Clap Back or Stay Mute
In life we face conflicts, disagreements and sometimes our interests clash with that of others.
Conflicts are bound to happen in all stages of life. Especially with friends, colleagues, siblings even strangers.
*A mere stranger who barely knows you might just trigger your other side, by laying an insult on you.*
*In relationships, most times our briefs and interest seem to clash, which unavoidably leads to conflict. There are situations where the man would be reduced to nothing, just because he felt it's a bad idea for his babe to take that job. But because we have mouths that can talk, the lady will in turn make statements that will put him off.*
*Your colleague at work might feel he's 100% better than you, so as much you try, you end up being his ridicule. He throws sarcastic jokes at you, just because you found yourself under the same roof with him.*
These are the issues in life. We've all been insulted in places where we do not expect, and even from persons we held in high esteem.
At that moment, what seems to be your response?
Do you just stay calm and let the barking dog bark, or you boldly give them clap backs.
Sitting calm or staying mute, I must say can't be very reliable but it works for most people especially the Phlegmatics. What if am a Sanguine and i attach emotions to things, of which i can't deal with. I end up responding with a clap back.
Now there are certain persons in life that has been marked off as bullies in this life. What the live foe is to torment others and derive maximum joy from it. They do it often because they are so insecure about their own life, but in a way to cover up the become bullies. I am not talking about children bullies(that's another talk for another day), i am talking about life(adult) bullies. Yes they exist.
Transitioning
Transitioning involves change or upgrade to higher level of reasoning. We have to transit to a certain level in order to make an impact in the lives of others.
Transitioning is inevitable in life and is the most rewarding platform of life. Everyone has encountered changes here and there in life. How most of us lived some years back cannot be compared to how we're living now. Change is a constant fact in every one's life.
Transition can only come when the right mindset is tuned in. Without the right mindset, the individual might feel safe and comfortable in his comfort zone. The comfort zone hinders change and upgrade.
Transitioning is like a ball resonating in high frequency. It's a level where the right thoughts are established, the right decisions are made and the best season of a person's life.
Life is dynamic and for us to make our best out of it, then we need to transit/resonate to a certain level. A level that is free from comfortability, bias and uncertainties. A level that makes the most out of our lives.
Only at this level will you find you peace and motivation.
Stage Fright
Stage fright is an event that has occurred at some point in everyone's life. It happens when one is put on edge or being anxious while giving speeches, delivering pet talks in family meetings, seminars, webinars and even while performing as an artist. Judging from how i have treaded this road. Trust me, it is not an easy road but then you're not alone.
It comes in different packages, shaky voices, cracky voices, panic attacks, disorientation, audible heartbeats, cold feets and hands and so on.
Prior to performance day, the "stage freightend performer" is carried away by delusional thoughts. Thoughts how they will be ridiculed and made fun of by the audience. These thoughts mess up the confidence the performer had already built.
I have read tons of books, watched a whole lot of youtube videos on stage fright but none seem to have the exact answers why people have stage fright. A lot of ideas and a million thoughts are available as to what causes stage fright.
Stage fright can be imagined to be the everyday shyness faced by shy people, though they make make fantasies about how great they will perform in front of an audience. The fantasies end up flopping in reality, when they meet the actualization of those fantasies in real life. That is coming face to face with the audience, the feelings that come with it and their response.
Stage Fright is mind controlled. It is always all up in your head. An illusion that everyone is watching, the audience doesn't like you, high hopes and expectations from the audience.
Books say a lot about being prepared and knowing your onions but that doesn't guarantee that your going to deliver a bomb presentation. In fact writers try their best to write on stage fright, but the always miss out the point that stage fright is individual dependent.
That youtuber goings on and about you looking up straight at the heads of the audience in order to overcome stage fright. This works for some people, but as long as you don't get the basics right, then stage fright is going to pull up at your door step.
In my theory i realised that all these don't matter. What matters most is how you see yourself. It begins with your self conceit, vain pride and high self esteem. It begins with the mind and what you feed it with. Guard your mind like your life depends on it. Feed it positively, think good about yourself and that will keep you away from worrying about what the audience might have to say about the performance.
Remember, there are no gimmicks or short cuts to this. Remember on the road to success there's no room for self doubt, and self doubt gives room for stage frights.
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Are there ever things you look back on, and say words like "oh i wish i didn't do this". I have tons of those moments in my head and gets me sick.
When It Gets Tough
Tough times are trying times in one's life. That time/period that life looks difficult. Things do not move in the right direction and everything will seem like there's a fault in your Stars.
It always a trying time for so many persons. It is that time we either get depressed or feel a less worth of ourselves. Depending on how you handle difficult times.
Everyone has had a taste of hard times. If you've ever been:
Sent out of high school for late payment of tuition fees?
Divorced your spouse because of incessant issues?
Got sacked from your workplace by your boss because you left work early?
Lost a business deal , or long due promotion?
Lost a close friend or family?
Been attacked by hoodlums?
Had an accident or fell ill while preparing for an exam or presentation?
The list goes on and on. If your answers to most of these questions were yes, then you've suffered a tough or hard time.
Tough times are periods when everything seems to be stagnant. Nothing works for your favour. It sometimes leads to breakdown of the body because it is unhealthy for us, humans.
How do you handle hard times?
Do you:
Pray and fast?
Sleep it off?
Go clubbing ?
Drink to wear it off?
Smoke to calm your nerves down?
Sob and cry?
Laugh and forget that hard times exist?
Get depressed and wish to die?
Travel and forget your sorrows?
Which ever way you choose to handle hard times, always remember that you are not the only one that goes through hard times. Even the President of the USA faces hard times of which he handles in his own way and life goes on.
Jesus also faced hard times on earth, when he was tempted by satan and crucified by Potious Pilate. If Jesus faced hard times and still survived it, then we can also survive our hard times.
Tough/hard times are there to test our perseverance, tolerance and our faith.
Embrace tough times and turn it into something beautiful.
You get sacked from work, don't get depressed, a better job is waiting for you.
You get a divorce from spouse. Who said you are too old to marry again. This is God giving you a second chance.
Always see hard times as an opportunity to make things right. A second chance to get a new job , new friends, deals and so on.
Remember tough times are not there to stay, they are only temporary and just a phase in one's life.
Peace of mind
Peace of mind, calmness of the spirit surpasses all things.
There are relationships, jobs, friendships that tend to rob us off our peace of mind.
A lot of people go out in their way to please other people, indirectly losing the key to their happiness.
Never give anyone the key to your happiness and joy. No one has the right to disrupt your peace of mind, it's not only unhealthy it is also depressive.
There are friends who consult me sometimes concerning a decision they are about to take in their place of work, relationships and businesses . I always respond by saying "go for whatever that Makes you happy". The one that gives you peace is the right one.
The state of feeling an atom of calmness in your spirit is the peace of mind.
Toxic relationships and friendships hinder the peace of mind.
Engaging in Illegal businesses that looks legit but you sleep with one eye open. Destroys peace and calmness of the mind.
Let's learn to engage in activities that give us great peace of mind.
With the right peace of mind, longevity is sure for you.
Being successful does not necessarily mean acquiring the whole wealth in the world.
Simply living a happy life with people you care and cherish is just a definition of being successful.
I love him!
I love him! I love him! I love hi.! She said
I asked why she loves him and she explained
I love him because he's so handsome hey!
And if I'm taken for a ransom he'd pay
I love him because he's got six packs
And each time I see him I get this spark
I love him because he's got a private jet
And he doesn't like to see me upset
I love him because he fucks me like a whore
But treats me like I mean the world and more
I love him because he disregards my flaws
And always tells me "Baby I'm all yours"
The Future
The future is a **picture**,
which has many unsowed puzzles,
a woman of great virtue,
helps to nurture the future.
We need to plan for the future,
in order to make a complete picture.
If we don't plan for the future,
all these things will turn to fiction.
The future lies in our **hands,**
To make the best of it,
we should work hard to lead the bans.
Because the future is bright.
*Let's embrace our lives now, and push it towards the right direction so that our future will thank us for it.*
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Acquire a skill or go to School?
If you were given an opportunity to make a choice between going to school or acquiring a skill. What would it be?
This is a very tough decision to make, because in Present times we need both to survive.
Well before we go ahead to make a decision let's look at them specifically.
Skill
Skill can be defined as the ability to do something well. The capacity to be an expert in a handiwork. Skills can only be acquired or learned which makes it different from abilities or talent. Talent is an innate/inborn capability to carry out an activity.
What does it mean to acquire a skill
Acquiring a skill entails undergoing a skill training for a specific period of time under the supervision of a professional skill owner. The world has evolved to the level where, one is appreciated by what they do. Thereby making acquisition of skills handy.
Different skills exist in the world... From baking to hairdressing, computer skills, technological skills, designing and even crypto skills.
Once you have gathered the basic knowledge and other attributes, that's the ticket to establishing a business and being your own boss.
There are more than a million skills out there
The pictures shared above are all skills that both the educated and uneducated persons making a living from, feeding their families and making several leaps in their lives.
Going to School
Involves getting enrolled in schools so as to obtain certificate that will enable you to be eligible for a job anywhere in the world. Educated People are often more privileged than uneducated in the career field.
This involves a whole lot of money for tuition fees and other fees, which mostly run for 4-5 years. Unlike acquiring a skill, whose duration is 6-12months.
After graduation, next thing is getting employed to work in an organisation. Which means working under an employer till one generates a saving to Own one.
Some persons are often sad in their workplace due to unforeseen challenges they face at work.
Most times the work do not allow them make out tine for family and friends. The stipends might be to poor to cater for the family.
Aside that there's a prestige that follows education. Most prominent men in the world are all educated and established.
Now i begin to wonder, since both sides have a lot of juicyness, What is it gonna be.
What's it gonna be
For me
Both are very important to have, there are jobs that requires you to own a computer skill before you can be employed. While there are skills where you need to be educated before you flow well with it. Both are very much valued in life. But if i was to make only one choice out of the two, I'll get a skill. Of which I'll train for a year, start up my own business and of course use the money to enroll myself to school. Because either way i'm not on the losing end.
What's it gonna be for you? Acquire a skill or go to school?
Get rid of the past
Countless times we all try to change our past. We still regurgitate, ruminate over the past and keep wishing that we got it all right at that time.
I have made so many bad decisions in the past that kept me thinking and dwelling on the matter for months. But the thinking did more harm than good, i feel sick and was almost hospitalised. Not until i received a talk from a therapist. I was advised to let go of the past. What will be will always be.
It was very difficult letting go but i just had to, for the safety of my mental and entire health.
Most of us are in this kind of messy situation, holding on to that past will end up destroying your peace of mind, your health and well being.
Stop looking at where you have been and start looking at where you can be.
Mike Murdock said, there's no future in the past. Absolutely there's no future in our past, the past is gone and can never be retrieved or reversed. Except you have extra super powers.
The more you look back, the less you will move ahead. Don't waste today regretting yesterday's actions, instead change your tomorrow by taking the right actions today.
Even in reality, looking back while walking makes you bump into oncoming things and makes you strain your neck. Likewise, looking back into the past does the same to your mental health and wellbeing.
If only we can turn back the hands of time, but no one can. The clock will still be ticking for others, even if you adjust yours backwards.
Lets try and live in the present, pressing on to live above our past and mistakes.
Live above that past:
heart break
divorce
sack from work
Betrayal from friends
Failure from school
Death of a loved one
Money loss in business
They were all bound to happen, the only thing we can do is to learn from our past and not dwell on them.
Who knows, there might be light at the end of the tunnel.
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Self Satisfaction
"Every man must do two things alone, He must do his own believing and his own dying" this was a statement made by Martin Luther.
In life there are bold steps you have to take on your own without the approval of any man.
Are you the kind of person that is motivated by what you really want in life, or you are motivated by what others want out of your life.
Most People suffer self Security because they compare their lives to others. They lack self approval because they are waiting for others to be their point of direction.
In life comparison is never a fruitful path because at the end of the day, frustration will be there waiting.
Comparison is a killer, it kills your joy, happiness, goals and priorities. It compromises your self esteem, self security and leaves weak prone to emotional, spiritual harm.
Self Satisfaction/Security entails,
doing you
believing in your abilities without approval whatsoever from others.
No comparison, because it never amounts to anything good.
Self approval and acceptance. Developing happiness from within you, happiness is best when it comes from the inner self.
Life is more fun when we realize what we can do best, doing it without worrying about what the other person is doing.
John Mason said, the greatest risk in life is to wait on others, depending on them for self security and happiness.
Your security and Happiness is only determined by you and you alone. Comparison to other people's ways will only compromise your Self Security.
If you are in a position that you have no choice than to compare. Then you have to compare yourself with God's will for your life. Visualize it and let it keep you going.
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Beautiful Nonsense
Beautiful Nonsense entails:
A life that looks good on the outside, but is rotten on the inside.
A life of camouflage .
The more you look the less you see.
Engaging in a illegitimate businesses and living large.
Being rude because you're beautiful or handsome to look upon.
A high ego, because you were born with a silver spoon.
Callous attitude without human empathy.
I have arrived attitude.
So many people are more or less beautiful nonsense. Initially they present themselves like they have a sugar coating on them, but once you dig in... the rest is history.
Same goes for some kind of jobs, no matter how attractive the work seem to be, stress is the order of the day.
What is that beautiful nonsense in your life, identify it and handle it.
If its your life... You can make amends.
If its your job... You can find a new one.
If its your friends... Then get new ones.
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When there's no doctor
These are little emergency interventions you can carry out when there are no physicians close by.
**Chemical burns in the eye.**
Chemicals in form of acid, petrol, pesticides can accidentally come in contact with the eyes. Either through splashing or rubbing your eyes with contaminated hands.
Emergency Remedy: Flood the eyes over a running clean water. Flood it till you fill the eyes have been cleared from that chemical.
**Menstrual Pain**
Often times some ladies feel pain in their lower abdomen whenever its that time of the month. Its a sharp or biting pain that comes with a lot of discomfort. Which worsens when sugar containing food is taken.
**Remedy**: Stay away from sugar or sweet food during your menstrual period. Do not lie in bed and moan the pain. Walking around and taking little exercises helps to nub the pain. Taking warm drinks and putting your feet into warm water, this helps to ease off the pain. Taking pain reliefs also goes along way to numb off the abdominal pains.
**Sore throat**
This is a common symptom of cold, the throat feels dry and inflamed(redness), it feels painful during swallowing. The sore is usually caused by bacterial infection.
**Remedy:** Gargle with very warm salt water (non hypertensive people only). Take aspirin (non ulcer people only) or any other pain relief. If the sore throat persist after 7days then see a pharmacist or doctor.
**Diarrhea**
Runny stomach, can make us lose a lot of strength and energy. The stooling can persist for days.
**Remedy:** Make Rehydration drink, with water, salt and sugar. Make this in 1litre of water, take to regain strength and stamina. This will hold you till you get to see a Pharmacist.
**Colds and flu**
Colds and flu are common virus infection that may cause runny nose, cough and fever. Colds and flu always go away without the use of Medicine.
**Remedy:** Drink plenty of water and get enough sleep. Analgesics can help ease off the pain and fever caused by the flu. Fruits and vitamin containing food builds the immune system.
If the symptoms of all these still persist, rush to the hospital. So you can remain healthy and strong.
How to make Samosa
SAMOSA
Samosa is one of the nutritious snacks you can find in restaurant, eateries and even on the streets. It is very easy to make if you make available the listed ingredients and follow the procedure below.
INGREDIENTS
For the dough
1. 300g all-purpose flour
2. Salt
3. 2 Tbsp. Vegetable oil for mixing
4. Warm water
For the filling
1. 2 large Irish potatoes
2. 1 onion, crushed (optional)
3. ½ teaspoon ginger powder
4. 1 tbsp crushed garlic,
5. ½ teaspoon red chilli powder
6. 80g Minced beef
7. Salt to taste
8. Seasoning cubes
9. Vegetable oil for deep frying the samosas
Preparation
For the filling
1. Peel the potatoes. Wash it and put in a pot. Add salt and boil for about 5 minutes or till it is soft.
2. Mash the soft potatoes while it is still hot. Add the cooked minced beef (if you're using meat) and mix well.
3. Add the garlic, ginger, onion, red chilli, seasoning cubes and salt to taste. Stir well and set it aside.
You may choose to stir fry the ingredient.
For the dough.
1. In a medium sized bowl, mix the flour, salt and vegetable oil together. Add water intermittently and knead well
2. Cover with aluminium foil or a moist cloth and set it aside for about 15 minutes.
3. Divide the dough into small balls and roll it flat on a flat surface using a rolling pin and divide into two.
4. Take one of the portions, make a cone out of it and seal the edges properly leaving one part open to add the fillings
5. Add the fillings and seal properly by brushing the edges with eggs.
6. Deep fry the samosa or you can bake it for a healthier option.
Enjoy your samosa with chilled glass of juice. It's best eaten hot or warm. Do not forget to share with friends and family.
Peace of mind
Peace of mind, calmness of the spirit surpasses all things. Best thing that can happen to anyone. When we live void of worries, issues then our mind will be open to happiness, peace, love, sound health and joy.
Without peace, our heart, life, everything will head towards sadness, toxic life, and unhealthy life. A mind that is not at rest fights depression and anxiety. Let's find peace so that depression will be found far away from us.
There are relationships, jobs, friendships that tend to rob us off our peace of mind. These things are termed toxic, in the sense that their aim is to kill and not to keep alive.
A lot of people go out in their way to please other people, indirectly losing the key to their happiness. Do what makes you happy and healthy. Stay away from people or events that take away your peace of mind.
There are friends who consult me sometimes concerning a decision they are about to take. I always respond by saying "go for whatever that Makes you happy". The one that gives you peace is the right one.
The state of feeling an atom of calmness in your spirit is the peace of mind. A feeling that all things are in the right condition. That is the right mindset to keep in order to live long on earth.
Toxic relationships and friendships hinder the peace of mind.
Engaging in Illegal businesses that looks legit but you sleep with one eye open. Destroys peace and calmness of the mind.
Let's learn to engage in activities that give us great peace of mind.
Good peace of mind, helps us to think right, live healthy, and stay alive and happy. With the right peace of mind, the level of productivity is always at its peak.
Never give any one the right to tamper with the peace of your mind. Because it is the determinant of what your life will turn out to be.
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Gender Equality
Most people preach for gender equality, that is for women to have the same rights, entitlements as men. Even in politics and civil life. It sounds so easy to the ears but in reality, the opposite is the case.
In all spheres of life, inequality exists. The women ha been known from the beginning as **the weaker vessels.** But this statement makes it look as if the women are being devalued in the society. In the real sense they are.
Take a look at most developing countries, there's this normal preference for the male child over the female. Both consciously and subconsciously.
In hospitals in the labour room, i have witnessed where the husband of the woman left the hospital while his wife was in the delivery room. After few hours, he called in, and the first question he asked was for the sex of the newborn. The couple has already given birth to 5 girls and the man was curious only to know if the wife made the same blunder. The man didn't care care to know the state of the lady, all he cared about was the sex of the child. Imagine if the woman still gave birth to the same sex(female), think of the torment(physical and otherwise) she would go through at home, judging from the man's attitude. Women go through in lot in the society.
Likewise, there are families (uneducated ones) in African Countries that believe that the girl child is not fit to be educated, instead the rather give out their female children for marriage at an early age.
"*Women are the most disadvantaged people in the world. Even women who secure employment in the formal sector, have to contend with the challenges of balancing their family responsibility with their official duties*" . Enemuo(1999)
The statement made by Enemuo is true, which is found evidently in developing countries. There are jobs that are women are denied access to, because they aren't deem fit for the post. Inequality has been seen in work places, politics, education even in our homes.
**Most People believe that the place of the woman lies only in the kitchen and in the bedroom.** This is the worst kind of mentality i have ever stumbled upon. And that is the mindset most men grow up with, of which they end up treating their wives likewise.
There are men who marry a career lady, once they are married his first request will be for the lady to quit her job. Because his belief is that the role of a woman is to solely to be a home keeper, thereby requesting her to be a house wife.
I'm certain that I'm not talking bibrish, these things happen. Women go through a lot, both limitations and discrimination.
Its time we helped promote the rights of women in any little way we can. Stop violation of women, treat women like they are strong vessels, these can come a long way in making the society a better place.
I'm not a feminist but i get furious when women are belittled in different sectors of life. Especially in their homes, where the are emotionally abused and striped of their rights.
Male or Female, it doesn't matter what sex you're lets treat ourselves in a way worthy of admiration.
Give the female child her right to education, religion, political participation.
Do not subject your wives and sisters to house slavery all under the cover of women are the weaker vessels.
Remember what a man can do a woman can even do better if given the right opportunity.
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Stand Out
Ever heard people say " i rather die, than give up the fight". Yes we are in a war front called life, and we have to fight to be at the forefront. There are uncountable number of homo sapiens existing everywhere in this world. We struggle to get recognized in the society. We interact, love and live life till its fullest. But if we can do all these without living our footprints in the sands of life then, then its all for nothing.
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If people fail or refuse to recognize you, make sure you create a special attention for your own recognition. This is very important. Self recognition can go a long way in separating us from the crowd. Stand out by being creative and excel in everything you do. Prove them wrong that you can do it. Look for opportunities and don't chances. Don't fail to seize any opportunity to show case your talent and personality.
"A name without fame is like fire without flame. There is nothing like attracting notice at any cost".
Draw attention to yourself by creating an unforgettable that will stand the test of time. To stand out in life we have to do things to make ourselves seem larger than life and shine brighter than those around us.
Our life should be serve as role models to younger ones.
To stand out we must do something different, something unique, spectacular, Honourable and worth while.
How can we stand out
**Recognise yourself first:**-what are your strengths find out and improve on them. Do what you know how to do best in an excellent way. Recognize your talents and skills. Channel your whole vibes and energy to your strength and watch as the single you out from the crowd.
**Embrace your flaws:-** As long as we are humans, we all have flaws seen and unseen. Embracing it and accepting yourself for who you are, will not only work on your confidence but it will make your life more pronounced in the society*.* ***I know of a blind man that is a pro in playing pianos, he's a music director and features in music videos of other musicians. He is literally the best of the best despite his physical challenge.*** Here we can see that this man had to embrace his flaws and accept who he is, in order to make his life pronounced. **Some of us are not blind, but we have negligible flaws that don't even matter. Yet we let it get to the best part of our lives, thereby limiting our progress in life. Let's try and put aside social pressure and stigma from others and learn to accept how we truly are.**
**Work on yourself:-**Yes, you've recognized yourself, embraced your flaws, now it's time to go to the draw board. Ask yourself these questions. *What can i do with my strengths that will give me an edge over others? How can i present this project so that i can be the best?* Its time to start producing ideas,answers, ways that can make it happen. Work on those talents, be it writing, singing, dancing. Do them each day better than the day before. Learn new ways to do them. Try things others have never done before. These things work by sharpening and shaping us towards the right path.
**Be proud of it:-** Once you're done working,(well we can never get it all perfect). Look at what you've done and be proud of your work. Because you worked hard for it, be proud to take the credits for them.
**Defend yourself:-** Can you be able to stand in defence when you are queried about your work. Have a strong willed spirit. Work hard, be proud and stay ready to defend it
**Fake it till you make it:-** Popular Phrase says fake it till you make it. You think you can't pull all those steps through. Then you have to act it/fake it till you finally see it being a part of you.
Finally play against predictions, don't get stuck in your old ways of doing things. Adopt new styles, techniques and evolve. Let's try as much as possible to stand firm and stand out in this competitive life. Because its a lifestyle that stands the test of time.
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The Honey Bear Trap
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A bear that knows it is hunted is nearly impossible to catch. The bear hunter does not chase the bear, instead he lays a trap baited with honey. He baits and then waits. The bait attracts the bear, this aids the hunting of the bear.
Our life should be sequel to the honey bear trap, that attracts others. Make your bait (life) more attractive, so that they (people) will be swept off their feet by your personality.
It shouldn't only be to attract but also to keep them stuck there. Our life style on earth can either be as sweet as honey or as sour as lemon, its our choice to make.
Let's live a life worth emulating.
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Trust Issues
**TRUST** as short as it is, this is a very powerful word. I don't joke with it, because i'm trustworthy and wouldn't like to be treated otherwise.
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Trust is to hope confidently or believe in someone or something. People trust a lot of things, beings and abstract beliefs. And eventually most of them end up being disappointed.
We relate with people in different spheres of life that is where trust comes in. Without trust, we cant carry out business transactions, we cant tell a secret, we cant have hopes that our Friends will come through for us.
From my own experience, i have come to realize that its best you love your friends and don't totally trust them. Well if you doubt me, you can go ahead and test them.
If you can't be trusted don't expect others to be trustworthy too. Because in life what goes around comes back around. Read my post on https://read.cash/@Essy/what-goes-around-comes-back-around-d0cc9885
The only trust i have is to my God and myself. I trust no one because we are all humans. Who are prone to disappoint.
Can you be trusted? Can your best friend short change his life for yours, to save you? If your answer is negative then these are the issues.
Trust issues are every where. We live in a crazy world where you pick up a bee as an act of kindness and it will bite you. We are not alone in this, most notable men in life has encountered trust issues in life. As long as we have friends in different areas, then mistrust is inevitable.
Balbassare Castiglione(1478-1529)
*"I have more than once been deceived by the person I love most and of whose love, above everyone else's, i have been most confident. So I believe that it may be right to love and serve one person above all others, according to merit and worth, but never to* ***trust*** *so much in this tempting trap of friendship as to have cause to regret of it later on. "*
Robert Green
*" Be wary of friends, they will betray you more quickly, for they are easily aroused to envy. Hire a former enemy and he will be more loyal than a friend, because he has more to prove. In fact you have more to fear from friends than enemies. If you have no enemies, find a way to make them"*
*"Pick up a bee from kindness and it will bite you. Often times, friends are more ready to pay kindness with wickedness and betrayal. "*
These statements were inspired by trust issues. Remember great men and women in history were betrayed and ruined by their friends, check Samson and Deliliah, Christ and Judas, Brutus and Cessar. We ought to stay woke.
A good, tasted and trusted friend can be useful to you when it matters most. A friend in need is a friend indeed.
Relationships are not left out, some partners can't be trusted. Partners cheat and still pretend in front of their spouses. It takes the grace of the Almighty to see a faithful partner. It takes the grace to see a a trustworthy employee.
Let's put our trust in God, cause its only him that can never disappoint. Then trust yourself to the level where your friends can hold you trustworthy.
Trust no one.
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Anxiety
Anxiety is a disease of the mind that has once in a while affected most of us. It is not under the control of man at the initial, but the latter is determined by us. It is in our power to either stop anxiety, or let it have its way in our lives. The choice lies in us. It occurs in the subconscious mind, if care ain't taken it takes control of our whole being.
Anxiety clogs happiness with thoughts of "**what if","maybe", "if i had done this way", "i messed up", "i would have","had i known".**
It is the poison of human life and the parent of many sins. Where physical ailments have slain tens, anxiety has slain hundreds. Anxiety robs us off our joy, peace of mind, happiness replaces it with toxic ideas that can be suicidal. Anxiety comes with sadness, mood swings an terrible diseases, if not checked.
Nothing wastes the body like anxiety. It steals the bloom from the cheeks and lightness from the pulse.
It takes away the appetite and turns the hair grey. Anxiety gives a little problem a very big shadow. If you look at your life in retrospect, you will be surprised to find out that most of the things you were anxious about in the past years were the things that never really happened.
So all the time and energy spent on worrying were wasted and could have been used for something meaningful.
Getting anxious can never be of help to us. But we can overcome anxiety by casting all your cares on the one who lavishly feeds the birds and splendidly clothes the lilies(God). Cast all your burdens on him, he's available to carry them.
Most people suffer diseases that resulted from anxiety. They now depend on antidepressants and anxiolytics, to have a feel of happiness. To avoid this kind of life. Let's learn to turn every moment to a happy one, enjoy every moment like its the last.
Let's train our minds to be stronger than our feelings, that way we over come every depressive moment.
Instead of just sitting and pondering over that problem, why not channel that energy to things that make you happy. Call your mentor, listen to music, talk about it with a friend, take a walk, go swimming, go on a vacation. Pretend that the problem is not there and you will see it rolling away.
In every situation lets learn to choose happiness.
The law of timeliness
Young People today are impatient. Even instant gratification is no longer enough. Speed and execution are associated with value in people's minds. When you get a reputation for being the kind of person who gets the job done fast, responsibilities, opportunities, rewards will gravitate towards you like iron filling to a magnet.
The ability to act faster than anyone else can be your greatest asset.
Time is the currency of the 21st century. Your ability to set priorities and then to move fast and get it done quickly and well is the most value set of time management skills today.
Start a little earlier, work a little harder, and stay a little later
Do more
In life we have to go an extra mile to ascertain a certain goal in life. A little push is not enough, we have to learn to do more.
The world will be a better place, only if we strive to go extra in our various endeavours.
Do more than wish.... **Believe**["*Oh, i wish to be great in life, i wish to be an impact to my generation"* but this can't be a reality till i believe i can. Believe in you, your abilities, your life and everything you're capable of, and see them coming to reality. No body can do it(believing ) more than you. ]
Do more than dream.... **Actualize it.** [yes some dreams can be hard to actualize, but you have to push/try first to accomplish that dream. Dream big, let your dream be so big, if it doesn't scare you then it's not yet a dream. Dreaming is one, actualizing it is the next big thing.]
Do more than see.... **Perceive** [Discernment is looking beyond the physical. Build your discernment ability, to detect the good from the bad by just seeing. It goes a long way. ]
Do more than ponder.....**Pray**
Do more than exist..... **Live** [This is one phase of life most of us neglect, but this is the most important part of life we ought not to miss out in life. Existing is one thing, living is another. Utilizing every aspect of life is called living. Being a participant and not a spectator in life is what living entails. We all exist as human beings on earth, but what shows we are living, is the works we do on earth. What are you known for on earth, what is it that you do. If you can't place you hand on one then know you're just existing]
Do more than hear.... **Listen**
Do more than grow..... **Blossom,start glowing.**
Do more than spend..... **Invest**(Spending is so easy, but to what end. Invest on $1 it will yield you a $100)
Do more than think.... **Create**( Why stress ourselves to think when we can task ourselves to create. We become creative by materializing what we've thought in our hearts, and deem it fit to be of interest to others.
Do more than work... **Excel**
Do more than change.... **Evolve strategically**
Do more than advice... **Help**, be an encouragement to the needy, your friends, neighbors.
Do more than receive.....**Give**(Givers don't lack)
Do more than read..... **Study**
Do more than talk... **Communicate** (This is evident in our daily activities, our relationships, in our work place. Wherever we find ourselves communication is the key. Talking can't go where communication has been. Let's learn to communicate and not just to talk.)
Do more than forgive.... **Forget** (Sometimes we find it easy to forgive but yet we can never forget. Let's learn to forget, no matter how graven the offence might be)
Life is much more a better place when we try our very best. Lets live our best lives by doing more.
Remember if we do more of our **good**, it will become the **best**.
An Achiever or A Mediocre
There are two sets of people in the world.
The Achievers
The Mediocres
Everybody has the chance to choose where he or she should belong.
These two sets of people can live in the same physical and environmental conditions, receive same instructions, training and directives, but they will act differently because they have different mindsets. This will bring about difference in their opinions.
Achievers are positively oriented people, who believe not just in their dreams, but also believe that anything good can come out of them.
Mediocres are the opposite of achievers. They never believe in themselves and they always talk themselves down to failure.
Until we remove the word 'not' or ' i cannot ' from our heart and lips, then we ain't ready to be achievers.
A group of people questioned the Wright Brothers who were trying to invent a machine that would fly. To the amazement of everyone, the Wright brothers birthed their famous thought.
Until we are brainwashed from mediocrity, we ought to remain mentally miniature.
Let's learn to believe in something good and stand by it. Camping around possibility thinkers draws us closer to achieving great things.
There are killer companies, killer statements, negative actions and reactions to the things that make for success. Let's beware of them. Great and outstanding achievers are those who stand on the platform of success to bring down failures on their way. They do not give room to intimidation, rather they set their foundation on courage and good self-esteem.
The choice lies in our hands, i choose to be an achiever. I go after it, no matter what it takes, hoping to see the light at the end of the tunnel some day.
Call for help....... Friends My points has been static since today .what do i do?
Solitude
Having some quiet time is priceless. To do anything in life and become outstanding in life, you have to sacrifice your leisure time for seclusion. God does not meet people at the market place of life. You cannot be productive when life is overcrowded. Learn to separate yourself from the crowd. It is one of the powerful methods of personal development.
The future you do not nurture with time investment will rupture. Set time apart for secluded moments. Separate from unprofitable activities that can reduce your productivity and take value out of you. You will never make the most of your time in planning without staying apart.
Top security and military officers do not carry guns to confront opposition. Rather they create time to plan and develop strategies.
Staying apart from distractions are heart searchers and mind diggers. Until you incorporate this into your lifestyle, you may never see success in what you do in life.
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The Mind Factor
Your mind is one of the greatest gifts that God has given to you to execute your dreams. Without the use of your mind, your life is meaningless. No one can go far in life outside his mind. Do not limit the power of your mind. Whatever you can think, your are guaranteed to get.
People do not fail in life because of lack of ideas, finance and time, they fail for dormancy of the mind.
The mind is the tool for planning your future. Until you place demand on your mind for productivity you will never take delivery of your future.
The need for planning in every human endeavor cannot be over emphasized. You cannot achieve anything great without proper planning.
When there is no plan on ground, your dream will be grounded. Get on the drawing board of your mind and chart out a right course for your purpose in order to enhance your pursuit. The future is reserved for planners. If you do not have the map of your destination, you are going to suffer mishap (failure).
You will be great in life when you have a "valued mind". A mind that wants to add value to the world. There is a gap kept for you to fill. It is take time to wake up from slumber and fill that gap. It is time to impact your generation positively.
Task your mind and the answer you are looking for will show forth. Engage in thinking adventures and you will end the journey with unimaginable treasure.
Great thinkers are explorers. They know how to get the best out of their mind. Money and fame make no meaning to them because they know that in a short while they will be in command of great fortune.
Only thinkers who plan their world make impacts. No matter how big your dream may look. If you do not draw out plans of action, you are bound to suffer plagues.
Can you build an empire with an expired mind? Your mind must be actively working. Gather information's, draw out the facts and work on them to enhance your dream. A planner is 30% successful in every intended pursuit.
Only mind users become useful in the affairs of life. Great minds do not only conceive ideas, they also map out programmed plans for accomplishment. In order to plan successfully, there are certain things you need to put in place to enhance the process.
Just like your destiny is at the mercy of the mercy of your decision. Your future is determined by what you know. If your today will be better than your yesterday, the number one thing you need to do is to become a student of principle, right information or knowledge that creates the kind of future you want.
You may be a handicapped but not a mindicapped. The worst thing that can happen to anyone is mindicapped. When you are mindicapped you are doomed.
Prostate Cancer
Did you know that prostate cancer is the second cause of mortality in men after lung cancer. The risk factors include:
**Age**.... The older men are at a higher risk than the young men.
**Genetics**... Most families have relatives that have been affected by this disease. Those ones are at a higher risk of being affected by cancer.
**Race**.... The African-americans are more prone to this disease than any other race.
**Lifestyle**.... Smoking, high consumption of alcohol, food high in fat and red meat.
Prostate gland is a part of the male reproductive system. As little as it looks on might think its has no significance, but without this gland, so many things can go wrong.
The prostate is responsible for producing 30% of semen. It produces a slightly alkaline liquid that helps to neutralise the acidity of the vagina, and also helps to sustain the life span of the sperm in the vagina.
The prostate can be affected by so many infections
**Prostatitis**: Here bacteria inflames or irritates the gland. Well there are non bacterial causes. When this occurs, the person experiences fever signs, urinary tract difficulties. Prostatitis is treated by a large variety of modalities including antihistamines, anxiolytics, surgery, phytotherapy, physical therapy, nerve modulators.
**Benign Prostatic Hyperplasia**: Here, there's an enlargement of the prostate. It grows big and presses on the bladder, thereby constricting the flow of urine. The elderly men are mostly affected by this.
This BPH has same signs and symptoms of prostate cancer and often misdiagnosed as cancer.
Here there's hesistance in urination, difficulty in urination(dysuria), little or no urine(anuria).
Well this can be treated with the right medications(Tamosulosin), surgery and other invasive procedures.
**Prostate Cancer**: The big bang, can be very deadly when it isn't detected early.
Luckily for this generation, lycopene has been discovered to decrease metastatic capacity of prostate cancer. That's why cancer patients are fed with food like tomatoes high in lycopene.
Diagnosis(how do i know i have prostate cancer)
**DRE examination**.... The physician feels the prostate from the rectum. Once the prostate is hard or has a lump, then that's a sign that something is wrong .
**Prostate cancer imaging**... Alot of scans can like the MRI, bone scan,CT scan can be used to diagnose cancer.
**Test**... There are proteins that are produced by the prostate gland. These proteins when in over abundance indicates an abnormality with the prostate.
How do i fight prostate cancer(prevention)
Brisk walking
Avoid bad habits smoking and drinking.
Eat food high in lycopene, fruits and vegetables.
Regular sex can help tooo. Having a healthy sexual life.
Avoid tight clothing.
Sit while urinating to remove residual urine.
We preach against self medication. So the American Cancer Society advises men to go for screening tests, beginning at:
50 years for average risk men.
45 years for men at high risk Especially African-Americans with any of the relative diagnosed before 65years.
40 years for men with relatives that have been diagnosed of the disease at an early age.
There are ways to handle prostate cancer once you find out:
Medical treatment...involves use of medications, surgery and other procedures that are determined by the physician.
Non pharmacological treatment... This is done will going through the medical treatment. Which involves healthy diet, proper exercise, limiting smoking and drinking.
Cancer in general can be treated once detected early. Check the health status of your Prostate and make sure its healthy.
Clap Back or Stay Mute
In life we face conflicts, disagreements and sometimes our interests clash with that of others.
Conflicts are bound to happen in all stages of life. Especially with friends, colleagues, siblings even strangers.
*A mere stranger who barely knows you might just trigger your other side, by laying an insult on you.*
*In relationships, most times our beliefs and interest seems to clash, which unavoidably leads to conflict. There are situations where the man would be reduced to nothing, just because he felt it was a bad idea for his babe to take that job. But because we have mouths that can talk, the lady will in turn make statements that will put him off.*
*Your colleague at work feels he's 100% better than you, so as much you try, you end up being his ridicule . He throws sarcastic jokes at you, just because you found yourself under the same roof with him.*
These are the issues in life. We've all been insulted in places where we do not expect, and even from persons we held in high esteem.
At that moment, what seems to be your response?
Do you just stay calm and let the barking dog bark, or you boldly give them clap backs.
Clap backs are sharp responses to offensive or negative words or attitude. It might not necessarily be an insult thrown right back to the person portraying the negativity. It may just be words that suite the situation. Not everyone has the threshold to tolerate bad vibes. *I literally have zero tolerance.*
People spread bad vibes and how you respond to it matters a lot.
Its best you choose the response that stands like a seal that will stand the test of time on whoever that spreads the negativity.
Be it calmness or responses in words, make sure it counts.
Sitting calm or staying mute, I must say can't be very reliable but it works for most people especially the Phlegmatics and melancholics.
What if am a Sanguine or any other temperament and i attach emotions to things, of which i can't deal with. I end up responding with a clap back. I'll pour it all out because i can't take the madness displayed in front of me
Now there are certain persons in life that has been marked off as bullies in this life. What they live for is to torment others and they derive maximum joy from it. They do it often because they are so insecure about their own life, but in a way to cover up the become bullies. I am not talking about children bullies(that's a talk for another day), i am talking about life(adult) bullies. Yes they exist.
They are bent on making life miserable for others, they are everywhere at every given time. Just there to spread bad vibes.
Never let any one treat you like you're worthless, be it in words(insults) or actions (bad vibes).
Yes they are bullies on the outside but scared little puppies on the inside.
Let your response be epic, not to harm the other fellow but to prove a point that we are all humans, and what you give is what you receive.
Let's learn to appreciate others, do not be a bully to anyone. Because at the end of the day life's too small, and its a small world. Remember what goes around comes back around.
Bless Up People!!!!!!
@Essy
