My thoughts on what a Relationship should be

Being in a relationship is a necessity to human survival. There are times we have mood swings, times we are hurt and we need a bucket to cry our hearts out, times we need to be loved, times we want to discuss at length, times we need romantic texts and cuddles, times we just need to know that someone cares about us, times we feel insecure. These times can only be comforted with an opposite sex. No matter how close one might be with same sex, the need for an opposite sex cannot be underestimated.

Now talking about relationships, a relationship cannot work without the efforts of the partners involved. There aren't assigned roles in a relationship. There are some of us that are extremely shy to even cuddle our girlfriends, we are so shy to appreciate their beauty and pulchritude. Our girlfriends would wait hoping that someday we will eventually kiss them, hug them, appreciate them, and so on but it won't happen. You know why?. It's because being in a relationship in my part of the world, a guy is always expected to make the first move. He must be the first to ask the girl out even when she's crazily in love with him, he must be the first to call everyday, he must be the first to text or chat up, he must be the first to make every romantic move. Yet, we call it a relationship. There is nothing bad if the girl does all this thing first. You have feelings for me? Sis 🤷 just make it known to me so you won't waste your time thinking I feel the same for you. I didn't call you and you are feeling bad🤷, then why is it called a relationship?

First of all, I want you to know that being in a relationship is not a sole responsibility. It's a joint one, and that's why those in a relationship refer to themselves as partners. If you notice a flaw or weakness in your partner, make sure you help them in every possible way to overcome it. I'm not saying you should go overboard and make unnecessary mistakes but try to help your partner improve in every aspect they are lagging.

One thing I was made to realize is that, whatever personality or character we want in our partners only exists in our head. The mental picture of the traits you want in a boy/girl only exists in your head. Whatever picture you have in your head doesn't exist in real life, it's just an illusion but it can be created when you start to help your partner develop into what you have in your head. You might want a romantic boyfriend and unfortunately your partner isn't romantic, nothing stops you from helping him to be romantic.

Many people also believes it's the man that is supposed to fend for the family all the time and it's the woman that should be in the kitchen , in this 21st century? I always ask in my mind whenever I hear it anywhere, it's a wrong ideology to me. My personal view of what can make a good relationship is the joint effort put in place by both parties financially , I personally can be comfortable with a girl who don't know how to cook but has an headstart ( a skill that can assist in earning) and has a humble spirit once she has this two attribute she is good to go, you see the aspect of the cooking or any other thing i can teach her, there is a saying that says Rome wasn't built in a day and no one is perfect.

Instead of breaking up on the grounds that he/she is not my type, he/she is not smart, romantic, mature, and every other excuses we give, let's try to help each other develop. No one is perfect. As humans, we are not born with equal potentials. So let's try to make our partners benefit from our potentials.

Give a thought on this short piece my readers, the comment section is free to air your own view. Thanks love you all

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