes back from school so that he can help his mother as well while his mother hawks bread on the street and his mother believe was that if she trained James to the university by the time he finishes their suffering will end because he will get a good job.
That's what every mother believe I guess but the government and country we are now making our dreams look like we are sleeping and dreaming because even with your good grade from the University you can't get a good job unless you know people that know people if you are from we country (Nigeria) you will understand what I mean by that so let's continue our story.
James entered secondary and then he has graduated from washing dishes to cleaning the eatery (canteen) and that makes him earn a little bit more than washing plate but his mother couldn't hawk any longer because she doesn't have the strength to walk for long so she always seats in from of their apartment to sell her bread for anyone passing.
And when her son is back from work she has closed for the day so that day they have closed even though she still have some bread left in her basket but they went inside their room while eating and talking about how their day went
Then someone knocks on their door when James opened the door it was their neighbor and she began to shout where is your mother James asked what happened but the woman won't say anything but she kept on shouting where is that your useless mother.
Then his mother show up and said what happened why are you shouting at my boy like that then this woman start to rain abuse on the both of them saying: **mummy James is it me that killed your husband? So why did you want to kill my husband with your expired bread?**
James mother couldn't say anything because of what the woman started her sentence with and then she burst into tears James on the other hand is a gentle boy he just took his mother inside and they both cried when they are done James mother told her son that she never sells bread for her child and she doesn't know what she's talking about James believe his mother and told her that: **mom don't worry when I finish my University I will get a better job and automatically our poverty will be bygones.**
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If you were James would you fight that woman?
Did James graduate?
Did they survive the poverty?
Let's find out in the next episode thanks for reading.
Better Days Ahead
Good day to you all and how have you been I hope you are all doing great today at my end here and doing fine now let's get to the business of today.
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Talking about better days yeah there is always a better day ahead for everyone who works towards it because you can't be at home sleeping and walking doing nothing and still be expecting better days.
My mom will say "**you can't plant a banana and be expecting to harvest orange from the banana tree**" neither "**can you plant an orange and be expecting apple from the orange tree**" this simply means you can't stay idle and be expecting better days no it is not done that way better days is not for lazy people.
A story of a guy who finishes his secondary school and gets a little job where he earns $40 (#20,000) and one of his friends advised him to go and pray concerning his future so that he can know which way to follow in life when they got there the pastor prayed for him and told him that he is a great person in life that no matter what he does in life he's going to make it and because of what the pastor told him, he quit his job and seat at home doing nothing than watching TV and asking neighbors for a tip (money).
whenever his neighbor asks why he's not working again he will tell them he already knows when he's going to make it forgetting that God can do and undo forgetting that if you don't work towards what God has for you it might not come to pass because God doesn't help lazy people says my grandma anytime she noticed me and my siblings been lazy doing house chores.
And there was a girl too who believes better days is ahead for her but when it comes to working she is the definition of laziness and when you advise her she will say " ise ko lowo" English (your work doesn't determine your wealth) yeah she's right but this quote is not applicable for lazy people but for only people who strive for better tomorrow a better day ahead of them by working so hard.
I remember when I was learning work the first month was like a heal to me because it is not easy for a working-class person to leave work and start from scratch again when I say from the scratch trust me I started from nothing because I have to bring down my ego my level my whole life to be an apprentice to some am older than just because I want to gain something from her
And I never let my class or exposure get into my head because I have a dream of becoming a great hairstylist and I know there will be better days ahead for me through the work because I can't be a salary earner forever
When it gets to the middle I got tired because of the stress of standing all day making hair for different people I got tired of insults I always get from customers every day, when I get home at night sometimes I will cry but the next day I don't know what keeps pushing to the road I don't know how I manage to learn finish I believe it is because I want to make it through the work that is why I couldn't quit even though I got tired of going but when I remember that I want to be great in life I forget about the insult and all the stress then keep my head straight to learn.
I remember one December time I was sick and purging as well I didn't eat all day and my boss doesn't look at my face she keeps giving me more work to do deep within me am tired but am still standing on my feet because if I don't who will do it for me when it is my turn to handle my shop I guess no one will
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Anyways what am trying to say is that you can't hope for a better day and yet you are the definition of laziness am sure you already know that better days are not for lazy people, if you want better days you must do extraordinary things to get to your better days. Remember "**nothing good comes easily**"
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A Rejected Stone
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Hello my beautiful people from all over the world, how are you all doing? Well at my end here am doing great.
Am sure some of us must have been thinking about that topic maybe I want to preach about someone inside the Bible but no am not preaching and I choose this topic because sometimes people would have rejected us they must have thought that what can this one do in life.
**A rejected stone is a story of a lady whom everyone in the street has thought she can never marry or give birth because of her age, of which God later surprised her with a lovely husband with a set of twins.**
There was a girl in my mom's street back then when I was still living with her she older than me in fact she is an aunt to me but she doesn't have a boyfriend not to talk of getting married at the age of 40years so because of her condition people use to abuse her that she's useless she can't get a man but instead of her thinking about it she decided always come to our house to play with children.
That's how I got to know her though I don't play with her because at first I thought she was an imbecile for playing with kids and you know if you want to play with kids you must act like a kid well I don't know why she's like that but I always seat in front of our apartment and watch her anytime she comes to play with kids in my house
On this faithful day, she just came to my side and ask why I haven't played with her before but I laughed and told her that I don't like playing rough and besides I don't like sun and sand because when I was little I don't off my slippers I don't play under the sun I love seating at one corner watching people playing, so for that day she didn't play she sat with me because she wants to gain my trust and attention to play like some other kids.
As she was talking to me I then remembered that I use to think she's an imbecile and you know as a kid I don't know how to hide my feelings towards someone so I just put it to her straight and said: **sorry Aunty Mercy are you an imbecile**? Then she laughed and ask why asking her such a question and I said it is only an imbecile that can play with kids so hard from afternoon till night like she does.
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Then she said: **in this life let people think negatively about you meanwhile deep within you, you are a positive vibe**. I told her I don't understand that and she said when I grow up I will understand then I ask again why she's playing with kids and she told me that because she doesn't want to be thinking, she said I should look at those kids they are just playing around without thinking of anything or let anything bothered them but adult can't play for long without thinking of something and because her neighbors use to abuse her and she doesn't want to think about it that's why she always comes to play with kids in my house.
Then I said sorry for thinking negative things about her is just that even I that am a kid I can't play so hard like that so why would an adult do so? I told her like that then she smiled and said it's nothing.
I ask her another question again about what her neighbor is abusing her for then she said because she's not married or giving birth and everyone in the house does so they all gang up on her to abuse her, I was just a kid then but I felt sorry for her because I know it is not her fault for not getting all that people have.
So we became friends ever since then anytime she came to play she will still come and seat with me for sometimes and we will gist and laugh but on one faithful day she found a boyfriend then they dated for 3 months though she doesn't tell me because she knew I won't understand then but when they want to get married she told me and bought clothes for me because they are doing the wedding in that same area that means I can come well I was happy for her because she later gave birth to twins.
**Note**: we are all humans living under the same cloud but with a different mission in life and different seasons to make it in life so don't abuse or look down on someone because they couldn't get what you can get easily, remember what works for you might not work for others and everyone has their season thanks for reading.
Once you lose it
**Once you lose it you might not get a hold of it again and that is why you must be careful in school because in school there is a lot to deal with.**
Hello everyone it's a beautiful Tuesday afternoon here and I want to say am sorry for not being active for some days now is just that there is a lot I had to attend to, my work took so much of my time lately because am trying to get my own shop so that I won't have to go to people's houses to make hair for them but they will come to my shop whenever they want to make hair aside from people from a far place and that's what has taken all of my time since 3 days now. If you are from Nigeria you will understand better that it is not easy to set up a business neither is it easy to get a shop because it's quite expensive but am trying all my best so that I can be a boss of my own completely and I pray it settled ijn.
I just came back from the bank now and am so tired
So back to my previous story about myself foundation I choose that topic because I believe I set a good foundation for myself when I was leaving my parent's house for school that I will never useless myself because of anything or anyone neither will I walk with a bad influencer in school because in the university there are lots of things that can change people's lives and those things are
Friends
Relationship
Bad gang
When you keep bad friends they influence your life negatively, when you find yourself in a bad relationship then am sure you know it is not going anywhere rather it will just waste your time and as for the bad gang that is total destruction of someone's life so that is why I was so watchful in school I don't like group chat or talking too much because when you talk too much people will notice you and definitely it will fetch you some kind of friends that might end up being a bad influence to you.
The girl I was talking about is Ola by the name she became a burden to me because when I seat alone I think a lot of what I want to do and plan on how to get it done but seating with her I couldn't concentrate on my thinking because she will always want us to talk and in my own life back then there is nothing to talk about coz I don't have a relationship, no friends, I don't go out, I don't club, I don't party so what's there to talk about?
One day we both went to the eatery to get snacks as we always do I was waiting for her to finish her food while holding my snacks and drinks all of a sudden her boyfriend which our class rep just bump into us and bum noise started because he came with his noisy friends.
When he asked his girlfriend to buy him food too she told him am the one that bought the food and he face me and said: **you know we will still date because I must get every girl I want in that class so buy me food first to start from there.**
My head got spark like there is electricity connection inside it and I stood up and dash him a beautiful and dirty slap because that was an insult how could you tell me you will get down with me because you must get every girl in the class? then I told that girl I don't want to see her face anywhere close to me again because if am not with her that her boyfriend won't have the gurt to talk to me in that such manner.
Then I left the eatery and she ran after me and started talking but I didn't answer because I was angry with her boyfriend still she continue talking: **see I love what you did back there because he has slept with all her friends and yet he doesn't feel remorse about it** then I stopped and face her to tell her this: **girl I like you but this I can't deal with it because that your boyfriend if I get a hold of him in this school he will regret ever coming to this school in the very first place.**
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I sounded so mean but deep within me, I don't have anything it was just a mere threat so that she can move away from me, and thank God that really works because she ran away from me thinking I have some people who I can call to hurt her boyfriend or her, ever since then they never crossed my path in the school.
What am I trying to say school life is the best but it is also the most dangerous time in life because once you don't set the balance from your school time you might have some bad side in your life and school life determine your future because you go there to seek the future.
Thanks for reading.
Myself "Foundation"
`The Bible says: if the "foundation" has been destroyed what will the righteous do? That's a question for every one of us.`
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*Yeh 💃 it's weekend again and am happy to see a brand new weekend because lately, life has not been so easy at all so when someone slept in the night and wakes up the next day such person should be happy and thank God for life because what we are thinking alone can make someone die in the dream.*
*Responsibility alone can make someone to run away I over government are the worse thing that has ever happened to us all along with electricity on and off so am happy because I survived it all till now and I believe something good is coming yeah I do believe*.
Now back to the matter of the day myself "**Foundation**" is how I lay a good foundation for myself while I was growing up in life and during my University days because once a student miss the road during the school days that's the end.
On this one today am going to be talking about myself and a little from my family yeah I love talking about my family especially my mom because she has been the best pillar that I have ever seen and when I say the best pillar trust me it is stronger than that of North-South pole.
Because without a good and strong foundation from her to me I might not be where I am today though is not like as if I have it all but still I thank God for the little I have yeah I am, when I was still in the university there is a guy called class rep he handles attendant in the class and whenever we are supposed to have lecture and the lecturer is not there he will call them to let them know we are having the subject that's his work but the guy in question is a womanizer he thinks because of the post he's holding in the class he can have his ways with so many girls in the class but for me that doesn't work because I know why am in school.
One day a girl walk up to me and said: sister I want us to be friends at first I thought she was a lesbian because in this world that we are someone needs to be extraordinarily careful with people that wants to be your friend so I asked why did she want to be my friend then she said she liked the way I walk alone and do my thing alone, I smiled and I told her I don't just like talking too much that's why am like that then she said she just wants to be like me and I said ok but I know she can't be like me.
So one day we were receiving a lecture in the class and I was so hungry then I just stood up and went outside since I can't take it anymore and am the type that doesn't like to buy food outside but I can buy snacks then my best snacks is popcorn even till now I still love popcorn.
I knew the girl is talkative because I do see her with some set of people in the class along with the class rep but I don't know what kind of relationship they keep so she noticed I went outside and she followed me we went to the school eatery I bought my snacks (popcorn) and she said I should buy her food and I did because then I was working I have money to do so she ate and we left on our way back to the class she asks if I have a boyfriend in the class and I said no so I asked her back if she has one then she said the class rep is her boyfriend I felt bad because I don't like that guy so I told her she should leave him if she wants to be my friend but she said they have been dating for years even before the entered the school so I feel sorry for her because I don't want to be a relationship breaker I noticed that she loves him so much so I said ok but I don't want any of his discussion when am with her then she said ok
To be continued tomorrow
Note: am not just like that towards her but I remembered what my mom always tells me that "**aguntan to ba ba aja rin a je** **igbe**" English (**if you follow a bad person** **he or she might influence you**) so am always watchful of what I do and who I walk with, and for my silence, my mom told me that I took that from my dad she said my dad can be in the house for one week without saying anything aside from good morning my wife.
I will continue the story tomorrow but don't forget this "if the foundation is not there your life can't stand".
Thanks for reading.
Foundation
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It is a beautiful Friday morning over here with a brand new hope a brand new vibe and a brand new start, though we must have seen lots of Fridays but am telling you that you haven't seen today's Friday before and that is why you must make use of it productively
And one more thing I want to say a very big thanks to everyone that prayed for my twin sister a very big thanks to everyone that wish her a quick recovery because a little prayer also count that's my belief so that's why am saying thanks to you all, she getting better now.
Today am going to talk about the "**foundation**"
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Firstly what is a foundation? Foundation is the solid layer of a house in the building aspect but in the life aspect foundation is the way you plan your life from the beginning and the line you lay for your generation to follow (my own definition)
Let's now put this foundation into the life of parents, a parent who fails to lay a good foundation for their children will end up in regret because as a parent it is your duty to lay a very strong and a good foundation for your children to follow in order to go the right part in life
Another thing is a self foundation as a child your parents have laid a good foundation for you but as a person did you lay a good foundation for yourself? You gain admission into the university as a student but instead of you to read and pass your exams you are looking for the backdoor a shortcut to pass without reading
You are the head of the department in your working place but you are the one that always goes against the rules of the organization you are the one that comes to work late is that a good foundation to lay for yourself? Is that a good foundation to lay for the rest of your team? I guess it's a no
You are a boss of yourself but you don't lay a good example at your working place because what you told your staff not to do but you are still doing it yourself is that a good foundation from you as a boss? I guess no.
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****Short story****
A story of a woman who gave birth to two girls and anytime she sent those two girls to the market she will always tell them to buy something from Hausa man at first people thought because Hausa sells their things cheap but one day someone asked this woman why she always sends her little girls to buy something from Hausa man and her excuse was that she wants her children to marry early and Hausa people always marry little children.
Then she face those kids and said my children never marry Yoruba men because they don't take care of women but Hausa does so if you marry them as young as you are they will always give you plenty of things.
Then I was like these kids are still small for this kind of lecture but this woman won't listen to what anyone has to say or any kind of advice from her neighbor.
**My question now is that...**
Is that a good foundation for a little girl child?
Is married a good foundation for a little girl child?
Is that what she was supposed to be teaching a little girl of that age? A child that is just writing her common entrance to secondary with such bad orient at that tender age.
Did you think such a child will even be thinking of going to school?
That is why I always said some parents are the reason why their children's life is not good, teach your children the right part to follow in life and lay a good foundation for them so that they won't fall when it's time for them to be alone in life.
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How do you get out Breakdown
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Beautiful morning from this side part of the world I hope it's not to late to say good morning even though am not feeling cool or beautiful today but still, I have to greet people that feel good, am sorry to bother you all with my boring talk today but seriously I have to say it so that I can feel free and to ease my brain from overthinking.
This is what happened why I haven't been feeling cool since on Friday I got a call from my sister (my twin sister) **Alaba** that she's sick and I ask her to call the nurse instead of me she said she needed enough call card and some cash to pay for the treatment I sent it without excitation so that she can get enough treatment and be good, later in the evening ( Friday) I called back to check up on her and she said she's taking drip already my mind feel calm since she's been treated already so I went on doing my daily routine (online) since I don't have a shop to go for work every morning I always stay online making noise and read in the night she called and said the drip has finished and the nurse is not there with her I asked her not to remove the drip until the nurse is around and she said ok
On Saturday I went out for work while working I called again to check on her and told me she's ok she even sounds good and healthy on phone, if not that where she stays is far from mine I would have go and checked her myself but she says very far from me and I myself have a lot am dealing so the only thing I can do to help is by sending her some cash and call to check her condition, I know that's not good enough but that's all I can do for now.
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On Sunday I woke up so late because I am extremely tired but still I want to go to church because I have missed two Sundays already you know people always make hair on weekends than during the week so that has taken two Sundays away and yesterday I didn't have any work so no excuse of not going to church, then I quickly prepare myself since am late already I didn't even bother eating anything before leaving the house that's not my way because I don't joke with my belly at all but I just have to manage for that day.
When I came back from church I was having a bang on my head like my head is about to burst because am so famished and I don't even have the strength to cook I just went inside the kitchen and drank enough water then relaxed on the bed to rest small and my phone rang I picked it, hello sis said my twin sister thanks for your care am better now and I said ok then I hang up
After five minutes I just wanted to check family's WhatsApp group to know what's up and then I saw my sister's post with a swollen leg saying family should pray for her that she doesn't know how she's feeling now, at that moment it was like the whole world went blank because I couldn't hear anything again all I can feel is the bang on my head I couldn't help the tears. After all, she hides it from me, and am having a bad feeling about her sickness.
So I called her and she said: am sorry sis I don't want to bother you because you have done more than enough then I asked what about your husband at least you have someone you are married to then she said he has gone out since morning I felt like jumping from Lagos to Ogun state to get hold of that her God knows husband of hers.
But I can't this has made me down since yesterday it gives me a headache because I hate sickness and am having a bad feeling about her condition because it could be something spiritual but I can't just place a finger on what is going
That's why have been so down and I ask this question on noisecash because I needed to focus on myself as well
How do you handle breakdowns?
How do you handle mental stress?
How do you get out of unwanted thoughts?
Can anyone help me out with tips on what to do to get back on my right sense
Or maybe I need a break
Because I couldn't think straight for two days now I just keep feeling bad and angry with any little thing
Anything that can help?
Kindly tell me in the comment box
Really need to cool my brain now.
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One more thing please help me to pray for my twin sister for a divine intervention and deliverance coz am not feeling cool about her illness and it's really affecting me mentally and emotionally.
**Thanks for reading** and I might not be online for today because I thought I need a break.
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