Of all things that make a man happy, I think seeing a newborn baby, and knowing that they are your offspring, tops the list of the most exciting thing. A child is conceived in the womb and that begins a journey of uncertainties.
The fear of the unknown and the curiosities. A fear championed by culture and traditional believes or too much religiosity.
A belief that there are spirits that cause stillbirths, miscarriages, or false pregnancy alarms.
Scientists say two of the most intense pain comes from being burnt alive and the pain of childbirth.
Your threshold for pain has to be hundred percent not to wish death on yourself if you find yourself in either of the two scenarios.
One thing we always leave out, however, is the role of the man when his wife is pregnant.
Men look tough, act tough, but deep down, some men wish they were the ones carrying the pregnancy. Some men love their wives too much, they cannot even imagine them going through such pain.
The thoughts of what their wife goes through during labor scare them to death. They are restless almost half the time.
Today I was in the company of a man whose wife just put to birth fit the first time. He was so happy, I couldn't understand myself.
It was when I sat and thought about it deeply that I concluded that, it may be the woman carrying the child, but mentally it's the man who bears the burden, the thoughts, and fears.
The man is also in labor and pains when the wife is pregnant.
They are constantly bothered.
They are constantly afraid.
Then the baby comes.
Babies are bundles of joy.
No matter the circumstances surrounding the birth of a child. It's like when mother hen batches, they are very protective of their chicks and very vigilant.
That's exactly how men are.
The joy comes from the kid defying the odds and cheating on every uncertainty to be alive.
It is this joy that seals the love of the father for a child.
Watching them grow from the fetus stage to a full-blown human.
This is not comparing a woman's pain to that of the man though, I'm just saying that the role of the man is most of the time downplayed.
Men have feelings.
They hurt too.
Imagine the husband thinking about losing the wife or the baby, and boom, they both come out of the hospital without as much a headache.
A man I know once expressed himself about the fears he had when he was told that his wife would go through the cesarean method of delivery, according to him, he had never been that scared in his lifetime.
He could not eat for days or do anything meaningful.
When a woman is pregnant, she shares the burden of her pregnancy with her husband.
You can say they are both pregnant.
Respect women.
Especially those who have traveled that road.
They are strong people.
Extend the respect to men, they are stronger people.
I agree with this. Men also get hurt everytime they see their wives suffering from pregnancy and labor.