Friends
When i was kid, i was told that i needed to make friends. Friends to play games with also smart friends who can put me through my studies. My parents taught me that friends are like backbones or walls to lean on. Someone who laughs with you and not at you, a person who you would sit in silence with and yet there is still communication going on. He/she knows when you're hurt without you saying a world.
Truly childhood friendship had a lot of meaning and made a whole lot of sense, because we approached it with pure minds. Mind void of evil thoughts ,deceit,envy,hatred,wickedness and jealousy.
But as time passed things began to change.
Definition of friendship
According to the Oxford dictionary, A friend is a person other than family or lover whose company one enjoys and towards whom one feels affection for.
Also a friend can also be known as an associate, an ally, a buddy, a pal, a support.
Friends are called" friends" so that they can:
Provide assistance as an associate.
Have a strong connection with you as an ally.
He/she should be a mate, a partner , have causal acquaintance with you as a buddy.
Someone that loves to hang around with you as a pal.
A support, how can you be friends with someone who doesn't give moral and emotional support. That's an error.
But since we are no longer children, and our minds are not as pure as it used to be, most up end up in a messed up friendship.
Now, just some few minutes ago. I read an article which was titled "A girl found dead in her apartment, after she was poisoned by her best friend."
The full story explained that this young lady was killed by her best friend because she told her best friend about the iPhone 11 her boyfriend gifted her. Out of jealousy which has been piling up for quite sometime. She poisoned her without a blink of an eye. Now the young lady is dead, lifeless and stone cold.
The world has really gone crazy, this is not the first time you've probably heard that type of news. But it made me to wonder, what exactly friends are meant for?
Yeah my mama said they are meant to be my backbone and support system, but in recent times it doesn't seem like it.
Now, in recent times:
Friends snitch on each other.
Secrets can't be held because your trusted friend is a talkative.
He/she is not even proud to have you as a friend, probably they act under pretence just for the momentary benefits they are deriving from you.
Friends are jealous of your success, progress, dreams and visions.
Friends can talk to you anyhow in front of others because they feel they know everything about you.
I don't know about you but i have encountered people i called FRIENDS but if a gun was put to their hands to pull the trigger towards me for 5 dollars, they would.
What am i saying in essence?
Till today i still ponder what friends are really meant for.
If you have answers to that you can drop it in the comment section. Thank you.
Well, in reality we all have different definition of friends based on our experience. I experience that friend is the one that you can lean on specially when in my stuggle part of life. I met once a friend but not totally close to each other and she stabbed me at the back. Not literally stabbed, i just called it back fighter. There is some friends just like that. For me, there is a difference between friend and best friend.