Feelings about trust

28th of July, 2022

Let me get started by defining trust in a practical aspect;

• When we take a seat on a comfortable chair, there's a moment where we stop supporting our weight and we allow ourselves to be rest assured and fall free when seating on the chair. At that moment, we are in absolute trust that the chair will catch and hold us, and what we are feeling presently is peace.

Imagine if we were to seat on a chair that we mistrust, we would probably hold onto the arms of the chair and slowly sit down on it and slowly sit down on it. And after sitting, we would stay ready to support support our weight just in case it collapsed. It would probably take us time to finally result the chair. But once we did, we would stop worrying about it and we would be at peace with it.

So, trust is the feeling of peace.

It's so prevalent in our lives that most of us have convinced ourselves that it's hard for us to trust when in reality we trust all the time. We have trust that the phone we're carrying isn't going to catch on fire or the building we enter isn't going to collapse. If we're lucky enough to live in a modem city, we would trust that when we turn on the lights, they will turn on or that we will have running hot and cold waters in our homes.

• When we go for a drive, we trust the car we are driving, all the other cars, drivers we're driving with and the roads that we are driving on. But, if we see a car behaving strangely, we pay attention to that car because we mistrust it at that moment. That feeling of mistrust will be so strong that we will remember the one car we mistrusted and forget about all the other thousand of cars that we did trust.

• Also, like a single black dot on a white background paper sheet, the contrast will be so great that the dot is gonna the "subject of the formula" i.e we pay close attention to the black dot. It's the contrast that will make us believe our feelings of mistrust are so strong, even if it might only be equivalent to a small black dot.

Yeah, it's so common and normal for us to trust when something causes us to mistrust. It can be traumatizing at times. This contrast can mislead us into believing that the feeling of trust must be equally as powerful as the feelings of mistrust, and since when we can't feel the power of trust, we conclude that it's because we can't trust or find it difficult to trust. But this isn't to discount our feelings of mistrust, we might have very valid reasons why we do that, but to believe we can't trust or find it difficult to trust isn't true. More importantly, the only way to resolve our feelings of mistrust is through trust because without it, we can never be at peace.

Trust is a powerful constant attribute in our lives and we shouldn't artificially disconnect from it. It allows us to admire the sunset, trusting that another day will come and sleep at night, trusting that we will wake up the next day.

Conclusion;

• Trust is the feeling of peace and by acknowledging it and allowing ourselves to feel it, we can learn to expand and cultivate it as an habit.

Let me pause for a while. Trust we learnt something new today from the little piece of article of mine. Don't forget to share to others too.

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