One would wonder what marrying a feminist especially in Africa could feel and sound like, here is a story of what happened to Musa, my very good friend.
So this senior friend of mine (Musa) who always had this "confused" notion about feminist (i don't blame him, some Nigerian feminist are just crazy especially those who claim to be Feminist only "online"), swore he would never marry one. He always claims that he does not have the strength to tussle about irrelevant stuffs. One day he fell in love with this beautiful girl, unfortunately, Feminist isn't written on anyone's face.
He has a great IQ but one thing about smart people is that they always have a deficiency. He is bad with remembering dates and names.
I, Musa and his new found love became close as their union bliss from grace to grace.
So one day, she calls him up to come over to her place. So he comes over to meet a well cleaned house (in his voice), soft music, some candles and a sexy well dressed diva waiting on him. Immediately he knew he was forgetting something and it was written all over his face.
She smiles at him and says "its our anniversary dummy"
"Uhmm, am so sorry, it skipped my mind, work and..."
"Shh... I understand"
Well she refused to cook, she believed in cooking together, so after cooking and serving meal together, which he did to atone for his sins (crazy sexy right???), she brings out this gift box and gives it to him with a lovely speech and a i love you note by the side...
He comes back home eager to open the box, i was with him in his apartment, he opens it and sees a PS5 box and he've always been singing about how he wanted to buy it. There was a note inside the box which reads "be prepared, bae is about to beat the hell out of boo is this game"... wow, instantly we both shed a tear for the moment!!!
Then it dawned on us that he was in love with his greatest fear, a feminist and he so damn enjoyed it. He knew there was nothing he could get for her that she couldn't get for herself except well... the next week he proposed in his house after she flogged him 5-2 in a football game. Epic romance i called it...
See it takes very little to mesmerize a guy, we are cheap. Guys don't mind spending on bae but the little thing you do, that's what counts to him. He may earn 110times more than you but guys can hardly take care of them selves. Check his tie, his shoes, worn out belts, torn socks, get him new ones. These are the things that matter. You must not wait for him to take you out on your birthday, take him out.... nawa oh, your are a feminist remember.
I jokingly brought up the topic about "head of family today", she answered smiling " God has answered the question already, any christain feminist that has a problem with that should go and argue with God" "only in marriage oh" she added smiling.
Damn! We both said
Maybe marrying a feminist especially for an African could be answers to our prayers.
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